I have spoken to my Mom probably about 7-10 times today and the day is not over, so we will talk more. Thats the daily routine. I feel very blessed.
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Thank you for sharing the pictures of your family. They look like so much fun, especially your mom. I LOVE the biker pics...just trying to picture my parents on a motorcycle makes me laugh! She must have been an extraordinary woman, and I have a feeling her daughter takes after her.
My mom passed 4 years ago, but I still talk to her every day. We just don't use the phone anymore.
My mom passed 4 years ago, but I still talk to her every day. We just don't use the phone anymore.
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thank you guys. I am glad that so many people do have great relationships with their moms. My mom was a lot of fun.
Our electricity went out after I put up the second link. There are other pics there if you wanted to see. I have pictures of the kittens, and my kitties
You all be safe, and have a lot of fun.
Our electricity went out after I put up the second link. There are other pics there if you wanted to see. I have pictures of the kittens, and my kitties
You all be safe, and have a lot of fun.
Must be nice.
I'm always amazed when I hear about people's loving moms... I cry when I read mothers' day cards in the store... are there really mothers like that? For real? I believe I missed out on something really special.
I'm always amazed when I hear about people's loving moms... I cry when I read mothers' day cards in the store... are there really mothers like that? For real? I believe I missed out on something really special.
My mom has gotten alot better over the past years. She had her moments when we were growing up though. Pretty bad ones that I don't care to have memories of.
I do love her and would miss her dearly if she was gone. We talk almost every day..and sometimes a couple of times.
I do love her and would miss her dearly if she was gone. We talk almost every day..and sometimes a couple of times.
I got my mum a card for her birthday and on the front it says , do you know how much i love you mum? and then when you open it theres a bear holding his pop up arms as far as they will go lmfao
its great and she loved it!
Jess x
Jess x
I live with my Mom. She's 87 years old now and and hard of hearing and doesn't see well at all. I'm ashamed to admit it but I sometimes get impatient and short tempered with her when she wants my help. But I guess having her still here is better than the alternative.
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Your mom sounds a lot like mine. She was the middle child of 8 kids and was the smartest in school out of all of them. My mom was the eternal peacekeeper and all my cousins said she was their favorite aunt. My mom was always optomistic, stood up for what she believed in and never gave up. She was loved by so many. I am blessed to have her as my mom and I wouldn't trade her for the world. Although, now I find myself lost at times without her around to ask for advice. I just try to think of what she would do.
My mom was meant to be a mom - she was a natural. I found a Mother's Day card this year at work in the gift shop and I cried because it described her to a T and she will never get to read it.
What a nice tribute to your mom!
I love my Mom, but we are not close at all. I have been nothing but a disapointment to her and she will tell me everytime we talk. She just makes me feel like my older sister is just perfect and I am just a waist of space. She has just been really emotionaly abusive over the years and we never understood each other. I did call to her today because I read this post
I hadnt taked to her in like 3 weeks. I felt like it was a sign that I should call home. She put in her 2weeks notice at her job so I cought her in a good mood. She asked me if I needed anything before she looses her discount (which just totally shocked me) and I was like sure I can think of a few things! She works at a deparment store. So I told her what we could use and she was like well I don't have a way to get any of that to you sorry.
At least she asked right? Things are getting better between us, it is just hard right now. When I told her I was pregnant it just put a bigger hole in are relationship. I know once the baby is here things will be better. Who does not love babies?
I like hearing that people have loving moms! It is good to know that not everyone has to put up with what I do!
I like hearing that people have loving moms! It is good to know that not everyone has to put up with what I do!
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Your message choked me up!Originally Posted by Duchess15
Your mom sounds a lot like mine. She was the middle child of 8 kids and was the smartest in school out of all of them. My mom was the eternal peacekeeper and all my cousins said she was their favorite aunt. My mom was always optomistic, stood up for what she believed in and never gave up. She was loved by so many. I am blessed to have her as my mom and I wouldn't trade her for the world. Although, now I find myself lost at times without her around to ask for advice. I just try to think of what she would do.
My mom was meant to be a mom - she was a natural. I found a Mother's Day card this year at work in the gift shop and I cried because it described her to a T and she will never get to read it.
What a nice tribute to your mom!
My mom was a great mom, she made many mistakes, missed a lot in our childhood because of her bad choices, but before she passed she cried to me about her mistakes, and wanted forgiveness. I had forgiven her long time ago, and told her so. She had quit drinking 9 months before she passed, and quit smoking at the same time. She felt bad for missing out on so much. The important thing she instilled in us was love. She made sure we knew we were loved. My mom and I had a very rocky relationship for years, we didn't get along at all when I was in my teens. She belittled me, my feelings, my thoughts. She didn't understand what it was like to be young anymore. At the time I hated her for it. As I matured, and grew, I learned that she wasn't perfect. I learned that she didn't know everything. I learned that she was human like me, and had problems and fears, and faults. I learned from her how to forgive and move forward. I learned to face my faults and admit my wrongs, and mistakes. I learned to be myself, and stand my ground.
I am glad that some of you have been inspired to share memories, and stories, and to call. I thank you all for helping me to honor my mom's memory. It means a lot to me. I hope to read more stories, good and bad. I know my mom wasn't perfect, but she was mine. I was 26, and my brother was 18 when she passed. He was a senior, he didn't graduate. I hurt more for him then myself because I had 8 more years with her then he did. He was the LAST person in the family to talk to her. She gave him her final message for the family.
Thank you all.
Be safe.
Your mom's behavior sounds a lot like my dad and I. It would have been easier had I been left with her than him. Although I would never wish him ill, I am now forced to pick up all her responsibilities until I can move out.Originally Posted by MyRage
Your message choked me up!My mother in law got a book about mother animals for her mom, and gave it to me to read to my mom when my mom was overdosed in the hospital. I read it to her while she was coming out of her overdose, and we read it together when she was with it enough to read. I still have the book.
My mom was a great mom, she made many mistakes, missed a lot in our childhood because of her bad choices, but before she passed she cried to me about her mistakes, and wanted forgiveness. I had forgiven her long time ago, and told her so. She had quit drinking 9 months before she passed, and quit smoking at the same time. She felt bad for missing out on so much. The important thing she instilled in us was love. She made sure we knew we were loved. My mom and I had a very rocky relationship for years, we didn't get along at all when I was in my teens. She belittled me, my feelings, my thoughts. She didn't understand what it was like to be young anymore. At the time I hated her for it. As I matured, and grew, I learned that she wasn't perfect. I learned that she didn't know everything. I learned that she was human like me, and had problems and fears, and faults. I learned from her how to forgive and move forward. I learned to face my faults and admit my wrongs, and mistakes. I learned to be myself, and stand my ground.
I am glad that some of you have been inspired to share memories, and stories, and to call. I thank you all for helping me to honor my mom's memory. It means a lot to me. I hope to read more stories, good and bad. I know my mom wasn't perfect, but she was mine. I was 26, and my brother was 18 when she passed. He was a senior, he didn't graduate. I hurt more for him then myself because I had 8 more years with her then he did. He was the LAST person in the family to talk to her. She gave him her final message for the family.
Thank you all.It means a lot to me.
Be safe.
The important thing is that she realized her mistakes in the end. Some people, like my dad, will change for no one, not even when my mom died. She always believed in me and was someone who would never judge you based on your race or ethinicity, even though she was judged in return. She respected you for the person you were inside.
As she got sick, we reversed roles and I became her caretaker. I did things I never thought I would be able to, but I did, because she was always there for me and I would not just sit and watch her suffer. She suffered horribly and it still bothers me to this day that no matter what I did, I couldn't fix it. I would have taken her place if I could have.
You show a strength of character to have allowed your mom to be able to speak her peace to you. That is not very easy to do. I talked to my mom while she was in the hospital, but I never got to tell her that I loved her while she was still awake. Her lungs failed and that was it. I kept talking to her hoping that she could hear me, but I'll never know. I just wish I could have talked to her one more time.
She died this year and I am only 27. I have gone through what people go through in a lifetime and it isn't over yet. There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her.
well, i don't talk to mine everyday - mainly because she doesn't particularly care for talking on the phone. her hand/ear get tired! but i see her at least once a week [she, my dad & i attend church together, then eat lunch out] & sometimes more often, depending on circumstances. 2-3 times a year we go places - visit family, etc. this summer she, my sister & i went to arkansas. last summer the 3 of us + 2 of my sister's kids went to florida. these are car trips, so much visiting during the trips is very common! both my mother & i are teachers - she was my 5th grade teacher - so i speak to her often for advice about work... or sometimes just to vent!
i'm 50, my mother is 71. her mother died almost 2 years ago - she was 92. i expect to have her around for many years to come, God willing.
i'm 50, my mother is 71. her mother died almost 2 years ago - she was 92. i expect to have her around for many years to come, God willing.
I wish my mother and I were close. She left when I was 2 and she used to drop in and say she was home for good and then she would leave again a day later without even saying goodbye. And then she blamed my dad for turning us against her. Actually he simply let us make up our own minds. I honestly wasn't as close as I should be to my dad either. I love my dad but he tended to show favortism to my sister so I simply became my own person.
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My mom & I argue, we fight, we have our ups & downs....but when it comes down to it - I'll always be there for her & her for me.
I still live at home as she has some health issues, and even with dad home, she needs more help than that some days. And there is no "bright side" or anything better to look forward to - she will only continually get worse slowly over time. I'm going to cherish every day I have.
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I am sorry for your loss. My mom had metostatic liver cancer. She got diagnosed after a year of horrid pain in her abdomin. She was tested for cancer a year earlier for her elavated white blood cells, but her doctor found no SKIN cancer. He never checked her anywhere else, or did any other tests after that. She was a native american, who drank and smoked. What did her life matter? Then when she did get diagnosed, he over perscribed her pain meds and put her into a drug induced coma. When her pain patch fell off, she started to come out of her coma. We had another 5 months after that with her.
Her cancer never got as bad as we expected, where she was laying in pain comatose for longer then about 12 hours. She put herself on morphine and basically euthanized herself. She asked me a week before she did it how I felt about it. I told her that it was her body, I had no right to tell her she could not end her suffering so that she could die with dignity. I am relieved that she had the option others don't. I was proud of the fact that she loved us and herself to let herself go when she did. It would have been harder for herself, and all of us to watch her suffer and waste away into a skin covered skeleton.
She was beautiful when she passed. She was still strong. I was lucky.
Stay strong. For me the pain is still there, will always be, but it gets easier to move forward. The cloud of confusion and loss lessens. We get stronger every day, especially when there are others around who understand what we are going through, and are willing to listen.
Be safe.
My mom died due to side effects of the medications she was on. It killed her liver. The problem is - no one around me seems to understand because they haven't gone through it themselves.
Thanks for starting this thread! I lost my mom on Halloween last year. I have a lot of times that I really miss talking to her - whenever something happens; good or bad - the first thing I want to do is call her. I still have the last emails she sent me.
I like the comment about "talking every day, we just don't use the phone!" That how I feel - I even asked my daughter, she thinks that too.
We didn't have a perfect relationship, but I'll tell you, my becoming a mother was the best thing that happened to my mother's and my relationship. I hope that other people have that experience too!
I like the comment about "talking every day, we just don't use the phone!" That how I feel - I even asked my daughter, she thinks that too.
We didn't have a perfect relationship, but I'll tell you, my becoming a mother was the best thing that happened to my mother's and my relationship. I hope that other people have that experience too!
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I hear what you are saying. I have people telling me still that I need to 'get over' it, and forget it. I won't. She was my mom. She is my mom. She is gone, it hurts. I live every day. I think about her every day. I miss her every day. I don't cry everyday. I'm not sad every day. But... at one point or another she enters my mind. I will not stop thinking about her. My hubby says I dwell. I mention her once in a while, and I am dwelling. He has no idea how I feel.
People have a hard time putting themelves in other's shoes. People have a hard time just listening when it comes to someone's pain, especially when it is over loosing someone important in their lives. I think it is because they don't want to think about it. Or they try to hide from it. I won't. I will allow myself to feel what ever emotion comes to me when somoene needs me to listen. I don't exactly like to hear someone talk about their mom. But I listen, cuz some day they may be there to listen to me talk about mine. Sometimes I need to share what a wonderful person she was so that I can keep her memory alive.
Feel free to talk about your mom as much as you need or want, in private messages to me or on this thread.
I have a wonderful stepmom who knew my mom. She listens when we talk about her. She lets my dad talk about her any time he wants to. I am so lucky that my family has been reconstructed so I have two parents and two step sisters, one who passed one day shy of the first anniversary of my mom passing, and one who is happily living in Oklahoma.
I am babbling, sorry. My thoughts are really skattered right now. There is flooding here from Ike. We were just getting things back together from Gustav. We had just got power back after 10 days without after Gustav passed, then lost it again, and got it back. Everything is chaos around me. Yet the only thing I know is that my mom was my mom and I love her.
Be safe.
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Most moms curse their children with a child worse then they were when they were kids... my mom told me I would never have kids. She was right. I am broken. I would have loved to have given my mom a grandchild before she passed. My lilbro has a step daughter that he calls his own. She was born November 22 of last year, and he has been her dad since Februrary. He and his girlfriend have talked about having a baby together, and she has talked about being a serrogate mom for me. If/when they have their own child, I will cry so hard for my mom not being here to see it. But in my heart I know she will be right there with them the whole time, as she is always in my heart, and my brother's. I know she has been with Lilly, and loving her as thought my brother fathered her.Originally Posted by kluchetta
Thanks for starting this thread! I lost my mom on Halloween last year. I have a lot of times that I really miss talking to her - whenever something happens; good or bad - the first thing I want to do is call her. I still have the last emails she sent me.
I like the comment about "talking every day, we just don't use the phone!" That how I feel - I even asked my daughter, she thinks that too.
We didn't have a perfect relationship, but I'll tell you, my becoming a mother was the best thing that happened to my mother's and my relationship. I hope that other people have that experience too!
I am soooo sooooo sorry for your loosing your mom. Out of everythng in the world I am so sad when a mom dies. I wish nobody ever has to loose their mom after I lost mine. But I guess it gives us one thing in common.
Be safe.
Thanks for your response. You are describing exactly how I feel. However, when I am around others I have started to close up because knowing that they will not understand I do not bother. For me, it will never go away and holidays only make it worse. They just can't understand that there are times where I am not able to be happy.Originally Posted by MyRage
I hear what you are saying. I have people telling me still that I need to 'get over' it, and forget it. I won't. She was my mom. She is my mom. She is gone, it hurts. I live every day. I think about her every day. I miss her every day. I don't cry everyday. I'm not sad every day. But... at one point or another she enters my mind. I will not stop thinking about her. My hubby says I dwell. I mention her once in a while, and I am dwelling. He has no idea how I feel.
People have a hard time putting themelves in other's shoes. People have a hard time just listening when it comes to someone's pain, especially when it is over loosing someone important in their lives. I think it is because they don't want to think about it. Or they try to hide from it. I won't. I will allow myself to feel what ever emotion comes to me when somoene needs me to listen. I don't exactly like to hear someone talk about their mom. But I listen, cuz some day they may be there to listen to me talk about mine. Sometimes I need to share what a wonderful person she was so that I can keep her memory alive.
Feel free to talk about your mom as much as you need or want, in private messages to me or on this thread.I can try to understand how you feel. I do know what it is like to loose my mom. I know how I felt when I found out she was gone. I simply said in my mind 'thank you God for letting me have her for my mom'. Then my next thought was 'I don't have a mom anymore'.
I have a wonderful stepmom who knew my mom. She listens when we talk about her. She lets my dad talk about her any time he wants to. I am so lucky that my family has been reconstructed so I have two parents and two step sisters, one who passed one day shy of the first anniversary of my mom passing, and one who is happily living in Oklahoma.
I am babbling, sorry. My thoughts are really skattered right now. There is flooding here from Ike. We were just getting things back together from Gustav. We had just got power back after 10 days without after Gustav passed, then lost it again, and got it back. Everything is chaos around me. Yet the only thing I know is that my mom was my mom and I love her.
Be safe.
I also have started to distance myself from many because I feel that I can no longer associate or contribute to their life. It also is hard at times and it is easier not to become involved. There are some people who just do not care no matter what happens and it is easier if I learn not to feel anything when in public or at work.
My mom's family disappointed me for the most part when I went to visit them. Some were better than others, but it just shows that anything can happen and nothing will change. Now, I cherish all the memories I have of her and I tell everyone I know not to take anything for granted.
