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post #31 of 44
I hope your feeling better quickly
post #32 of 44
Carol, you "sound" a lot perkier! I'm glad you're feeling good enough to go without the meds during the day.

I am just so, so sorry to hear about your Dad. I'm keeping your family in my prayers.



Laurie
post #33 of 44
Glad to hear you're doing better, but I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I hope your mum is doing ok, I bet she's doing it tough right now - lots of vibes!
post #34 of 44
Oh carol I didnt realize Hospice was there for your Dad. Sending so many prayers and vibes for your family right now. Many hugs to you.

Lots of recovery vibes for you
post #35 of 44
Big virtual hug ... b/c a real one might hurt!

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad. Best wishes...
post #36 of 44
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That VitaLady site is great! Thank you so much!
you're welcome. i just ordered some protein bars the other day. got a show coming up, & they make a good 'meal on the go' for me.
post #37 of 44
I hope that you continue to improve!

I am so sorry about your father. I recently went through some very similar stuff, and I know how draining (in every imaginable way) it can be. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts
post #38 of 44
Thread Starter 
You guys are so good to me... thank you for continuing to think of our family.

Mom and I went to see the oncologist yesterday to ask if we were doing the right thing. as it right to stop the chemo and go on hospice as we've done...or was there enough of a chance that the chemo might really make a difference that we should find some way to get him down there for the treatments anyway?

He said that there was perhaps a 5% to 10% chance that the chemo would lengthen Papa's life, but that was more than offset by the likelihood that it would make him even more miserable than he already is and possibly shorten his time by weakening him further in ways that have nothing to do with the cancer. He said if it was his family, he would do just what we've done, and enjoy the time we have, however short it may be.

We knew that, really, but we wanted to hear it clearly from him... because we didn't want to wake up down the road and think oh my god did we cause Papa to go earlier than he had to?

So... we're fully committed to the hospice plan now. As Amy (Momofmany) taught us, we're in the Love & Cheese Danish stage. Papa isn't much interested in food, but when we can entice him to eat, we're making sure it's something he loves... apple pie, bacon, fried green tomatoes, my homemade bread with sage and parmesan... I ought to get him some watermelon pickle, too, he used to love that. And his brother Gerald sent him some of his son's homemade honeys and syrups awhile back, and of course Papa couldn't have them, being diabetic... but now we can give him a little on homemade biscuits or pancakes and he'll love it. I'm also making him eggnog almost every night before bed -- using a vanilla Boost nutrition drink, some refrigerated Eggbeaters, vanilla and rum extracts, cinnamon, and nutmeg. He doesn't know the Boost is in there, so I feel dishonest, but it's helping him get proper nutrition.

I keep trying to think of other things he might enjoy. I know we have a scale model of a Piper L-4 like he flew in WWII somewhere, and if I can find it, I'll build it and hang it from the skylight in the living room, where he can see it. And we bought him a digital photo frame, too... I need to find a way to mount that where he can see it easily.

Do any other ideas occur to you?
post #39 of 44
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Do any other ideas occur to you?
How about old time radio shows, that would be from his youth, young adult years? Radio Spirits (google the name sells these on cd. My dh loves these (Philip Marlowe etc.) so I buy them as presents for him.

Anything that is comedy from those years as well, nothing more special than a good laugh

We did the radio shows for my Gram when she was in her last year, and she adored them.
post #40 of 44


It sounds like you're doing everything you can to make him as happy and as comfortable as possible. Your love really shines through. It's just a situation that is just terrible, and my heart goes out to anyone who suffers as well as to the people that support them. Your pop is a very special person - and he's lucky to have you.



Laurie
post #41 of 44
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How about old time radio shows, that would be from his youth, young adult years? Radio Spirits (google the name sells these on cd. My dh loves these (Philip Marlowe etc.) so I buy them as presents for him.

Anything that is comedy from those years as well, nothing more special than a good laugh

We did the radio shows for my Gram when she was in her last year, and she adored them.
THAT is a fabulous idea! What about TV shows? There are collections out there now on DVD that have George & Gracie - was he ever a fan of W.C. Fields? We love International House, My Little Chickadee and Bank Dick - all available on DVD.

Laurie
post #42 of 44
Music!

When Jess's grandmother was in the hospital in her final weeks, she liked to have music played for her or to be sung to. There's something profoundly comforting about people you love singing to you, even if they're not particularly talented.
post #43 of 44
Carol, I missed this thread until today. I was actually just thinking that you must be having your surgery about now, and here it was.

I'm glad the operation went well, and sorry that you're in pain. Sending you many vibes that it gets better soon.

Music was also a great comfort to my father-in-law when he was at the end of his life. He especially enjoyed the big band music from the WWII era. (In fact, we have quite a story involving Count Bassie, but it's too long to relate here.)

I think the most important thing is that you're there for him, and that you enjoy the time you have left with him.
post #44 of 44
Carol, i'm gonna ask, 'cause i can't remember - does he have pancreatic cancer? that's what my grandmother had...
nutrition-wise, try adding some of your protein powder to those eggnogs.
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