Originally Posted by sarahp
Just tell your hubby that you didn't get a bonus after all, but someone gave you some really pretty pink, sparkly shoes!.
The husband of a friend of mine is very controlling when it comes to money. She worked and so did he...sometimes...but she didn't have the freedom to go and spend money, not even groceries. At one time he used to go with her to the store and write the cheque.
At first she was foolish enough to tell him when she got raises and bonuses because even then she didn't have freedom to spend any money without his approval.
I talked her into not telling him about her raises or bonuses so that she would have some spending money of her own that she didn't have to account to him for. She liked that idea. She even went and applied for a department store credit card and used my address to have the bill sent to. I was more than happy to help her
And she used the money she never told him about to pay the bill
It was years before he let up on the purse strings. But she still never told him about her raises. It would look funny if she never ever got a raise, so once every couple years she would tell him that she got a 10 cent an hour raise. That kept him happy, hehe