Originally Posted by marie-p
Well, I decided a few days ago to give some dating sites a try. I recently signed up for one (who I'm not sure I should be naming here), wrote up a profile and looked at other people's profiles.
So I ended up finding that one guy who seems very interesting. I sent him a smile, he sent me one back... so now we're stuck. There's no way I can contact him without paying (or without him paying)
So what do I do now? I certainly hadn't planned on actually spending money on these dumb sites... but I'd really like to talk to the guy.
I know the site you mean (starts with L and ends in E). Anyway, I've been using that site on and off for about 4 or 5 years.... not at all for the past 3 years. I gave up. You see I bought credits just because of the situation you describe. What a waste of money in my opinion.
I can honestly say that despite my having placed my ad in the long term relationship and dating categories, I didn't come across a one single sincere guy. I found that they were all into some kind of game, being they were either married looking for "fun on the side", or just looking for "fun and games and casual sex". I even managed to find a co-workers husband there
I agonized about what to do and in the end didn't say anything to her
But I did say something to him and he ended up blocking me from contacting him.
I also tried a few other of those online sites, including one that matches you in a variety of "dimensions" so that you find the best suited person. People aren't interested in being paired up with someone based on dimensions and not knowing what the other person looks like until you've spent days or weeks answering online questions back and forth without even having a chance at being able to communicate with the person outside those standard cut and dry Q&A forms you have to fill out each time they get back to you. Also, I found that unless I expanded my search field I wasn't getting any contacts, and when I expanded my search field all I got were a list of potentials thousands of miles away from me in another country, one that I wasn't interested in moving to (USA. I live in Canada and like it here).
I suggest that if you are seriously wanting to meet someone through a dating service, that you contact a local one in your city where you make a video and they screen the applicants who want to see your video. These online dating services don't screen their members and you will run into a number of kooks, despite what their ads may try and convey to you.