I was so MEAN now wondering if I was too mean :(

momof3rugratz · Mar 29, 2007

I tried because I was in public but now that I think about it I should of.

catloverin_ks · Mar 29, 2007

Originally Posted by GingersMom

I think you actually were remarkably restrained, considering.

I would have sternly said: "Back AWAY from my baby bump, you psycho, or I'll scream for the police!"

People have NO RIGHT touching strangers like that!

Umm

I would of flipped out......

dragoriana · Mar 29, 2007

Originally Posted by momof3rugratz

Ok I might get hated for this thread but it is right there on my mind and I can not put it aside.

You all can see I am pregnant right am very noticable...

Well in the grocery store this really thin lady just kept staring at me no matter what I did. I went down isle she did she was following me all over the place.

They she came up to me and no warning put her hands on my belly scaring the crud out of me and asked me Are you pregnant ... I said nope I just drank 3 cases of beer in the parking lot. She let go and said oooooooo you are big when ya do I said anytime now bye she precedded to keep following me with 5 kids of her own and she said can I feel the baby I said no that makes me uncomfortable. She said well ya look mighty far along. I said GOODBYE very sturn to her.

I feel so bad that I snapped and basically was a smart@$$ to her. Do you all think so to...

Oh god please do NOT feel bad for the way you reacted. No stranger has any right to come up to you and do that without first asking!! That makes me so

mad and im not even pregnant! Even with my own aunts i asked first, because i knew they would have people doing the same thing to them.

its almost as bad as those strangers (mainly grandparents) who give you their advice when your child is screaming in public!!!

theimp98 · Mar 29, 2007

lol sorry, but as soon as she touched me, i would have been swinging.
cant help it its a auto response to stuff. sometimes.

trouts mom · Mar 29, 2007

I don't get why people think they can touch a preggo belly

I would clock someone if they touched me with no warning

ilovesiamese · Mar 29, 2007

Originally Posted by GingersMom

I think you actually were remarkably restrained, considering.

I would have sternly said: "Back AWAY from my baby bump, you psycho, or I'll scream for the police!"

People have NO RIGHT touching strangers like that!

Originally Posted by momof3rugratz

I did let someone touch my bump Monday.. There was a Lady in the doctor office who I have known only by what the nurses tell me. She is pregnant 4 months this is the furthest she has gone in 5 pregnancy's It was sad...

Well she was looking at me and asked me ?'s and then she said I looked good for 9 months then Abby kicked so hard you could see my tummy ripple all over.. She said You can say no but can I feel what a kick feels like. I said yes her face lit up more then any Xmas tree I have seen.....

Wednesday when I went in the office the nurse said that Nancy the lady who felt the kick left her appt grinning from ear to ear they said it was nice of me and it gives her hope this time. I felt good about that...

But that lady heck no she freaked me out ALOT...

Awe that is such a sad, bitter sweet story. You are so kind!

Originally Posted by Pookie-poo

I never even touched my best friend's baby belly. I certainly wouldn't touch a stranger's baby belly! You were unbelievably nice, considering...

Yea, I would feel uncomfortable if it was my sister even. My good friend is preggo right now (about 6 months) and I've known her for 2 years and I'm not even comfortable asking...it just seems like such an invasion of space.

jenje! · Mar 29, 2007

I can't wait to have children... I've already decided my course of action in this situation... I'll very calmly stick my hand onto their face and wiggle my fingers. Kind of like my boyfriend's cat pressing his nose against yours and following your face.

Nothing like some germy hand oils on someone's nicely moisturized face.

Then there will be punching.

A co-worker of mine is pregnant, and I HAVE had the urge to rub her belly... but would NOT ever do that. It's darn creepy! I did tell her the other day, "Just FYI, I have this strange urge to touch your stomach." She said, "Oh, you can," and I said, "No, I'm not gonna, I just wanted you to know I had the URGE to, haha," -- even with permission I can NOT imagine doing that to someone.

catsallover · Mar 29, 2007

Originally Posted by sarahp

I was talking to someone about this, and this is what have I decided...

If any stranger asks if they can touch my belly I'm going to ask if I can touch their backside first.

If anyone just reaches out and fondles my belly, I will just reach around and grab their backside.

If I get into conversation with someone and the baby's kicking, and they want to feel that and I'm comfortable with them, that's fine. And if I have close friends who want to rub my belly for good luck or anything crazy, that's fine too! But strangers touching me - I'll teach them a lesson and make sure they don't do it again

I don't know about that- when I was in my last trimester, I had enough trouble reaching my own backside!

But seriously, the fact that she was staring and following you around would have freaked me out, let alone the coming up and touching you out of the blue!

I really didn't mind if someone touched my tummy, but anyone who did usually asked first and was really polite and respectful about it (unless it was a really close family member, like my sister or mom- they already knew I didn't mind it, though

When you've tried for 11 years to get pregnant, you have to resist the urge to grab stranger's hands and put them on your belly and say "Feel! The baby is kicking (has the hiccups, etc.)!" LOL

).

I think you handled it well, especially considering the freaky part of it

.

kluchetta · Mar 29, 2007

I think you should have belched...AND scratched yourself!

Moz · Mar 29, 2007

I agree with the others, you were too nice. People are strange!

Imagine if that same woman went up to someone and touched their belly to find out they weren't pregnant.

momof3rugratz · Mar 30, 2007

Originally Posted by kluchetta

I think you should have belched...AND scratched yourself!

Trust me next time I will my DB said I should of also l

gemlady · Mar 30, 2007

I have never had the urge to touch a pregnant woman's belly. (Pregnant kitty bellies I do love to touch!)

I lurk at another site and this issue came up. One person said they's get a Tshirt with "Touch my belly and you'll pull back a stump...".

momof3rugratz · Mar 30, 2007

Originally Posted by gemlady

I have never had the urge to touch a pregnant woman's belly. (Pregnant kitty bellies I do love to touch!)

I lurk at another site and this issue came up. One person said they's get a Tshirt with "Touch my belly and you'll pull back a stump...".

I need that t-shirt but I hope to have her out in a few days lol

catsallover · Mar 30, 2007

Now pregnant kitty tummies are a whole 'nother thing! If you touch a pregnant kitty's tummy and she doesn't want it touched, you just may pull back a nub!

momof3rugratz · Mar 30, 2007

Originally Posted by catsallover

Now pregnant kitty tummies are a whole 'nother thing! If you touch a pregnant kitty's tummy and she doesn't want it touched, you just may pull back a nub!

LOL yep or when ya pull back there will be blood shed lol

gemlady · Mar 30, 2007

Our momma kitties always enjoyed the belly rubs - especially those last few days when they look so miserable.

momof3rugratz · Mar 30, 2007

I think like us the belly gets sore when the kicking gets to much and we rub there bellys and they thinkit is comforting.

jellybella · Mar 30, 2007

It's amazing how some people think pregnant women are public property!! I don't think you were out of line at all. She was creepy and you are not a walking "learning experience"!!

gailc · Mar 30, 2007

I would have been a bit weirded out by having a stranger do this to me!! Did she even ask permission or just touched you?? That would have been creepy!!
i think you did the right thing.

momof3rugratz · Mar 30, 2007

she stared, followed me, then touched, Never asked

I was so MEAN now wondering if I was too mean :(

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