Cast of characters-
Meow- 14 year old male red tabby
Midnight- 7 year old black female
Penny- 5 1/2 month old torbie female
Fae- 4 1/2 month old grey female
(all fixed, all indoor)
We've been following the posted suggestions consistently in introducing our two new kittens to the household. Meow seems pretty cool with the new inhabitants. Midnight however, doesn't seem to be adjusting as well as Meow at the moment.
It's been about two weeks so far so my husband & I are trying to remain hopeful that things will eventually work out. But I have to admit, it was rather simple to introduce Midnight & Bailey to Meow so Midnight's attitude makes me somewhat stressed out. Though in retrospect I seem to recall Meow seemed much more accepting of Bailey & Midnight than they were of him. There was very little hissing and no fighting but they both rebuffed any friendly overtures by Meow other than a bit of friendly play.
During the first or second day Midnight walked up to the door of the room where we kept the kittens. She hissed and then avoided that area of the house (she never really goes to that area of the house anyway). We first did some of the swapping of bedding & toys, she seemed to become quickly adjusted to their smell. She did hiss when we allowed her some time to roam through that room while my husband took the kittens to a check up at the vet.
So far now we've mostly been allowing the kittens some free time to roam around the house while Midnight stays in her favorite area (our master bedroom). Midnight does not seem to mind this, she'll hop up on our new cat tree in our living room that the kittens were on earlier. She notices their smell but doesn't seem to object to it.
We do allow the kittens & Meow to be out in our house together now, they seem to be ok with each other now. There are times where Meow has briefly hissed, yowled and swatted them, but it was only times where they were in his personal space without his permission. He seems to be doing a great job of teaching them some kitty manners. 98% of the time he likes to sit nearby and watch them play and be silly. This morning I caught him touching noses with Penny, which we along with thinking it was very sweet we also considered it to be good progress.
The problems we've had were in the brief times we've had Midnight out among them over the last couple days. Midnight seems to be adjusting as long as she can remain well out of reach of them. She likes to watch them from the upper stairway landing. Penny walked toward her once, and when Midnight hissed at her Penny turned and walked away. She's been giving Midnight a wide berth since.
Fae however seems to be the stubborn child. I think she's done the most damage to Midnight's adjustment by trying to force herself into Midnight's personal space. Thursday Fae pulled an escape and ran down the hall right into our bedroom. Midnight hissed a bit but didn't seem to be too phased by it until Fae insisted on checking out the area underneath our bed (definitely Midnight's domain). Midnight hissed loudly, yowled, pulled Fae out from under the bed by the scruff of her neck and smacked her on the muzzle before we had a chance to grab Fae. No blood, no scratches. Then yesterday while Midnight was hanging out on the top perch of the cat tree Fae got out again, jumped up on the lower area and pretty much seemed to scare the crud out of Midnight. Probably because Midnight felt she had no escape route. She yowled really loudly at Fae (similar to what we've heard from our neighbors outdoor cats), hissed and ran upstairs to hide in her room again.
That's what makes me think that Midnight isn't being aggressive as if it were part of her personality, this is more aggression born out of fear. She hasn't shown aggression at Meow (because he doesn't force himself on her) and she doesn't show aggression at the neighbor cats she sees in the window sometimes. I think it may have been because Fae did not respect Midnight's personal space. Midnight has always been a rather timid sort. It takes her a while to warm up to a person, sometimes even if my husband or I move too fast we'll startle her and she'll dart off to go hide under the bed.
So we've moved back to giving Midnight a break from this. When she's happy to remain in our room for a while Fae & Penny get some time out here. Then later we allow Midnight run of the house again. Fae & Penny won't be permitted in our bedroom for a long time, as long as it takes for Midnight to be ok with it. In a few days we're thinking perhaps we should see if Midnight is ready to watch them from a distance again? We'll be even more diligent this time about keeping Fae from going up to Midnight, going so far as to correct her ourselves by hissing at Fae and putting her on a bit of time out back in their room.
Both my husband & I have read up a bit on Feliway and other natural treatments. We have a home with a large, open floorplan (two story ceilings in the main area) so we're not sure if the Feliway plugins would work effectively. We're thinking of ordering some Rescue Remedy but until it gets here we've been trying the only thing we could find at our local Petsmart, something called Calm Down. We've been putting it in Midnight's wet food and she laps it up. Many of the ingredients in it seem similar to Rescue Remedy.
Does it seem like we're covering all the bases? I apologize by rambling your ears off but I'm a bit of an anxious kittymom and I just want to make sure I'm doing the best thing for all the furry family members. Both my husband and I were a bit appalled and concerned by Midnight's reaction yesterday but my husband keeps reminding me today it's only been a couple of weeks (we adopted Fae & Penny February 21st), he thinks given some more time Midnight will adjust, especially once Fae learns some manners. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
Meow- 14 year old male red tabby
Midnight- 7 year old black female
Penny- 5 1/2 month old torbie female
Fae- 4 1/2 month old grey female
(all fixed, all indoor)
We've been following the posted suggestions consistently in introducing our two new kittens to the household. Meow seems pretty cool with the new inhabitants. Midnight however, doesn't seem to be adjusting as well as Meow at the moment.
It's been about two weeks so far so my husband & I are trying to remain hopeful that things will eventually work out. But I have to admit, it was rather simple to introduce Midnight & Bailey to Meow so Midnight's attitude makes me somewhat stressed out. Though in retrospect I seem to recall Meow seemed much more accepting of Bailey & Midnight than they were of him. There was very little hissing and no fighting but they both rebuffed any friendly overtures by Meow other than a bit of friendly play.
During the first or second day Midnight walked up to the door of the room where we kept the kittens. She hissed and then avoided that area of the house (she never really goes to that area of the house anyway). We first did some of the swapping of bedding & toys, she seemed to become quickly adjusted to their smell. She did hiss when we allowed her some time to roam through that room while my husband took the kittens to a check up at the vet.
So far now we've mostly been allowing the kittens some free time to roam around the house while Midnight stays in her favorite area (our master bedroom). Midnight does not seem to mind this, she'll hop up on our new cat tree in our living room that the kittens were on earlier. She notices their smell but doesn't seem to object to it.
We do allow the kittens & Meow to be out in our house together now, they seem to be ok with each other now. There are times where Meow has briefly hissed, yowled and swatted them, but it was only times where they were in his personal space without his permission. He seems to be doing a great job of teaching them some kitty manners. 98% of the time he likes to sit nearby and watch them play and be silly. This morning I caught him touching noses with Penny, which we along with thinking it was very sweet we also considered it to be good progress.
The problems we've had were in the brief times we've had Midnight out among them over the last couple days. Midnight seems to be adjusting as long as she can remain well out of reach of them. She likes to watch them from the upper stairway landing. Penny walked toward her once, and when Midnight hissed at her Penny turned and walked away. She's been giving Midnight a wide berth since.
Fae however seems to be the stubborn child. I think she's done the most damage to Midnight's adjustment by trying to force herself into Midnight's personal space. Thursday Fae pulled an escape and ran down the hall right into our bedroom. Midnight hissed a bit but didn't seem to be too phased by it until Fae insisted on checking out the area underneath our bed (definitely Midnight's domain). Midnight hissed loudly, yowled, pulled Fae out from under the bed by the scruff of her neck and smacked her on the muzzle before we had a chance to grab Fae. No blood, no scratches. Then yesterday while Midnight was hanging out on the top perch of the cat tree Fae got out again, jumped up on the lower area and pretty much seemed to scare the crud out of Midnight. Probably because Midnight felt she had no escape route. She yowled really loudly at Fae (similar to what we've heard from our neighbors outdoor cats), hissed and ran upstairs to hide in her room again.
That's what makes me think that Midnight isn't being aggressive as if it were part of her personality, this is more aggression born out of fear. She hasn't shown aggression at Meow (because he doesn't force himself on her) and she doesn't show aggression at the neighbor cats she sees in the window sometimes. I think it may have been because Fae did not respect Midnight's personal space. Midnight has always been a rather timid sort. It takes her a while to warm up to a person, sometimes even if my husband or I move too fast we'll startle her and she'll dart off to go hide under the bed.
So we've moved back to giving Midnight a break from this. When she's happy to remain in our room for a while Fae & Penny get some time out here. Then later we allow Midnight run of the house again. Fae & Penny won't be permitted in our bedroom for a long time, as long as it takes for Midnight to be ok with it. In a few days we're thinking perhaps we should see if Midnight is ready to watch them from a distance again? We'll be even more diligent this time about keeping Fae from going up to Midnight, going so far as to correct her ourselves by hissing at Fae and putting her on a bit of time out back in their room.
Both my husband & I have read up a bit on Feliway and other natural treatments. We have a home with a large, open floorplan (two story ceilings in the main area) so we're not sure if the Feliway plugins would work effectively. We're thinking of ordering some Rescue Remedy but until it gets here we've been trying the only thing we could find at our local Petsmart, something called Calm Down. We've been putting it in Midnight's wet food and she laps it up. Many of the ingredients in it seem similar to Rescue Remedy.
Does it seem like we're covering all the bases? I apologize by rambling your ears off but I'm a bit of an anxious kittymom and I just want to make sure I'm doing the best thing for all the furry family members. Both my husband and I were a bit appalled and concerned by Midnight's reaction yesterday but my husband keeps reminding me today it's only been a couple of weeks (we adopted Fae & Penny February 21st), he thinks given some more time Midnight will adjust, especially once Fae learns some manners. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.