What a great question.
I have 3 Fathers.
1. Biological Father: he is a bad, bad man and I hope to never hear from him again, but I can't help feel sorry for him, and the child trapped inside of me stil wants to please him. ( can u say, Chris has issues with disappointment? LOL)
2. Stepdad Mark: off topic but its funny, I call my parents "Mom and Mark"...my one DD calls her parents "Mom and Mark".
Mark is 46, 8yrs younger than my mom. He came into my life when I was just young, I think 7 or so, he was only in his early 20's then. One heck of a guy, for standing by my mom and helping support my brother and me.
He is a very hard worker, and a great man. Unfortunately he had an alcohol prob when I was younger....and would often take us for car rides when he was drunk. (he's part of the reason I am a strong advocate against drinking and driving). I was put in hospital when I was just shy of 14, so I really didn't have a lot to do with him. He would work, drink, and as I got older, we'd fight alot.
When I moved out of institutions, and on my own.... then pregnant and had my daughter when I was 19, Mark was 33ish.... He was amazing, and truly the father I never had. He quit drinking so much, and was an amazing support. There's nothing he wouldn't do for me, or any of us kids. He is truly one of my daddy's.
3. My father in law
I was blessed to meet him when I was 23. But didn't get to know him well untill 5 or 6yrs ago. It was an instant father/daughter relationship
He never had a daughter, and was fairly unemotional. A very very hard worker, aside from his job (factory manager) he also did crop farming. I have never once heard him whine about the amount of work he did. He retired a couple years ago, and ended up working part time for a family member LOL... He has problems not working. This year they decided to rent out the farmland, so they could actually relax, go places, etc.
He has a very stern demeanor, but a softer heart now
(having a daughter like me can soften anyones heart, because of how emotional I am). I can count on one hand, the number of times he's cried. #1 was the first time I gave him a Father's Day card (I wrote in it too), and #2 was at my wedding when he was dancing with me.
He is the ONLY person that can get this response from me: preparing for my wedding, I was taking a load to the reception hall which included a wooden wishing well my brother made. (this was after I had injured my back) I got into the back of the truck to move things closer to the tailgate for others to lift off. He had come out just as I had bent over the wishing well. He didn't yell, but said firmly "Chris"... I looked up with that deer in the headlights look and stuttered, all he did was point to the ground. I got outta the truck and stood on the ground. No arguing, no feeling bad, just instant obedience. Noone in my life, not authority figures (police, social workers, etc) or family members, have ever had that. All of them, I'd argue with. But when dad has that tone in his voice, I listen. (he made an awesome manager.... he is not someone you want to argue with..... not because he'd hurt you or anything, cuz he'd never do any physical harm... he just has THAT look)