I am really freaked out right now. There has been 12 homocides in the past 14 days in memphis. Just this weekend alone, there has been 4 murders. There has been numerous shootings and murders right by my duplex
. Here's the thing and I would like some honest opinions please. I am petrified to stay at my duplex anymore. I live with my mom in a 2 bedroom duplex in a pretty bad part of Memphis. We've lived there 13+ years. I love our duplex- but i hate our neighbors and the violence around the area. It's gotten to the point that in the past few months- i've just been living at Colin's house out in Bartlett, Tennessee (right outside of memphis- literally down the street). It's much safer in Bartlett- and Colin is a Bartlett cop as well as his neighbor and my good friend Tony. I feel sooooo much safer out here and don't have to worry about getting shot or worse if i walk outside for two seconds. Here's the thing- i really wasn't planning on living with Colin before we're married- but at this point- it's my only option aside from staying in my really bad neighborhood.He doesn't want me moving anywhere else and insists i stay with him- he wants to take care of me. And i am happy to have that. I work full time and help out too
. Colin says he doesn't mind and has insisted i stay with him- he won't even let me go to my duplex by mylsef anymore- he always goes with me and brings his weapon (he is lisenced to carry a conceled weapon). For the past few months- i've pretty much been living out of my suitcase- all of my clothes are at Colins - he fixed me up a pretty chest of draws in his room and i have everything here i need to get by- but all of my other things- furniture, etc...are at my house with my mom. I have my foster kitten at Colins house with me. But my girls - my 4 kitties, my rabbit, and my dog are at my mom's house (she has been so kind to take care of them there for me.) I'm really worried about my mom- Colin has offered to let her move in here with him and I for her own safety- but she refuses. However she doesn't have any extra $ to move to a better area
/ Here's another thing- i'm REALLY missing my girls. My mom said this week that if i wanted, I could bring them to Colins with me. (i was waiting to have the ok from her.) I will be leaving Ginger (my dog) and Abilene with my mom- they are sooooo bonded with her that even though they're mine- i could never take them away from my mom- it would break her heart. So I would be taking Sophie (my bunny), Isabella, Jasmine, and Velvet with me if Colin agreed as well as my bettas. I just don't really know how to ask him. What do you think? I don't want to impose on him...but he's already insisted i live with him. And if i'm living somewhere- i want my girls to be with me. I really miss them
. I just don't feel safe staying at my Duplex...not with the sheer amount of murders we've had in Memphis lately. I really want to have my things with me as well. Right now i kinda feel like i'm not really living anywhere- at Colin's i'm safe- but i don't have most of my things or my girls with me....and at my house....i feel lost without Colin. It's like Colins home is my home now. What do you think i should do/talk to him about? I've pretty much been living with him since August. I'm really lost as to what to do. I know I don't feel safe going back to my duplex though
I miss my girls and right now...i'm not really sure where i live anymore..i guess i live with Colin now- i just feel incomplete without my girls with me and my other things. you know...
I'm up for any suggestions ya'll might have. I'm really not sure how to bring it up to Colin- i know i can talk to him about anything- i'm just not sure how to ask him if i can go ahead and "finish" moving in with him- i just feel like he should do the asking and it would be rude of me to