Two things... I could use some reassurence

Hope things are working out for you and your mother. Hope she is feeling better now that she has medical care. You will be fine with the job thing. Just make the best of your time off, and help your mom, and hopefully you'll be able to make a nice xmas at home.

Hang in there!!!

How are things today?

NOt good ... she still cant even walk to the bathroom... I am actually starting to breakdown ... the dr told her the bottom parts of her lungs no longer work ... I am not looking forward to the rest of this illness

Originally Posted by sharky

NOt good ... she still cant even walk to the bathroom... I am actually starting to breakdown ... the dr told her the bottom parts of her lungs no longer work ... I am not looking forward to the rest of this illness

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I'm so sorry feel free to pm me anytime, I'll respond as soon as I can.
I know this is taking a huge toll, I also understand doing eactly what you are doing despite the toll. My dad's illness was very hard on him, and the entire family...I bless my aunt and uncle for their strength in honoring his wish to remain at home.

sending hugs,

Are there any agencies out there that you can turn to? What is the illness? Is it terminal? IF it is, she would be elgible for hospice services. I hope that is not the case. Other agencies, depending on her age, may be your county office of aging, if she needs in home care, can the doctor give an rx for a nurse? There might be something, ask the social worker at the hospital to see if your mother is eligible for some help. If you need referral from the doctor, call his office and ask for it. Hospice care does not have to be at the last minute. Eligibility is for 6 months. If there is any chance of this being the case, get it, and don't take no from the doctor. They seem very reluctant to make this referral. I still curse my fathers doctor for giving my mother a hard time. It would have made their life in those final months, much easier.

Again, even if there is a chance of it, she would be eligible.

Thank you ... i will look into again... last time they said shed have to pay for a nurse but now she is on medicare....

I just talked to her and she has been moved( doesnt know where ) so I will find out when I go in a little bit

I've been AWOL a few days, but wanted to add my get well wishes and new job wishes to the others.

So sorry about your mom, I will remember you all in my prayers

I'm sorry about your mom, I will keep her in my prayers.

Well she cant tell what day it is ... and isnt listening to the nurses ... but she may be relaxing a bit ..

Would she be oriented to date if you got her a large desk-size calendar that she could have on her nightstand? Just sending you thoughts and prayers.

well I dont think so as the nurses right the date on her bourd , she is only a day or two off but it is worrisome...

Still sending major vibes to you and your mom at this time{{{{{}}}}}

What is her diagnosis? Is her disorientation a result of her medication or sis she have a stroke or the beginnings of dementia. You said the bottom part of her lungs were no longer working, is she a smoker or is it something else.
If these questions are too personal, just ignore. I was just trying to get a handle on what is wrong and what can be expected.

Sending good thoughts and results for both of you.

She has Emphasema aka COPD( i have copd too but ) ... Yes she does smoke thou( crosses fingers she may have quit).... I do know what is comming just not sure since she has been in the same leval for about 6 years .... Her dr wants to talk to me ... I am not looking frd to this...

Good luck, Doc might think she would be better off in an assisted living place. Remember the hospital social worker should be able to help you and her. Sorry you are having such a hard time now.

I talked to one of the drs ... They are trying to gauge where to put her... I am hoping since she is up and walking a little to get her home... My question is should I check for a company or individual as shell need some care I may not know how to provide... She seems to be getting a little better just slow slow ....

Just read this thread - so sorry you are going through this. I do hope you find a solution to care that will be OK for your Mom.

I hope your mother continues to improve.

Originally Posted by sharky

I talked to one of the drs ... They are trying to gauge where to put her... I am hoping since she is up and walking a little to get her home... My question is should I check for a company or individual as shell need some care I may not know how to provide... She seems to be getting a little better just slow slow ....

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Jennifer, ask the hospital, and check with Medicare, about having a nurse come daily or 2 -3 times weekly to provide the care you can't, and to give you a break, which you'll need. My father, who already had asbestosis, suffered a massive stroke, and my mom kept him at home and cared for him for 6 years. Medicare did pay for nurse's visits when they were necessary, e.g., after he suffered a broken hip from a fall, or developed cellulitis after catching his paralysed arm in the wheelchair.