Protective or...Selfish?

sibohan2005 · Feb 29, 2008

I only let people drive my car when i'm in it unless mom or dad is doing me a favour by taking it in for an oil change.
I don't think your being selfish i think your being reasonable and responcible. I would have offered to drive the person if I wasn't busy but I wouldn't give up my car.

yosemite · Feb 29, 2008

I can't believe she had the gall to even ask. That's a pretty big favour to ask even a best friend or family.

Our insurance covers anyone who has a driver's license to drive our cars but we wouldn't loan them to anyone each other and our daughter. (Daughter lets me borrow her Mini sometimes

).

I have best friends that I've had for 30+ years that wouldn't ask me for the loan of my car. They might ask me to give them a lift if they really NEEDED it.

rockcat · Feb 29, 2008

Originally Posted by Yosemite

I can't believe she had the gall to even ask. That's a pretty big favour to ask even a best friend or family.

to get her eyebrows done? That is a LOT of nerve!

jcat · Feb 29, 2008

Originally Posted by Yosemite

I can't believe she had the gall to even ask. That's a pretty big favour to ask even a best friend or family.

Family, yes (provided they're at least 21, as our insurance doesn't cover those under 21), if they're stuck because their car isn't running, they need a station wagon, or are visiting from another country, but I couldn't see myself or DH lending a car to anybody else, except perhaps my boss, who offered us the use of his car when our old one was out of commission, and we were shopping around for a new one. We declined his offer, but it was appreciated.

tierre0 · Feb 29, 2008

It's your car and if you don't want to lend it out that's your prerogative. You are the one responsible for the repair bills, insurance and all other expenses a car incurs so you have every right to handle it however you want...

I wouldn't say you are being to protective, or selfish, just sensible...

addiebee · Feb 29, 2008

Ditto, ditto, ditto - you're not being selfish. And I hope your coworker didn't make you feel that way.

sweets · Feb 29, 2008

Not even my parents drive my car! I let a friend borrow my car in college to drive another friend home. She parked in 15 minute parking for over an hour, then hid the ticket on me. Since the car was under my name, I was liable for the ticket, as well as the late fee and the court fees. $2.00 worth of gas turned into $75.00

isabel · Feb 29, 2008

This is another reason I bought a manual transmission car - no one asks to borrow it. Not like I'd say yes anyways...

rosiemac · Feb 29, 2008

Your certainly not selfish Nat because i wouldn't hand the keys over either, Infact i think that's rude to put you in that position because it's not like it's something small that she wants a lend of.

theimp98 · Feb 29, 2008

i dont lend my car to anyone accept my father and, hmm and , and hmm thats about it

lunasmom · Feb 29, 2008

Nope I would never call that selfish!!

If I had time I would have countered it with offering to take her to get her eyebrows waxed, but that's my limit. No coworker would ever borrow my car.

cococat · Feb 29, 2008

It doesn't sound like either to me.

starryeyedtiger · Feb 29, 2008

The only people i will let touch my car are Colin and my mom. I trust them and i have the proper insurance coverage should something happen. Anyone else though- i just wouldn't feel comfortable letting them use it most likely.

glitch · Feb 29, 2008

You're not being selfish at all! Ive been burnt with this one too! My DH's cousin borrowed my car and returned it mangled and missing its gas tank! Nope! Not going to do that anymore! I have people tell me to take their cars all the time and its not an issue, I will use their cars and they'll use mine, but we know each other and are family and really close friends! (and covered on each others insurance!)

xlaydeextaniax · Mar 1, 2008

Originally Posted by Trouts mom

My coworker asked to borrow my car today at lunch...and I told her the truth that I am not comfortable with lending my car out... that includes anyone. I just DON'T like lending it out. I am very protective of my car.

I believe that people do not drive other people's vehicles as if they were their own and they are likely to not respect my vehicle the way I do.

This sounds silly I know..but with an older car, its all about repair bills, and I would never know if something someone else did in my car has caused something to breakdown.

Anyway, is this ridiculous? Is it selfish? I feel kind of bad for not letting her take it. If it was an emergency I would...but she is just getting her eyebrows waxed...

i think you did the right thing in my opinion!

i'd be the same, but then am like that over everything i own LOL!

& oh goodness! was only so she could get her eyebrow's waxed! oh c'mon please

lillekat · Mar 1, 2008

I would feel the same way, just tell her you're not very comfortable with the idea. I would think it was a smart move too.

zao_cat · Mar 1, 2008

It's not selfish at all. That's your car. That's your transportation.

abbycats · Mar 1, 2008

That would be stepping over the line if somebody asked me if they could borrow my car. If something happened to the car you would be responsible. Your not selfish...

gailc · Mar 1, 2008

Yrs ago my boss asked to borrow the truck for topsoil which I did. It came back freshly washed which I felt bad as our bedliner in the box of the truck takes a LONG time to clean out. He could have left the bits of soil in it!! We have borrowed our truck also in the past to one of Neil's brothers.

Other than that we haven't borrowed vehicles out.

thezookeeper · Mar 1, 2008

You have every right to be protective of your car. I would NEVER let a co-worker borrow my car. It is very rude of the lady to ask. Your car is your responsibility and if anything happened it would be your job to fix it. Good for you to stand up no matter what other people might think or say.

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