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post #1 of 28
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I swear, this just isn't my month!
I have been back home this past week for Christmas with my family. I came back to our apartment today because I need to start looking for jobs again since I haven't heard back from the Hospital and I'm getting really stressed/depressed, all that stuff... so I come home to John and the kitties today to find messy house, which really started it all. He didn't even clean up his messes!
So before he heads to bed, I ask him if we can do something tomorrow night together since I've been gone for a week - he tells me, 'well, I'm going out.'
I've been gone and going out with your friends is more important?

So here I am, sitting here crying, wishing I would have stayed home with my family. I didn't even want to come back, sometimes I wish I lived a bit closer to my family -I always feel so good when I'm back home with them. I'm just getting super depressed with this whole job thing, and I guess him saying that really set me off.

I just needed to vent a little, I know you guys all understand...
post #2 of 28
Sorry your having a bad month! Any time I go over and spend time with my family at home I wish I could stay forever. Its just like being a kid again and not having to worry about anything really. The feeling like my mom and dad will take care of everything instead of me trying to figure it out on my own.
post #3 of 28
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Originally Posted by 4crazycats View Post
Sorry your having a bad month! Any time I go over and spend time with my family at home I wish I could stay forever. Its just like being a kid again and not having to worry about anything really. The feeling like my mom and dad will take care of everything instead of me trying to figure it out on my own.
Thats part of it... I just feel safe when I'm home, like everythings okay and I'm where I should be. I come back here and I just cry... and cry, wishing I was back there, cuz nothing ever goes right while I'm here - its back to the job searching and messes at home
post #4 of 28
Aww sweetie, I hope that things get better for you real soon! Things have been crappy here too. Let me know if you need someone to yell at ok?
post #5 of 28
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Aww sweetie, I hope that things get better for you real soon! Things have been crappy here too. Let me know if you need someone to yell at ok?
Thanks.... I was hoping things would be getting better after the holidays... lets hope they do cuz I can't take much more of this
post #6 of 28
i bet once the holidays are over, and you get back to work you will feel much better. Until then hang in there. and play with the boys.
post #7 of 28
Oh I know the feeling...of missing home and being without a job. Hang in there, things will perk up soon! And in the meantime, we're here for ya too!
post #8 of 28
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Until then hang in there. and play with the boys.
I couldn't agree more, because those little boys of yours will give you unconditional love
post #9 of 28
Kenz I really know the feeling. Life really sucks sometimes. Put on some music clean up your house and then just spend the day relaxing in the tub or reading a good book. Forget about your home problems for one day. Then get back to the grind of daily life.

Sometimes I wonder why I wanted to grow up so fast when I was a kid. Now I just want to be a kid with no worries again.
post #10 of 28
I've been there too, one thing I've found that helps me out when I get down about life is the quote: “One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.â€
one day at a time, that's all you can do
post #11 of 28
Kenz I always feel the same when spending time with family too, and the holidays just make it worse

Hang in there, and everything will work out, in the mean time, take your frustrations out on the housework, then pamper yourself with a long relaxing bath, some you time and snuggles with the kitties.
post #12 of 28
Mackenzie I am so sorry you are feeling down
John should get off hiss butt and clean up after himself IMO. Its not a huge thing but it would have made coming home so much easier for you, and he should know that.
I hate when guys dont think about things.
I am hoping you'll get lucky and find a job early in the new year. The perfect job will come along I am sure :hugs;
post #13 of 28
Kenz, I would have had a fit too. There is no reason you should have to come home to a big mess........and as for him wanting to go out with his friends, tell him fine. Whatever......then take everyone elses advice......pamper yourself.......love on your boys, and think about what you really want out of your future.........it will all fall into place, I promise!
post #14 of 28
Ugh! I know the feeling of coming home to a messy house. Whenever I go on vacation, the cats litter doesn't get cleaned or scooped. So if I'm gone for a weekend, that's one thing...a week...well I just feel bad for the cats...

Anyhoo, chin up, it's almost the new year and just remember this new year = new budget = businesses made room to hire.

good luck over the next few days.
post #15 of 28
MacKenzie I completely get where your coming from.... stress! Some days it would be easier to just stay in bed! Do you want me to come up there and give John a swift kick in his clueless you know what?! Guys are so oblivious sometimes....I'm sure this never would've bothered you if you hadn't been going through all of this other stress right now. Is it too much for them to just know when to baby us? Or when we need a little reassurance?! I am sure everyhting will be ok in the long run....maybe you need to show John your vulnerability right now....and tell him that you just need to be held a little & told that everything will be ok.
post #16 of 28
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Thanks everyone.... I was feeling a bit better this morning until I checked the mail.

I got a letter from the Hospital saying I didn't get the job
post #17 of 28
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Originally Posted by katiemae1277 View Post
I've been there too, one thing I've found that helps me out when I get down about life is the quote: “One day at a time--this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past for it is gone; and do not be troubled about the future, for it has not yet come. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful it will be worth remembering.â€
one day at a time, that's all you can do

Thats my motto, although alot of people cant live like that!
post #18 of 28
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Thanks everyone.... I was feeling a bit better this morning until I checked the mail.

I got a letter from the Hospital saying I didn't get the job
I am sorry Kenz! Everything will work out. The right job will come along soon. Hang in there girl!!
post #19 of 28
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I am sorry Kenz! Everything will work out. The right job will come along soon. Hang in there girl!!
I hope so... I saw the letter from them in the mail and instantly knew... I opened it up and I just started bawling, I've never in my whole life wanted something as bad as I wanted this job... I hope something better comes along.... I really do.
post #20 of 28
Aw Kenz, I'm sorry your having a rough time. It seems like alot of us are lately..It sucks you didn't get that job, but that just means something better is out there waiting for you

Soon, it will be a brand new year, and you can start fresh in a positive way!!

post #21 of 28
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Aw Kenz, I'm sorry your having a rough time. It seems like alot of us are lately..It sucks you didn't get that job, but that just means something better is out there waiting for you

Soon, it will be a brand new year, and you can start fresh in a positive way!!

Thanks Natalie... I hope next year is better than this year!
post #22 of 28
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Thanks Natalie... I hope next year is better than this year!
me too! Sorry about the hospital job Kenz....just trust that something better for you is right around the corner....
post #23 of 28
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I hope so... I saw the letter from them in the mail and instantly knew... I opened it up and I just started bawling, I've never in my whole life wanted something as bad as I wanted this job... I hope something better comes along.... I really do.
I'm also sorry you didn't get the position. And I DO know how it is to really want a job and not get it. But you must believe, that everything does happen for a reason and the right job will come along. Patience, as I have learned, is a must in life (and especially important on the job search).

If I can also throw something in, to give you a different perspective. I have been working for 17 years in various positions. In the last 5 years, I have been involved in the hiring process for 2 companies. I actually interviewed my replacement last year. Many times, a candidate will have all the qualifications and educational experience, but their personalities won't fit the position. In my last position, we needed to find a very strong headed, thick skin type personality because of the challenging personalities they had to deal with on a daily basis. We interviewed 4 candidates, and all were the same in qualifications, but the one we chose was mainly based on their personality. As a candidate, you wouldn't even think of that as the strongest factor, but we did.

When you go into an interview, you really don't know what 'hidden' factors the interviewers are looking for in a candidate. That's why, I learned after being involved in this process, that if I did my best in an interview - that's all I can do and I left it at that. Also, maybe that position wasn't so 'ideal'. It may look great, while you're looking in from the outside, but once you're in it may not be so great because of office politics or a number of other factors.


If you don't get a job, and you think you are the 'perfect' candidate, phone back the HR contact and ask some questions. Ask how the other candidate's qualifications were better suited for the position. Ask whether or not the hands-on experience was a factor or do you need to update your educations qualifications. The best way to find out how to improve your interview skills for next time, is to ask the person who last interviewed you and learn from it. If you don't ask, you will never know.

Again, Mackenzie, I know how hard it is to be unemployed and think the 'perfect' job has just slipped by. But, you really need to see each interview as an opportunity and if that one does not work out, you need to get back to the job search and move on to the next opportunity. And yes, there is more than one opportunity out there. I have gone for many interviews the last few years, and like the old saying goes....if at first you don't suceed.....try, try again.

Think of yourself as a business. If you don't score that one contract, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go right back out there.
post #24 of 28
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Originally Posted by Russian Blue View Post
I'm also sorry you didn't get the position. And I DO know how it is to really want a job and not get it. But you must believe, that everything does happen for a reason and the right job will come along. Patience, as I have learned, is a must in life (and especially important on the job search).

If I can also throw something in, to give you a different perspective. I have been working for 17 years in various positions. In the last 5 years, I have been involved in the hiring process for 2 companies. I actually interviewed my replacement last year. Many times, a candidate will have all the qualifications and educational experience, but their personalities won't fit the position. In my last position, we needed to find a very strong headed, thick skin type personality because of the challenging personalities they had to deal with on a daily basis. We interviewed 4 candidates, and all were the same in qualifications, but the one we chose was mainly based on their personality. As a candidate, you wouldn't even think of that as the strongest factor, but we did.

When you go into an interview, you really don't know what 'hidden' factors the interviewers are looking for in a candidate. That's why, I learned after being involved in this process, that if I did my best in an interview - that's all I can do and I left it at that. Also, maybe that position wasn't so 'ideal'. It may look great, while you're looking in from the outside, but once you're in it may not be so great because of office politics or a number of other factors.


If you don't get a job, and you think you are the 'perfect' candidate, phone back the HR contact and ask some questions. Ask how the other candidate's qualifications were better suited for the position. Ask whether or not the hands-on experience was a factor or do you need to update your educations qualifications. The best way to find out how to improve your interview skills for next time, is to ask the person who last interviewed you and learn from it. If you don't ask, you will never know.

Again, Mackenzie, I know how hard it is to be unemployed and think the 'perfect' job has just slipped by. But, you really need to see each interview as an opportunity and if that one does not work out, you need to get back to the job search and move on to the next opportunity. And yes, there is more than one opportunity out there. I have gone for many interviews the last few years, and like the old saying goes....if at first you don't suceed.....try, try again.

Think of yourself as a business. If you don't score that one contract, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and go right back out there.
Thanks Kass... that really is great advice. I just feel really down about a lot of things right now, and this unemployment thing just doesn't help matters much at all.
post #25 of 28
I know it sucks being unemployed, but just remember that you can do what many people wish they could do--stay at home all day! Just think back to those days at work when you wished you were home.....

I hope not to make you feel worse by asking this, but how is the person they replaced you with working out? Hopefully she has made the boss sorry he hired her!
post #26 of 28
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Originally Posted by white cat lover View Post
I know it sucks being unemployed, but just remember that you can do what many people wish they could do--stay at home all day! Just think back to those days at work when you wished you were home.....

I hope not to make you feel worse by asking this, but how is the person they replaced you with working out? Hopefully she has made the boss sorry he hired her!
Actually the girl that he hired in my spot messed up big time - she jacked up their phone bills to over $1,000 the 1st month by calling her family out in Oregon, and quit 2 weeks later. Lets just say I didnt give him one ounce of sympathy.
His daughter works for him now, and knows NOTHING. Its quite funny - I hate him with a passion, and hate is a strong word - but he's the one that put me in the unemployed category - so poo on him.
post #27 of 28
HA! Serves him right! ...sticks out tongue at him....

I wish you were back at home. I'd invite you over. I have 5 Lab X foster puppies....7 weeks old now. They're good kissers!
post #28 of 28
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HA! Serves him right! ...sticks out tongue at him....

I wish you were back at home. I'd invite you over. I have 5 Lab X foster puppies....7 weeks old now. They're good kissers!
I saw them in your thread!! They are SO darn cute! I'd be there in a second!
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