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post #1 of 26
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My Mom hasn't been well lately because she had a bladder infection and then diarrhea. She has other problems and is 88 years old. She woke up and could not do anything and just felt sick. The doctor told her to get an ambulance and go to the hospital. The reason for the ambulance is that she lives in the Catskills and the nearest hospital is 1/2 an hour away.

I can't go back east right now. At least my brother lives in CT. Also, Mom lives in a cottage just a walkway from my aunt's house. My aunt, her sister who is 85, my cousin Lynnie and her 22 year-old son Dan live there, so Mom has help.

We are scheduled to go on vacation Sat. I am really worried.
post #2 of 26
Oh no You must be worried sick..I am sending many vibes for her and calming vibes for you.

post #3 of 26
It's hard to be away from your family, especially when someone is sick Many vibes and prayers for your Mom
post #4 of 26
Prayers for your Mom.
post #5 of 26
I hope your mom is ok!
post #6 of 26
to you and your mom! Hope she gets better and hope you can have a good vacation.
post #7 of 26
Do you have any updates about your mother??
Its tough begin a sandwich generation person plus adding the fact that your mother lives across the country.
Hope the docs can determine the cause of her problems.
post #8 of 26
Vibes for your mom and for you!!



I understand completely. I actually moved in with my elderly (84 y.o.) when it became obvious she really couldnt live on her own anymore. Right now we are letting her age in place ...
post #9 of 26
I hope your mom feels better soon. It's never easy at any age and it is your mom.
post #10 of 26
healing & for your mom, & , calming & for you!
post #11 of 26
hope your mum feels better soon and that you don't worry yourself until you get sick too
post #12 of 26
Hope your mums ok? UTI`s really suck

Get better soon Butzies Mum!
post #13 of 26
Lots of prayers and for both you and your Mom!
post #14 of 26
Thread Starter 
I just talked to my Mom. She is convinced that she is going to die. I told her that she couldn't because all of us are going to see her in October when we go to NY for Parents weekend at Jenny's college because it is her senior year. I am so depressed now.
post #15 of 26
she's just feeling down 'cause of the illness. diarrhea in particular just wears a person out - couple that w/the bladder infection, & her body's just downright tired!
sending more healing & for her - & calming ones for you!
post #16 of 26
I remember going through just that with my Dad more than once -- years before he died but it sure did drag him down. It's hard to keep a positive outlook when your body is doing undignified things to you. And harder still for you at a distance where you can't simply hold her while you say, "Mom, you're not going to die. You're not allowed." to you, and many that your Mom is feeling better soon.
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post #18 of 26
I´m so sorry if I´m late at this thread my friend......I have been problems of connection with the site...
I´m so sorry for her actual condition ... tell to her "Don´t give up"...
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My prayers for her and you! to keep the calm in this hard moments.....
post #19 of 26
Thread Starter 
For all of us who have worries about our parents, I just wanted to share things about my Mom.

When she was 54, she was diagnosed with angina and it was good that she was younger than 55 because the research then said that the medicines could decrease the chance of a heart attack.

Well, they did because she had a mild heart attack when she was 71. Since then, she has other problems with her heart. Nothing that a pacemaker and a double by-pass didn't cure.

When Mom was 78, she couldn't talk and the doctors found 2 benign brain tumors on the covering of her brain. The one at the base of her neck was the size of a tennis ball and the one on the top of her brain was the size of a plum. She lived through the operation. I went back east to be with her and the nurses nicely let me stay in ICU because I didn't make any noise and I was from CA. When I had to leave to go back home, I told Mom that I loved her and she said I love you too. The nurses were happy but told me that sometimes patients only talk once because of something so deep-rooted. Mom did not really talk for 3 months after that. I guess you never can tell your kids how much you love them.

In the past few years, Mom has developed macular degeneration and her hearing is not so good.

But, you know what? I can still have a conversation with her. Her brain is just fine and she can laugh and understand jokes. Even though she lives on the property with my aunt and cousins, she can still clean her cottage.

My Mom told me when I was little that she would not live to see the 21st century. I told her that she would and called her that new year's and said see I told you!

So I told her that we are coming in October and we are looking forward to seeing her. I hope that it works for October and beyond like it worked for the 21st century. And then we have her 1st grandchild, Jenny, graduating May 31st when we will see her again.

Here is the picture of my cousin, Lynnie my Mom, me, Jenny and Aunt Lotty
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post #20 of 26
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Originally Posted by butzie View Post
So I told her that we are coming in October and we are looking forward to seeing her. I hope that it works for October and beyond like it worked for the 21st century. And then we have her 1st grandchild, Jenny, graduating May 31st when we will see her again.
And I´m so sure she going to make it!.......
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post #21 of 26
awwwwwwwww i'm so sorry. vibes for your mum :
post #22 of 26
Oy! Your mom ( and your family) have been through a lot. I almost lost my Dad in 1982 to an aortic dissection. He was 62 years old. He lived another 15 years - shtark v' eisen - he used to tell us ( strong as iron).

Sigh.... all my best to you and your family and lots of good vibes for your mother's recovery so she can enjoy all the simchas (happy occasions) you have planned.

(English translations of the Yiddish for those who didn't speak it growing up.)

post #23 of 26
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Originally Posted by AddieBee View Post
Oy! Your mom ( and your family) have been through a lot. I almost lost my Dad in 1982 to an aortic dissection. He was 62 years old. He lived another 15 years - shtark v' eisen - he used to tell us ( strong as iron).

Sigh.... all my best to you and your family and lots of good vibes for your mother's recovery so she can enjoy all the simchas (happy occasions) you have planned.

(English translations of the Yiddish for those who didn't speak it growing up.)

Thanks and I know that you know that I do understand Yiddish/Hebrew. My Mom was born in Bavaria in 1920 and came to the US when she was 5. If the word is for a teem of endearment, or one for wurst, then I know it.
post #24 of 26
Wishing recovery & good health for you Mom. I also live in California - Bay Area and just moved my 92-year-old Mother out from Massachusetts. Although there will be adjustment issues, it is such a weight off me, not to worry about her all the time, so far away.
post #25 of 26
Oh my...your mom has been through a lot. Bless her heart! My mom and I were suppose to go to Germany in April to visit family, but she didn't make it. She told me we would go.

Just try to stay strong. My mom was much like yours. Very worn down and very sick, but she knew she was dying and so did I. I had hope that she would make it, but then all her other organs started shutting down. She truly did not deserve months of suffering.

My mom always said that we must stay strong and follow through no matter what. Hang in there.
post #26 of 26
Lots of good vibes for your mum hope shes ok
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