or Connect
TheCatSite.com › Forums › General Forums › New Cats on the Block › new kitten meets scaredy cat
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

new kitten meets scaredy cat

post #1 of 16
Thread Starter 
Hello everyone, I'm new here..nice to meet you all! I wonder if you can help..

I have one rescue tabby boy (Oscar) that I have had since he was a kitten, he's nearly five. He is a gorgeous cat - very loving and affectionate - not a mean bone in his body. I have been wanting to get a kitten as a companion for him for a while now and on Saturday I finally brought home a beautiful chocolate stripey girl of about 8 weeks (Amber). She is very sweet and playful and is settling in well. I just wanted to ask how long you think it will be before Oscar accepts her. When I brought Amber home he hissed at her and ran away. He seems really frightened of her and will not be in the same room for longer than two minutes. She is completely unfazed by him and ignores him. She is really non-threatening and just walks away with her tail in the air. Oscar keeps going outside and sitting by the cat flap just watching the house. I feel so sorry for him..I hope he can get over it and the two can be friends..she isn't chasing him or being mean at all. I have been stroking her and then stroking him to transfer their scent and have also been giving him loads of fuss when he comes in. I know it's early days but I am feeling guilty that he feels unable to come in and chill out like he used to do. My husband, who adores Oscar, says that Amber will have to go if Oscar continues to bolt out the door when he sees her. I just wanted to be able to reassure him (and myself) that it will work out!
This is a very long post...sorry! Hope you can give me some reassurance..
post #2 of 16
Hello and welcome to TCS! All cats are different. Some take to each other right away and some can take weeks or months. And some might not ever get along.
post #3 of 16
Hello and welcome to the site - this is an interesting subject and very dear to many a member here
Have you had chance to read this TCS thread you may get some ideas and tips from there Also have a look at this TCS link about multi-cat household.

Scent swapping is a great start, so you are on the rights tracks it just takes time - unfortunately as you know all cats are very different and some may settle quicker than others

Oscar is probably just feeling a bit threatened he has had his territory invaded. Its just normal cat behaviour really and it will settle in time

Well good luck and keep us posted on the progress of your kitties ! If you get chance maybe you post some photos in the Fur Pictures Forum we love photos here

Glad you dropped in to join us and enjoy the forums !
post #4 of 16
Hola y bienvenido a TCS, ...Catulina y Milky te saludan!!........
(Translate: Hi and Welcome to TCS, Catulina and Milky say hello to you!!!...)

See you on the forums!
post #5 of 16
Welcome to TCS.
post #6 of 16
Hi & Welcome to TCS! You will love it here, as we all do!

I'm sorry that your Oscar is not happy with the new friend you brought in for him.

My mom had 2 cats for a couple years, both girls and then rescued a BEAUTIFUL cat that was living outside at her work (she works in a garden center and was afraid that he'd freeze to death in the winter). He was a male cat and still to this day (it's been about 3 months), when she leaves the house one of the cats has to be confined to a different room. They just don't get along.

I wish you the best of luck with both your kitties and look forward to getting to know you and your babies!


post #7 of 16
Hello and welcome!

Over the years, I have introduced new cats to the old cats in the household and yes, the older cat's nose always got out of joint but it never really lasted too long. You say Oscar is a very nice cat so I would imagine he'll get used to the new little fuzz ball before long.

Get this: we had 2 cats together for years but were changing our situation and had to find a new home for them. We had a family who only wanted 1 so we reluctantly let them just take 1. 5 days later they called - their son was allergic to the cat so they had to return him but they loved him and were brokenhearted. So after being away 5 days, the cat returned and acted as if he'd never lived with us before. He hissed at the other cat and slunk around the house sniffing and hiding. It was so bizarre.
post #8 of 16
Thread Starter 
Thanks all for your advice and stories.. I have read the other threads and will definately try some of the tips.

Tonight I got a feather on a string (Oscar loves this game) and lured him into the frontroom with it whilst Amber was asleep. We played for ages and he sat on my lap and we had a cuddle. When Amber woke up I played with the feather with her and Oscar sat and watched - a very good boy, though I could tell he was jumpy now that she was up and about. She boldy went right up to him and he swiped her and yowled right at her. She ran away and so did he..
Later on he came back in and snifffed her on her bed, she opened one eye and ignored him and he went back outside. It's looking promising - at least he hasn't disappeared outside forever, he does keep coming back in - he seems so wary of her, but at the same time intrigued..maybe it's love
I will keep you posted of anything that happens - thanks for listening.
post #9 of 16
Hello & welcome

I to have an adult cat ( max 5 years old ) and a kitten ( Ashley 13 weeks )
It took max a week before he fully accepted her.He did the hissing and spitting and running far,far, far away.......LOL but after a week they were buddy buddy.Give it time and Congrats on your new fur baby
post #10 of 16
Welcome and Congrats on your new baby

It sounds like things are starting to look up it just takes time Oscar has been the baby for 5 yrs right ? He just doesn't want to share mommy & daddy but he will just need time. My Scrappy-doo was 5 yrs old when we brought home baby Kita she like Oscar is so laid back, good manner but didn't like the fact that a new baby was in the house it took awhile but now they love each other Scrappy now is 16 yrs old and still going strong & Kita is 10.

Cute story--- We had sold our home in Cape MA bought another in RI. the day the movers came scrappy took off I was heart broken my neighbor said she would look out for her well day went by we got the call to pick her up my husband went to the cape to get her...
here is the cute back of the story he brought her in the house put her on the floor well scrappy-doo and Kita seen each other and they both kissed each other what looked like on the lips I was so amazed at what I saw.... they missed each other.
This story is to gives you hope I know things will work out.
post #11 of 16
Hello and Welcme
post #12 of 16
Hi welcome to TCS!
post #13 of 16
post #14 of 16
Hi there we're so happy to get the chance to welcome you, Oscar and Amber to TCS. I'm sure you'll enjoy your stay with us - we're one great big family and you'll find loads of friends here. If I can help at all while you're finding your way around TCS just click on my username and send me a Personal Message - I'll do what I can to answer your questions

I see that you've had some great advice here already. I'm so happy that it looks like progress is being made. Patience and understanding are the two watchwords when it comes to introducing a new kitty Good luck!
post #15 of 16
Hello and welcome to TCS! It's great that you've joined us!

If you have any questions about the site, please feel free to click on my username and send me a private message. I'll be happy to help.

It sounds like you've made a good start. I think your boy will come along just fine...keep following all of the good advice the site has to offer about introductions, and all should be well.
post #16 of 16

Our Daisy is not keen on the other two, she tolerates them I make sure she has places she can go to get away from them.
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: New Cats on the Block
TheCatSite.com › Forums › General Forums › New Cats on the Block › new kitten meets scaredy cat