I am frustrated with my cat. I have had him almost 5 months and I feel like I have made little progress with him. I am just really disappointed. He is just not much of an attention seeker (he is 8 months old). I wouldn't really say he is skittish because he does pretty much follow us around the house. He likes to be in the same room we are. He just doesn't really seek us out for for petting. He rarely if ever sits on the couch let alone our laps -- only the floor (guess I don't have to worry about cat hair). He only sleeps under the bed or on top of his cat tree.
I always thought a lot of it was my kids being around. He pretty much can't walk by my four year old without be ambushed. He is extremely tolerant of the kids and doesn't really have a mean bone in his body which I am thankful for. I just thought it would be nice to to cuddle with him after the kids go to bed. Instead, he sat on the bed and cleaned himself, then jumped up and went under the bed. I am done "courting" him right now -- I don't know what else I can do beside pet him, give him treats, talk to him. He does like to be petted, he just never comes to us for it (unless you count plopping down in front of us on the floor). That is another thing -- I am tired of bending over or sitting on the floor to pet him -- I feel like saying "if you want me to pet you come sit by me for a change." The only time he willingly sits on me is 5:30 in the morning for about 20 minutes (the only time he is a love bug).
I know this sounds silly but this may be the only cat I have for the next 16 years so I can't help thinking he isn't living up to my expectations. Maybe I should have gotten a lap dog.
For those of you who will say "that is why you should have gotten an adult instead of a kitten" -- I was perfectly happy to adopt an adult cat but my husband is convinced that all adults in shelters are there because they pee in the house. Now my DH thinks the cat is standoffish and doesn't even try to be friends with him.
This is just a vent but any words of encouragement is appreciated.
I always thought a lot of it was my kids being around. He pretty much can't walk by my four year old without be ambushed. He is extremely tolerant of the kids and doesn't really have a mean bone in his body which I am thankful for. I just thought it would be nice to to cuddle with him after the kids go to bed. Instead, he sat on the bed and cleaned himself, then jumped up and went under the bed. I am done "courting" him right now -- I don't know what else I can do beside pet him, give him treats, talk to him. He does like to be petted, he just never comes to us for it (unless you count plopping down in front of us on the floor). That is another thing -- I am tired of bending over or sitting on the floor to pet him -- I feel like saying "if you want me to pet you come sit by me for a change." The only time he willingly sits on me is 5:30 in the morning for about 20 minutes (the only time he is a love bug).
I know this sounds silly but this may be the only cat I have for the next 16 years so I can't help thinking he isn't living up to my expectations. Maybe I should have gotten a lap dog.
For those of you who will say "that is why you should have gotten an adult instead of a kitten" -- I was perfectly happy to adopt an adult cat but my husband is convinced that all adults in shelters are there because they pee in the house. Now my DH thinks the cat is standoffish and doesn't even try to be friends with him.
This is just a vent but any words of encouragement is appreciated.