Originally Posted by Beck4582
Thanks for the link - we're arguing about it now... He says he's not addicted - but he needs it to "cope" right now. I"m going to call the doctor first thing in the morning because I am getting really scared. He sleeps 18+ hours a day, has trouble speaking coherently sometimes, and stumbles a lot when he walks. But every time I try and tell him I'm worried, he gets mad and tells me that he's fine and he just needs it until things "settle down". *sigh* This is going to get worse before it gets better, isn't it?...
Possibly, but not necessarily.
It is easier to dispute a layperson (like your wife!) as a nag, than do to so with a professional. If he is already in the fullblown throws of addiction, you can expect more irrationality, anger, upset, etc, than if he's just leaning in that direction. Physical addiction is harder to overcome than physcological addiction and a level of denial.
For the record, he probably DOES need something to help him cope right now, so bear that in mind even as you bear in mind that the Xanex isn't it, and is no longer helping.
Where he's getting the drugs is also a factor - is it a regular check up doctor/GP? A physchatrist? A gradual switch to a different drug (and probably, eventually, more nuanced therapy) is in order.
Possibly a switch over to sleeping tablets might help (personally, I found them less helpful than Xanex because I wasn't as worried about the addictive effect, but that is NOT the common reaction). Anyway, here I'm just speculating. But there are different strategies available to you/his medical team.
If, for example, he's willing to switch over to sleeping tablets it might lower the ego-cost to him - it's not necessarily an issue of addiction, it'll keep you happy/help him sleep/whatever - in general, the all-or-nothing approach doesn't work most people. He knows somethings wrong (it might 'only' be the addiction or it might be something else, or it might be both), but, in general, you're likely to have better success getting him to collaborate in his progress than if you give into the urge (and I'd be very surprised if his behavior doesn't provoke you) to attempt to 'control' his progress.