You've remained on my heart, as well, Pat. I feel that you're still in a way blaming yourself for what happened. Of course you did all that you could, Pat! You are more knowledgable than most, in fact! The average person wouldn't have even known how to do what you did, realizing what seemed to be wrong and taking action to remove the obstruction, and, it's possible that this wasn't even the cause. The only way Frankie could have been saved would be if she had been in the hospital right then, if that. Please never allow yourself to think you were at fault for having not saved her!
Frankie was meant to come into your life, and for some reason we are unable to understand right now, God needed to call her home to Heaven. Knowing this doesn't ease the pain, I know, but it does remind us that this happened for a purpose. You remain in my prayers, Pat. Special hugs to you from me and sweet snuggles from my girlies