You guys are so good to me... thank you for continuing to think of our family.
Mom and I went to see the oncologist yesterday to ask if we were doing the right thing. as it right to stop the chemo and go on hospice as we've done...or was there enough of a chance that the chemo might really make a difference that we should find some way to get him down there for the treatments anyway?
He said that there was perhaps a 5% to 10% chance that the chemo would lengthen Papa's life, but that was more than offset by the likelihood that it would make him even more miserable than he already is and
his time by weakening him further in ways that have nothing to do with the cancer. He said if it was his family, he would do just what we've done, and enjoy the time we have, however short it may be.
We knew that, really, but we wanted to hear it clearly from him... because we didn't want to wake up down the road and think oh my god did we cause Papa to go earlier than he had to?
So... we're fully committed to the hospice plan now. As Amy (Momofmany) taught us, we're in the Love & Cheese Danish
stage. Papa isn't much interested in food, but when we can entice him to eat, we're making sure it's something he loves... apple pie, bacon, fried green tomatoes, my homemade bread with sage and parmesan... I ought to get him some watermelon pickle, too, he used to love that. And his brother Gerald sent him some of his son's homemade honeys and syrups awhile back, and of course Papa couldn't have them, being diabetic... but now we can give him a little on homemade biscuits or pancakes and he'll love it. I'm also making him eggnog almost every night before bed -- using a vanilla Boost nutrition drink, some refrigerated Eggbeaters, vanilla and rum extracts, cinnamon, and nutmeg. He doesn't know the Boost is in there, so I feel dishonest, but it's helping him get proper nutrition.
I keep trying to think of other things he might enjoy. I know we have a scale model of a Piper L-4 like he flew in WWII somewhere, and if I can find it, I'll build it and hang it from the skylight in the living room, where he can see it. And we bought him a digital photo frame, too... I need to find a way to mount that where he can see it easily.
Do any other ideas occur to you?