Hey, guys
I haven't been on a while 'cause of my schedule and all, but I have a situation I'd like your opinion on.
We've had our boy cat Cal almost a year now and got him when he was three months old. We've never neutered him 'cause he's an indoor cat only, and we've never had problems with him spraying. He's a perfectly good cat, and we love him very much, except for one major problem: it's a one-way relationship.
Cal won't give kisses, he won't sleep by us, he won't sit on our laps, he sometimes runs when he sees us, and he's just totally unsociable around people and other cats. When my sister brought her cat over, he hissed at her, and he hissed at my niece and nephew. He doesn't hiss at us, and sometimes he gets a bit loveable if he wants to play or get fed, but basically he's anti-social and just keeps to himself. He doesn't give any love. We don't know why he's like that, and as I just wrote, he can be loveable when he chooses to, but we're getting tired of it. We are seriously thinking of getting another cat.
We'd still keep Cal, but there are several things we're worried about. We'd get a boy so there'd be no problems with gender, but we wonder if Cal would adjust. If he gets jealous, could he start spraying or something? Would he pick fights with the other cat? We never had cats before, so we're really unsure, but Cal is not satisfying as a pet and what are we to do? We're just worried if we get another cat Cal might get mean and misbehave and spray.
So....what are your guys' thoughts? Anyone deal with this kind of situation before? Any input would be appreciated. We really want another cat, but are concerned we'll end up with more problems than what we started with.
Let me know your thoughts!
I haven't been on a while 'cause of my schedule and all, but I have a situation I'd like your opinion on.
We've had our boy cat Cal almost a year now and got him when he was three months old. We've never neutered him 'cause he's an indoor cat only, and we've never had problems with him spraying. He's a perfectly good cat, and we love him very much, except for one major problem: it's a one-way relationship.
Cal won't give kisses, he won't sleep by us, he won't sit on our laps, he sometimes runs when he sees us, and he's just totally unsociable around people and other cats. When my sister brought her cat over, he hissed at her, and he hissed at my niece and nephew. He doesn't hiss at us, and sometimes he gets a bit loveable if he wants to play or get fed, but basically he's anti-social and just keeps to himself. He doesn't give any love. We don't know why he's like that, and as I just wrote, he can be loveable when he chooses to, but we're getting tired of it. We are seriously thinking of getting another cat.
We'd still keep Cal, but there are several things we're worried about. We'd get a boy so there'd be no problems with gender, but we wonder if Cal would adjust. If he gets jealous, could he start spraying or something? Would he pick fights with the other cat? We never had cats before, so we're really unsure, but Cal is not satisfying as a pet and what are we to do? We're just worried if we get another cat Cal might get mean and misbehave and spray.
So....what are your guys' thoughts? Anyone deal with this kind of situation before? Any input would be appreciated. We really want another cat, but are concerned we'll end up with more problems than what we started with.