Am I wrong or a mean mom

If I get three months to do something I will have to scramble to do it at the last moment, I'm the world's worst procrastinator. I'm a lot better since I found Flylady.net . Her system works for kids as well and is completely free. Couldn't resist to give that tip since it helped me so much.

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My little sister is 16 as of Monday. Did you know the world revolves around a 16 year old? She got away with doing nothing. Now, she's giving my mom heck. Be mean now. If they smart off, take away something else. You don't want them to grow up to be my little sister. She's a big ol' PITA!

Originally Posted by Snuzy

According to your kids, and my kids, you and I are mean. I'm the worse parent in the world. I keep telling my son to go find a better home, but he hasn't left yet.

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Sorry, I wasn't sure whether I was meant to find this funny or not- but it made me laugh

Originally Posted by silentNate

Sorry, I wasn't sure whether I was meant to find this funny or not- but it made me laugh

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You have to laugh or you'd cry. I'm always joking about my kids like that, or at least people think I'm kidding.

Originally Posted by AmberThe Bobcat

No, you are not being mean at all. If it was me, I would have taken away ALL DVD's and all the games. Then, I would have told them, you can not play any more games or watch DVD's until your rooms are clean and kept clean. However, I have no kids, but I know this is something my mom and dad would have done. My sisters and I used to have chores to do almost every day

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Yep, I agree, I would take away everything until the rooms were clean and kept clean.

They could earn stuff back, if not then they can just sit in a dirty room and look at each other.

You have to teach them while they are young, and with the new baby coming they need to learn that they have to help out.

And this is what I would do and this is what I have done with my kids when they were little.

And no you are not being a mean mom either.

Well, I have a stepson that I'm raising who is 13 years old, who I love dearly, but is sincerely lacking in the responsibility department. I've also taught middle school.

I am, what you would call, a Nazi. But, I'm a loving Nazi. In in the time that my stepson has been a part of my "regime", I'm proud to say that he's gotten his act together, or at least made serious progress.

I give him about 2 hours to get that room together...and only 2. I set a timer, provide him with the necessary supplies, and walk away. He knows EXACTLY what I mean by "cleaning his room." Dirty clothes go downstairs, garbage off the floor, and taken outside, desk and top of drawers straightened, junk out from underneath the bed, clean clothes put away, etc. If ANY (and I mean ANY) of these tasks are not completed to our desired expectations, the TV and Playstation suddenly "disappear." Poof!!! And so does his phone and outdoor priviledges. And they stay gone for 2 days...this is a lot like torture for my stepson, so, it has worked well. He knows what is expected, and he knows the consequences.

In your boys' case, I would REMOVE any and EVERYTHING of recreational enjoyment from their presence for a specified period of time, if your demands haven't been met in 3 hours. And it is NOT to be returned, for a week. PERIOD. And the back-talking thing will simply not happen. Say, "If one word comes out of your mouth to argue this situation, then we can make it a week and a half. It's up to you." This is to be said with an evil eye, and a rather Stalin-esque voice.

It'll work.

Yep, they have to learn that you mean what you say.

Originally Posted by Snuzy

His favorite thing to do is just run back and forth in the living room or family room and fall on the floor making believe he's fighting someone. How do you take that away? Tie him to a post somewhere??

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Look on the bright side - that's better exercise than sitting in front of the TV all day

Wookie130, you're my hero

Originally Posted by momof3rugratz

ok i can not lift so I took all the cords LOL and these little memory cards and the remotes

There TV does work with remote only but I took the cable wires

I will let them know enough is enough I know they are great kids but right now I am disappointed they wopnt listen to me.

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Good! I think you did the right thing!

It is refreshing to see that i'm not the only one that is strict. I'm also a loving nazi.

So many times I just see other parents who do not discipline period...and they are literally on the shelves in the store, throwing stuff down. The only thing I can think is "you are so lucky i am not your mom" and sometimes i apologize when my daughter is too animated at the dr or whatever and i usually get "are you kidding? she's fine! we've seen a lot worse". I'm sure they have but she still gets in trouble for being rowdy when she needed to be quiet for 10 minutes while we conduct whatever business.

So to all loving nazis:

When I took stuff away from my kids, or I grounded them, they would tell me I was mean too, I told them that was my right as their mother, and when they got to be a mom or dad, then they could be mean to their kids too.

Originally Posted by ClaireBear

You gave them 3 months to clean? There's the problem right there, thier not going to do a thing until the last minute when they think the time is running out. Sit them all down and tell them that for every day that the room isn't clean, your going to take away some of thier toys/privledges. So tomorrow if you go up there and it's not clean, confiscate the playstation. If that doesn't get thier attention, the next day take away something else they care about. Eventually thier going to want that stuff back and make a solid effort to clean up. Once it's clean I'd give them some of thier stuff back. You have to be stern though, as soon as it gets messy again, they stuff gets taken away instantly. That's what I would do anyway.

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I totally agree with that!

You're not being mean, your being a good mom! My mom would have been a whole lot harder on us than that. We wouldn't have had anything left to play with until we earned it back!

Originally Posted by momof3rugratz

ok i can not lift so I took all the cords LOL and these little memory cards and the remotes

There TV does work with remote only but I took the cable wires

I will let them know enough is enough I know they are great kids but right now I am disappointed they wopnt listen to me.

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Good Mommy! I agree with Rosey that you might have to explain specifically what you expect from them. Kids don't think like us

Well they hate me and right now I do not care they are finally cleaning the pig stals up LOL. I told my oldest that he can find another home if he doesnt want to live here. I said yes it will break my heart but I am at a lost for what he feels is fair when I do it all down to the cooking and stuff all he has to do is wipe his butt clean his room put the dishes in the dishwasher at night and turn it on then I preceeded with all I did and asked him if he wanted to trade and I will do his

thank you I am feeling better and they do see I am 100% seriouse I even bought a chain and lock

Originally Posted by momof3rugratz

thank you I am feeling better and they do see I am 100% seriouse I even bought a chain and lock

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Good for you, stick to your guns.