I didnt know you were married before Gail ......... I dont know that back story on why you are not with him ..... so all I can offer you are some hugs I hope you are happy with the direction things are going for you now, too.
I'm sorry this date brings unhappy feelings with it. But just think...if you hadn't been with him at the time, you may not have gotten Tavia. Everything happens for a reason, and maybe bringing her into your heart and home was the reason for that relationship (no matter how it ended). Something wonderful came from that time in your life - your beautiful girl Tavia!