I just caught onto this thread - sending major hugs, prayers and vibes your way!!! I have a brain damaged daughter and know how stressful being a caretaker is
I'm glad that your mom has you. It is such a hassle, dealing with the person's medical and personal problems and then having to deal with agencies, appointments, managing your loved one's finances, shopping, etc., etc.,etc. - it's no wonder that caregivers often get ill themselves.
Sometimes I think that if it weren't for TCS, I would have major depression. To be honest, though, I'm starting to have some health issues, and that is despite the fact that my parents are having my daughter stay with them for awhile, to give my husband and me a break. My husband waited till age 50 to get married, and married me, but I don't think he realized what having a dev. disabled person would be like; sometimes I wish that we had a caregiver's forum here in TCS cuz it seems like catlovers are the most compassionate people in the world
Please keep us updated on your mother's condition and situation. You're not alone in this