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post #1 of 29
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I am going on a business trip in two weeks. Usually my trips, like most business trips, you sit at a table and discuss things. Well, this one is different. I will be on my feet for 8 hours straight. My problem? I love my heels. I usually wear 4-5 inch stiletto shoes. I don’t like that I deal with all these tall men and I am only 5 foot 2, my heels make me feel more empowered.

Anyway, my question… what am I going to do for 8 hours on my feet in heels!! I understand that there are comfortable high-heeled shoes… I just don’t own any! So please help me and let me know what style of shoes would be comfortable? I need to wear the shoes in a business suit so they need to look nice.

I’m not sure if a designer or make would be good since I live in a smaller town and shopping here isn’t that great. So maybe a description? Like I heard a wider heel at the top adds more support for your feet?

Thanks all! I’m really nervous about this… I don’t want to hurt all day.
post #2 of 29
As I've gotten older I've had to give up my beloved stilettos. I also am short at 5' 2" like you. I've found I can still get the height I love by wearing platform type shoes. They are much easier on my feet since they don't keep the foot bent at such an angle but can be very flattering. At this old age of mine, the one thing I have left are my good legs which were always my best feature so I refuse to give up that last good thing.
post #3 of 29
I know how you feel since I'm 5'4" and have been working with men all my life (I'm in engineering). But I have the wimpiest feet so I couldn't even think of wearing high heels unless I was going to be sitting. And foot surgery ten years ago put an end even to that!
I'm going to be a wet blanket and say to think about your poor feet! If you're not used to standing all day, standing in heels is going to have your feet hurting all night!
If you really want comfy shoes there are those high tech Cole Haan shoes but they are crazy expensive, like $300 a pair!
post #4 of 29
I was going to suggest platforms as well. They look like high heels without feeling like them. Only thing is, you need to practice walking in them before trying to wear them for 8 hours straight. I remember the platform shoes from the 60's-70's, and it's not as easy as you might expect. Think learning to walk on stilts.
post #5 of 29
Every few months I have to travel to handle logistics for a business meeting. Because I'm in charge of everything I'm typically on my feet for the better part of 14-15 hours a day. (I'm not exaggerating here...usually 6 am to 9 or 10 pm.) They're professional business meetings, so we have to dress up.

I couldn't live at these meetings without my Aerosoles pumps. I have a pair of black pumps with 2-1/2" heels. Sure, they're not high stilletos, but it's enough of a heel to look nice without killing my feet. I paid full price for them at $90 and they were worth every penny. They also go with everything. (I like the platforms idea, too, though. The right pair would also go with everything.)

A couple of tips (learned the hard way)...

Buy your shoes NOW and wear them to the office or someplace else all day at least once before your trip. Sometimes shoes that seem comfortable when you try them on turn out to be uncomfortable after several hours. The last thing you want is to be trapped at a meeting with only your new, uncomfortable shoes to wear.

Also, if your meeting is more than a couple days, bring at least TWO pairs of shoes with different heel heights. The shoes that are comfortable enough to get you through day one tend to get uncomfortable after day three. (This from the woman who once decided to just pack one pair of my most comfortable dress shoes for a seven-day meeting to cut down on luggage. My feet were killing me after day three and I still had four to go...)

Good luck!
post #6 of 29
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Originally Posted by silvionc View Post
my heels make me feel more empowered.
Empowerment comes from the inside, not from a pair of shoes.

My advice to you is to go for comfort and wear a comfy pair of flats.

I gave up on vanity ages ago. My foot health and back health are way more important than gaining an inch or two of false height.
post #7 of 29
it if helps, i have showen up to business meeting in sandles lol
however i dont know anything about wearing high heels
post #8 of 29
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Originally Posted by Tari View Post

...I couldn't live at these meetings without my Aerosoles pumps.
I tend to buy Aerosoles, too, for dressy occasions. The last pair I bought are three inch heels but they feel great and don't hurt my feet one bit! I wore them to a wedding this summer and I ended up taking off my nylons (it was hot) and going barelegged and wearing the shoes like that and didn't even get a blister. And my husband and I danced, too, it was a six-hour reception.

There are also insoles you can add to your high heels so your feet don't slide down. Those sound like they'd help but I never tried them.

Hope you figure something out.
post #9 of 29
I know Cole-Haan mades heels using Nike Air technology. I have a pair of their flats with this and they are pricey but comfy.
I bought a pair of 3 1/2 stilettos last week and wore to a wedding where I did alot of standing and after about 90 minutes the balls of my feet were having a burning sensation-eek!! So I had to find a chair and sit down. It helps to find a peep toe style as that will relieve some pressure.
post #10 of 29
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Originally Posted by silvionc View Post
I am going on a business trip in two weeks. Usually my trips, like most business trips, you sit at a table and discuss things. Well, this one is different. I will be on my feet for 8 hours straight. My problem? I love my heels. I usually wear 4-5 inch stiletto shoes. I don’t like that I deal with all these tall men and I am only 5 foot 2, my heels make me feel more empowered.

Anyway, my question… what am I going to do for 8 hours on my feet in heels!! I understand that there are comfortable high-heeled shoes… I just don’t own any! So please help me and let me know what style of shoes would be comfortable? I need to wear the shoes in a business suit so they need to look nice.

I’m not sure if a designer or make would be good since I live in a smaller town and shopping here isn’t that great. So maybe a description? Like I heard a wider heel at the top adds more support for your feet?

Thanks all! I’m really nervous about this… I don’t want to hurt all day.
I love heels. I am 5'3" and I have always worn heels. If you normally wear heels to business, then you need to wear them for this trip.

Some questions. Will be on your feet for 8 hours because you are manning a professional booth at a conference? If so, there is probably a skirted table in front of your feet and the public. The floors may be concrete with no rugs. One of my professional jobs was in product marketing so I am well acquainted with standing on concrete floors for hours.

If this is the case, I would suggest that you have a carpet that you can stand on behind that table. If the facility cannot provide one, bring/buy your own with duct tape.

Bring along comfy socks and put them on during slow times.

Walk around. Walk whenever and wherever you can. When you actually move, you feet start working and you start forgetting that you have feet. If you walk around, you are also not staring at the same thing.

My advice for shoes:

IMO, Stilettos are not really for business unless you are in the fashion/entertainment industry. Read on, anyway

Do not wear platforms. They do not look professional. They may also not be as comfortable as other shoes.

Wear classic pumps. These are the ones that have just 2 1/2" heels and are just plain. You can get them in any color but a silver or gold pair (or whatever the names for these colors are) are great because either will go with any suit. Liz Claiborne, Easy Spirit, etc. do make comfortable pumps and they are usually reasonably priced.

Definitely, wear them before you go. This means putting them on when you leave your office so that they hit pavement. Do not take them off until you go to bed.

Practice holding (tilting) your head a bit higher to compensate for the height difference between your pumps and stilettos. The goal is to make your eyes meet with the eyes of your colleagues at that comfortable spot.

Good luck!
post #11 of 29
These are really comfortable and classy pumps

http://www.shopping.com/xPC-Steve-Ma...-s-Reilly-Pump

They come in a variety of colors, the black ones are quite dressy the tan and cream or grey/multi a little more business casual.
post #12 of 29
well, Crocs is now making a 'high heel' line... i wouldn't wear them, but not because of looks. you might look & see if any of them would work for you: Crocs heels
post #13 of 29
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Originally Posted by butzie View Post
Do not wear platforms. They do not look professional. They may also not be as comfortable as other shoes.
I'm going to have to disagree with you on this one Butzie. I have some pretty sexy looking platform sandals and open toed shoes.
post #14 of 29
This may sound crazy, but if you have a bridal shop in your town, ask them if they can recommend a brand or type. I hate wearing high heels but I did for my wedding and they were the most comfortable pair of heels I ever had! They had extra cushioning for the heels and the balls of the feet and were ment for standing for long periods. I got mine at Alfred Angelos but I don't kow if they were a brand made only for them or not (I can't even check because the cats destroyed them while we were on the honeymoon. ). I know you don't want dye-able shoes, but they may have a line that isn't satin, or may be able to recommend a brand similar from another store.
post #15 of 29
I have a similar problem in that I now have a job which means being on me feet all day, plus I have to walk to and from work. I'm barely 5ft tall so really need a bit of height from my shoes but the heels I was wearing (that had previously been comfy) were agony after a day of standing and walking. I finally found a solution with a pair of dr martens wedge heels. They are incredibly comfortable. A wedge supports your feet in a way that a stiletto heel can't. Go for a broad heel or wedge, and a thick (preferably air cushioned) sole.
post #16 of 29
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
Empowerment comes from the inside, not from a pair of shoes.

My advice to you is to go for comfort and wear a comfy pair of flats.

I gave up on vanity ages ago. My foot health and back health are way more important than gaining an inch or two of false height.
I have to agree with Natalie I'm 5ft and I have never worn high heel except to a dance and then I just took them off. I work in the military so I can't wear high heels even if I wanted to, but I've never had a problem with feeling empowered I even intimidate a few ppls much taller then me. IMHP you should think about a pair of comfy flats and save your feet.
post #17 of 29
Dr Scholl's has a line of very comfortable, and good looking shoes.
Aerosoles are also built for comfort.
I'm a fan of a brand called Seychelles, their shoes very comfortable compared to most others, although some of their styles look a bit weird.
And just overall a wedge heel will always be more comfortable than a regular heel. As far as regular heels go; the thicker it is, the more comfortable it's going to be.
post #18 of 29
I don't know if you're wearing suits with pants or skirts, but if it's pants, Dansko clogs are the way to go. I job I had a couple of years ago had an annual convention and we'd be on our feet all day. Unless it was one of the evening, dressier events, I'd wear a suit with pants and my Danskos. They do give you a little height (I'm 5'4"). They're not particularly cute or anything (though you can get them in cute colors), but they kinda blend into any outfit and they're so comfortable.

Actually, I was trying to find the pair I have on Zappos.com (these are the ones I have) and it looks like they do make all sorts of other styles! I'm sure they're also designed to be comfortable, too, so I'd highly recommend them!

They're a little expensive, but worth every cent!
post #19 of 29
Thread Starter 
Thanks all! I am going to go and check out shoes today. You guys all had very good ideas! The problem is I don’t have much of a choice. My town doesn’t have too many places to shop. I am pretty open to all types of shoes. I mentioned stilettos just because they are my current shoes of choice. I have been wearing mostly knee length skirts and I like the look of a high, stiletto boot with them. All my other pair of shoes are mostly pumps… but still …. Like 4-5 inches.

I am thinking of going for wedged heel. Most of my summer sandals are wedged heel (again, very high) but I can run a marathon in those LOL. Totally forgot how comfy those are. Ill get a lower heel, I honestly don’t care not what they look like now as I will be wearing pants. Right now I just want a high heeled, black, dressy looking enough for business wear.

I don’t think I will stop wearing heels. I love my heels. I have never felt uncomfortable, or had my feet hurt before. I’m just concerned that being on my feet for so long will be too much.

Thanks for the advice guys, you guys are the best!
post #20 of 29
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Originally Posted by silvionc View Post
Thanks all! I am going to go and check out shoes today. You guys all had very good ideas! The problem is I don’t have much of a choice. My town doesn’t have too many places to shop. I am pretty open to all types of shoes. I mentioned stilettos just because they are my current shoes of choice. I have been wearing mostly knee length skirts and I like the look of a high, stiletto boot with them. All my other pair of shoes are mostly pumps… but still …. Like 4-5 inches.

I am thinking of going for wedged heel. Most of my summer sandals are wedged heel (again, very high) but I can run a marathon in those LOL. Totally forgot how comfy those are. Ill get a lower heel, I honestly don’t care not what they look like now as I will be wearing pants. Right now I just want a high heeled, black, dressy looking enough for business wear.

I don’t think I will stop wearing heels. I love my heels. I have never felt uncomfortable, or had my feet hurt before. I’m just concerned that being on my feet for so long will be too much.

Thanks for the advice guys, you guys are the best!
Sounds like you have it well in hand. I agree with you, I've always worn heels and honestly if I wear low shoes for very long my calves start to hurt. Like you I can run easily in high heels so it's not problem.

I don't wear them for any kind of self-esteem problem, I just like the way they make a woman's leg look good.
post #21 of 29
Thread Starter 
My legs feel weird in a flat shoe as well. I find when I walk Bruno, or walk the SPCA dogs when I volunteer I need to stretch my legs a bit to get used to them being flat (I wear runners when walking). Maybe because we have been wearing heels for so long it’s the same discomfort as someone wearing heels who are not used to them?

I don’t wear them for self esteem issues. I’m pretty confident that I can equal up to any man (or woman) I work with, with or without heels. But there is always that certain… cant think of a name for it… I like to be totally presentable, to me heels are just part of the whole outfit of me. Just like how I do my make up or hair, it all makes me who I am as a person. If I am without one part I can get a little bit uncomfortable. I think everyone is that way. Everyone has there own “thing†I guess.
post #22 of 29
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Originally Posted by silvionc View Post
My legs feel weird in a flat shoe as well. I find when I walk Bruno, or walk the SPCA dogs when I volunteer I need to stretch my legs a bit to get used to them being flat (I wear runners when walking). Maybe because we have been wearing heels for so long it’s the same discomfort as someone wearing heels who are not used to them?

I don’t wear them for self esteem issues. I’m pretty confident that I can equal up to any man (or woman) I work with, with or without heels. But there is always that certain… cant think of a name for it… I like to be totally presentable, to me heels are just part of the whole outfit of me. Just like how I do my make up or hair, it all makes me who I am as a person. If I am without one part I can get a little bit uncomfortable. I think everyone is that way. Everyone has there own “thing†I guess.
Me too. I just don't feel "dressed up" without heels. I could be wearing a $1,000 Dior suit but if I had on flat shoes I would feel dowdy. I guess it's all what we get used to.
post #23 of 29
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Originally Posted by SwampWitch View Post
There are also insoles you can add to your high heels so your feet don't slide down. Those sound like they'd help but I never tried them.
I've tried those, but they never work for me. They end up feeling like I've got an uncomforatable wad in my shoe, and my feet slide around anyway. Out of curiosity, do they work for anyone here? Is there a trick to them? Is one brand better than others?
post #24 of 29
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Originally Posted by Tari View Post
I've tried those, but they never work for me. They end up feeling like I've got an uncomforatable wad in my shoe, and my feet slide around anyway. Out of curiosity, do they work for anyone here? Is there a trick to them? Is one brand better than others?
I've tried them and find them uncomfortable as well. I tried on a pair of shoes one day and told the sales person there was something sticking up in one of them. Apparently it was a small seam. He told me I must have very sensitive soles which I know is true as I have always had to be careful when buying shoes that they don't hurt the bottom of my foot.
post #25 of 29
I do not know about heels .. I wear a girls 2-3 and no it is not = to a 5 ... I use the new dr shools (sp) dress ones are great
post #26 of 29
Jen, I don't think I've ever seen feet that tiny! My husband wears a 14 EEE and our daughter wears a ladies 12 or 13 depending on the shoe.
post #27 of 29
Oh, sister, I feel your pain! I am 5ft, and feel like a dwarf around everyone, not just men!

I don*t have much trouble handling high heels all day; I *m just used to them--since I was 10! However, I must admit that a high, but thicker, heel feels a lot more comfy all day. Just a plain pump-style dress shoe, with a chunkier high heel. Wedges are also very comfy, but perhaps not the best style on a shorter leg (you lose that lengthening look of a high heel).
post #28 of 29
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Originally Posted by sharky View Post
I do not know about heels .. I wear a girls 2-3 and no it is not = to a 5 ... I use the new dr shools (sp) dress ones are great

Me, too. And I get funny looks from little girls when I am trying on kids* shoes.

I didn*t know they had Dr. Scholl*s DRESS shoes! I only know about the sandals.
post #29 of 29
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Originally Posted by silvionc View Post
Maybe because we have been wearing heels for so long it’s the same discomfort as someone wearing heels who are not used to them?
that's because constant wearing of high heels shortens the back calf tendons/muscles.
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If you wear very high heels, you should know that can cause the calf muscles and Achilles tendons to become permanently shortened.
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