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post #1 of 27
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Ok so I was on my way home last night and I was listening to a local radio show, and they were asking the question-If you were out walking the streets and you happened to have some extra food in your pocket and you ran across a homeless person and a stray dog: Who would you feed? Now I am probably going to hell for this, but I would feed the dog/cat. What would you all do and why? I have been thinking about this alot and I have not found one reason yet as to why I would give it to the homeless person. As I said I am probably going to hell. Now I know this is a website for cats and their owners so most all of us are animal fanatics but can anyone out there honestly say they would give it to the human??????
post #2 of 27
Im a sucker for a Hobo, and they normally end up with all my money and food! The last time I did that came back to haunt me though... he came into my work all drunk out of his mind and got all over me.. cops were called he was kicked and I decided to feed his dog from now on! (he had a dog with him... yeah...) Havn't seen the guy since and if I did I would run away! I would probably split the food in all reality... that way they could both have some! No no, I have a better answer, I would give the food to the homeless person and take the dog home!!
post #3 of 27
I would give the food to the dog and take the person to a restaurant and buy them a hot meal.
post #4 of 27
I will be going to hell with ya! Just kidding...but I am the same way!!!

In fact, if anyone watched Moment of Truth the other night, this same exact question was asked!!! And yes, the girl said she would feed s stray dog, before a homeless person!!
post #5 of 27
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
I would give the food to the dog and take the person to a restaurant and buy them a hot meal.

How do you know that they aren't going to hurt you?? People have flaws... I would never take them anywhere, I have given them money to buy them selves stuff. I know better than to take them anywhere... Even a stray dog could be violent!
post #6 of 27
I would probably split the food up. Maybe give a little extra to the animal.
post #7 of 27
Without knowing anything about the person, I would give to the dog or cat.

You know what I've seen on freeway exits?
Two people: one with a sign asking for money, and the other selling bags of fruit.
Sometimes both at the same freeway exit!
MY SO was with me when I saw this and he said that he would buy the fruit from the guy selling, and give it to the guy with the sign for him to sell.

I realize that some homeless people are ill, and some might have mental issues that prevent them from being able to work.
But some people ask for handouts when they are perfectly capable of helping themselves.
This irks me.

If the person is not capable of taking care of her or his self, then I feel differently about it.
I wouldn't begrudge a person a meal if he/she really did need it.
post #8 of 27
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
I would give the food to the dog and take the person to a restaurant and buy them a hot meal.

you know what is funny, is a few times i have offered to buy homeless people food, and they did not take me up on it. theyjust wanted the money
post #9 of 27
Thread Starter 
ok so if you could only give it to one of them which one would it be??? The reason I am chosing the dog, is I just don't have that much faith in people and I have seen too many "not so homeless" people out begging for free stuff that it bothers me and dogs cannot fake being homeless. Plus in all honesty-if a person really wants something bad enough they can get it-animals can only do soo much within their powers to get what they want or need.
post #10 of 27
I would give to the Pet.
My Sisters friend gave to one and he used the Money for Meth.
He was on the news.
My husband tells them I do not see anything wrong with you go get a job.
This gut would be out there everyday.
post #11 of 27
I would help the pet if I could only help one, unless the homeless person was a child. Ive been burnt once on the whole homeless person thing and would never put myself through that again. I might tell them where to get help. As this town we have MANY places that will put you up and feed you for as long as you need help! I once gave a "homeless" person my last twenty bucks. I later saw him drive off on his harley that was parked across the street and found out that he had more money that I do! I correct myself, I have been burnt TWICE by the homeless people, the second person later got a great job (after taking my 1700 bucks to get a place of his own) stole my battery out of my car, got married, had twins, is all rich and has never paid me back.
post #12 of 27
I tend to give food to people when I see them. I don't give them money...for a whole slew of reasons I won't get into. I don't judge them either. People gotta eat regardless of their circumstances (and they could be any circumstances) and don't deserve to be denied a basic need because of whatever their past was.

As for the stray dog...as we know from being on this forum there are plenty of ways to help a stray dog and for me, it's a darn good thing I know so many no-kill dog shelters and foster networks

(So I don't think this is an either/or question that can easily be answered with one thing over the other. That's why that show is so dumb...most of the answers should really be so complex and mixed in their emotions that it would be difficult to legitimately trust a polygraph.)
post #13 of 27
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Originally Posted by lionessrampant View Post
I tend to give food to people when I see them. I don't give them money...for a whole slew of reasons I won't get into. I don't judge them either. People gotta eat regardless of their circumstances (and they could be any circumstances) and don't deserve to be denied a basic need because of whatever their past was.
I agree... there are so many good people out there that you really cant judge them by their cover! Since I work at the Red Cross, its easy for me to help people without having to do much! I can call someone and they will put the person up, give them a gift card for food, clothes and whatever else they may need!
post #14 of 27
I recently got to see the movie "The Human Experience" - which if you get the chance, you should totally watch. Its made by Grassroots Films and is the real story of two brothers who decided to go out and see what it really meant to be human. They went to Africa and met AIDS victims and met the inhabitants of a leper colony, and went to South America with Surf for a Cause to care for orphans there.

Their first experience though was in their own backyard - the homeless of New York City. They spent a week living on the streets, with nothing but what they could carry on their backs and no money. While they were there, they talked to some of the homeless.

What really struck me was this one homeless woman. To paraphrase she said "I was there on the streets, next to these three dogs. People came, and they took the dogs in, but me, they left behind." You could just see the hurt in her eyes, and really feel it, as she was remembering the story.

I don't see many homeless in my town, but I know that I will do more to donate to food banks and causes for the homeless, and I will pick the people as much as I can.
post #15 of 27
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you know what is funny, is a few times i have offered to buy homeless people food, and they did not take me up on it. theyjust wanted the money
My ex-husband would always offer to go buy them a sandwhich, it was always refused. He worked downtown and would get approached at least once a day. So, I would give food to the dog/cat.
post #16 of 27
Well... the animal may run off, but I can talk with the human and ask him to wait while I go get something for him. So I'd do that, and give the food I've already got to the dog or cat.

Then I'd run get some groceries for the homeless person and bring them back. I believe in always doing whatever I can for anyone in need, regardless of his condition or how he ended up that way. True compassion doesn't need to ask a lot of questions.

And if the dog or cat is still there when I get back, I would try to take him with me to a no-kill shelter.
post #17 of 27
I too would help the animal vs the human. A human can ask for food, a dog cannot.

I subscribe to two area freecycle websites and they seem more as a place to get alots of free stuff vs the purpose of keeping stuff out of landfills. For example last week someone posted a list of 27 items, most rather specific that they wanted. I mean colors/styles of furniture etc. Come on that seems a bit greedy for me.
post #18 of 27
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Originally Posted by theimp98 View Post
you know what is funny, is a few times i have offered to buy homeless people food, and they did not take me up on it. theyjust wanted the money
Yup! That's because they are professional panhandlers and want the money for something else - like drugs.

I would feed the dog or yes, take it in and have our rescue rehab it. A human can find food more easily, like at a soup kitchen or homeless shelter. And as another poster said, many of them are mentally ill and can get violent quickly, so you need to be careful. It's very sad that they are on the street. Here in Michigan, services have been cut due to budget problems and you can really see the effect.

A friend told me a story about this. She lives in DC. She was walking to work and a mother with two little children was panhandling on the street, saying she needed money to feed her kids. My friend stopped and offered to buy the kids breakfast at the McDonalds that was right there, basically calling the woman's bluff. The woman got violent, started screaming at my friend. She didn't want to feed her kids. She was using them for sympathy to get $$$ for whatever - probably drugs. When my friend got to work, she called Social Services... who knows if anything came of it.

Another case someone told me about his experience in downtown Detroit. He impulsively went and got the guy a sandwich and when he handed the guy the food - the guy screamed at him and threw the sandwich back at him.
post #19 of 27
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
I would give the food to the dog and take the person to a restaurant and buy them a hot meal.
Same here - I don't give money to homeless people just because most of them use it to drink. On several occasions I've given my leftovers to homeless people, or if they ask me for money and it's near a fastfood place I've bought them food. One time I even gave a guy my scarf... If there was an animal with them, though, I'd give them both food.
post #20 of 27
I agree with most people; I have often offered to buy a homeless person a sandwich but they never want it. I'd give it to the dog.

I know there are plenty of genuine cases out there but there are also people on the street who have roofs over their heads and are begging out of choice.
post #21 of 27
The animals would come first for me
post #22 of 27
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Originally Posted by Natalie_ca View Post
I would give the food to the dog and take the person to a restaurant and buy them a hot meal.
That is what I would do too... Dogs don't have pockets to put the money in anyhow
post #23 of 27
A lot of people are submitting evidence that there are drunks, addicts, mentally ill people, and scammers on the street. I think we all know that.

Scammers first: it's rarely possible to know whether the person in front of you really needs help or is using a line on you. My personal choice is to give something to anyone who asks -- partly because they may honestly be in trouble, and partly because that's the kind of person I want to be. I know for a fact that I've been scammed several times, but I refuse to let that stop me from doing whatever I can for anyone who seems to need help.

And when you give someone a sandwich and he gets angry and demands money instead... don't let it bother you. You did the right thing, the humane thing, and that's all you can do. And maybe later on, in a lucid moment, that person will recall your kindness and realize he was wrong. Maybe you will have helped him begin to change.

As for the addicted... they're sick. We cannot blame them for that. We cringe from the behavior their illness has led them into, and rightly so -- but we have no knowledge of how they ended up this way, what horrors they may have gone through, how they may have been victimized. Who are we to decide that they don't deserve a little compassion? Who among us has never made a mistake, never needed forgiveness and another chance?

The mentally ill are especially tragic. It's our own fault that they're on the street, instead of being cared for safely in a treatment facility. As a society, we refuse to fund mental health programs; as individuals, most of us help perpetuate such a powerful stigma about mental illness that many people are too ashamed to seek help even when it is available.

Let me ask one thing of you: whether you choose to buy someone a sandwich or not, at least give him a smile, just that small acknowledgement of his humanity. Yes, scammers will take that as a sign that you're an easy mark, and they'll badger you for money. But for those truly in crisis, your smile could be the only kindness they encounter all day, and I think that makes it worth the risk.
post #24 of 27
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Well that confirms it-I am definitly going to hell and you people are WAY nicer than I will ever be. Thanks for all the input and I may even change my ways and be a little nicer to people I meet in the future, but I still remain true in that I will always like animals more than I will like most people.
post #25 of 27
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Originally Posted by CarolPetunia View Post
A lot of people are submitting evidence that there are drunks, addicts, mentally ill people, and scammers on the street. I think we all know that.

Scammers first: it's rarely possible to know whether the person in front of you really needs help or is using a line on you. My personal choice is to give something to anyone who asks -- partly because they may honestly be in trouble, and partly because that's the kind of person I want to be. I know for a fact that I've been scammed several times, but I refuse to let that stop me from doing whatever I can for anyone who seems to need help.

And when you give someone a sandwich and he gets angry and demands money instead... don't let it bother you. You did the right thing, the humane thing, and that's all you can do. And maybe later on, in a lucid moment, that person will recall your kindness and realize he was wrong. Maybe you will have helped him begin to change.

As for the addicted... they're sick. We cannot blame them for that. We cringe from the behavior their illness has led them into, and rightly so -- but we have no knowledge of how they ended up this way, what horrors they may have gone through, how they may have been victimized. Who are we to decide that they don't deserve a little compassion? Who among us has never made a mistake, never needed forgiveness and another chance?

The mentally ill are especially tragic. It's our own fault that they're on the street, instead of being cared for safely in a treatment facility. As a society, we refuse to fund mental health programs; as individuals, most of us help perpetuate such a powerful stigma about mental illness that many people are too ashamed to seek help even when it is available.

Let me ask one thing of you: whether you choose to buy someone a sandwich or not, at least give him a smile, just that small acknowledgement of his humanity. Yes, scammers will take that as a sign that you're an easy mark, and they'll badger you for money. But for those truly in crisis, your smile could be the only kindness they encounter all day, and I think that makes it worth the risk.
Carol, you are one of the most kindest hearted and caring people I've ever "met"!
post #26 of 27
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Originally Posted by theimp98 View Post
you know what is funny, is a few times i have offered to buy homeless people food, and they did not take me up on it. theyjust wanted the money
Yep DH said the other day someone gave the homeless man a free meal(he was a holding a sign asking for cash). The guy looked in the bag and through it away.
post #27 of 27
I dont think anyone would know what they are going to do until they see the situation. If you see a large, scary looking dude asking for your money and across the street there is a sweet little puppy that is skin and bone, who knows what you would do. If I dont have proper defence Im not helping the person with anything more than a meal and a few bucks. Simple as that. I will not take them anywhere, you can get hurt doing that.
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