Originally Posted by Enuja
All of that said, as you've admitted, it looks like the current problem is mostly with the boyfriend (obnoxious bosses can be annoying, but rarely effect our inner view of ourselves). It seems like maybe you should write a letter to him explaining exactly how his treatment of you with respect to vegan food and your animal advocacy makes him feel. Maybe that will be enough of a wake-up call that he will learn to treat your choices as legitimate.
Unfortunately, the one time I wrote him a letter about something that I dealt with as a child, only made him think about why he is the way he is, and not at all about my plight. I think another letter would end the same way.
Originally Posted by strange_wings
I don't know how you put up with that. That's nothing to do with you being vegan, it's just a cheap shot for her to be childish and mean. I would have been fired after the third time she did that for asking if she was still doing the "b---- thing".
You two do have some issues.
But most couples do, it would be very strange if there weren't any. The sad thing is, it sounds like some of the stuff he does is just simply him being a guy and maybe due to how he was raised. I have no idea if there's any sort of "fix" for that... Stick to that common ground as much as you can and maybe get couples consoling if you truly feel the relationship is worth it and in need of that.
You sound like a very sensitive caring person, I'm sorry you have to put up with peoples comments about being vegan.
Sad fact is, I think PETA nuts may have colored some peoples view about vegans.
We all have things we feel strongly about. I know people are sick of me harping on them to get their pets to the vet for regular checkups or to even get themselves to the doctor (I won't give up on my MIL, she has high blood pressure).
You don't know how bad I want to say something like that to her!
Yes, and his mother admits to it AND apologizes to me for having to deal with him, he was spoiled rotten as a child and now wants, wants, wants...I am hoping he'll grow up soon? lol
I feel that PETA has a lot of good points, and their website has helped me along in my transition, however I do feel that they go too far with some things such as releasing lab animals (like monkeys!)out into the city and trying to pass laws against pet ownership, etc. I am not a member, nor will I be. I also feel that they do what I hope not to do, and angrily preach what I am trying to gently make clear.
Originally Posted by CarolPetunia
I understand so well how you feel! But fundamental change is difficult, both at a societal level and for each individual. People evolve at different rates, and some of those we love most will always be on a different page in their development... so we have to be able to accept a reasonable range of personal enlightenment, or we'll exclude a lot of good people from our lives.
I have heard this recently and it rings true. I tried being a vegetarian about 10 years ago, and it didn't work out, mainly because I was ill equipped in the knowledge department, and maybe too young and less motivated, I don't really know the reasons. But I am going to try like heck to keep it in my head "shining example, shining example.."
My mom gave me a great idea for the wasted food. I have an uncle who does not have much money and is disabled. My mom takes him all her leftovers, so ours will go to him, as well. This makes me feel so much better, in that regard.
Today he asked what I was having for dinner, and I said whatever you're making me. He said what do you want? I said I'm sure you'll do a good job at thinking of something. He made me home made potato chips and a bowl of canned beets. LMAO
It's a start, anyway.