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post #31 of 55
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Originally Posted by angelkitty View Post
Amen,, I agree,, but he doesn't see it that way!!! MEN

lol yea, i know i would never date a guy.
post #32 of 55
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Originally Posted by Crystal211 View Post
Same here, I'd pull my hair out if I had to deal with the issues brought up here! We DO yell and have horrible fights, lol, but they are resolved quickly.

And don't worry about the two years...it took Erik SIX!
6? wow, I would have gone insane!! Colin and I had a serious talk about this last month. I told him that I loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him...but that I would not wait for years and years to make up his mind on how he truly felt about me....I will wait for him- I love him...but I will not wait forever for him to "choose me as the 1" you know...I've already chosen him....he's it for me. So hopefully he'll make that decision in a resonable amount of time about me too. I think he will. I know he loves me and he hints at it....so I don't pressure him about it...we only talked about it that once last month. I want it to be his decision...so i'm giving him the time and space to make that choice. I think it's only fair. I would never want to pressure him into a marriage- that is a serious commitment that should not be taken lightly...so i undestand him wanting to take some time to figure it out....but i definitely won't wait 10+years though...I'm ready to start my life and my family (but i did decide that if he hasn't said anything by our anniversery, I will kindly bring it up again and let him know that I need to know where he sees our future) Who knows! We'll see. I love him, and I really hope he pops the question soon, but my life doesn't depend on it...i'm getting my degree and planning to be self sufficent....but I also want to share my life and future family with him..He is the love of my life...and he definitely adds to the quality and happiness of my life...so hopefully he will want to get married soon We'll see! In the mean time i'm still waiting for that ring lol...
post #33 of 55
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Originally Posted by lilleah View Post
Oh and on the side of selfish-ness...Ladies, You'd be reading all night.
How about the latest one..
He quit his job yesterday because he doesnt LIKE IT! WHAT?!! You DONT LIKE YOUR JOB!?? To sum up most of his self-ishness, he just really, and I mean REALLY HONESTLY doesnt do anything he doesnt like.
Oh how I'd love to have a magic wand.

Oh boy, that does not sound good at all.
how it is nice to like your job, your not there to like it, your there to make money
to buy toys ok that was from the the guy in me. The wife would say, save save save save save save. i think she would shoot me if just up and quit.

sometimes to help out we all have to do things we dont like.


Well we raid, wed, thurs from 7 to 10, that it, that is all that i show up for
post #34 of 55
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Originally Posted by StarryEyedTiGeR View Post
6? wow, I would have gone insane!! Colin and I had a serious talk about this last month. I told him that I loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him...but that I would not wait for years and years to make up his mind on how he truly felt about me....I will wait for him- I love him...but I will not wait forever for him to "choose me as the 1" you know...
I talked to my wife for 5 years on the internet, everyday for hours how we both worked.
finally it took telling me that if did come to at least meet her in person she would stop talking to me. At first i was like yea, so what. then more i thought about it, more i did not like the idea of not talking to her again.

I said it was more easy for her to come to me, but she refused, said i was the male it was my job to come to her first. that is how i found myself on a plane to indoensia.
post #35 of 55
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Originally Posted by katiemae1277 View Post
When my ex and I were together, you have no idea how many times I wanted to take the darn controllers with me to work! I thought that *might* have been pushing it a little

I threw the entire playstation out the window... Controllers and all!!!!!!!

Now that is pushing it a little.... but it worked!
post #36 of 55
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Originally Posted by Pippy-pops View Post
I threw the entire playstation out the window... Controllers and all!!!!!!!

Now that is pushing it a little.... but it worked!

I hid my ex's favorite Xbox game until he was about to buy a new one. In my defense though, he chose to play that game with his friends over spending our first Valentine's day with me.
post #37 of 55
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Originally Posted by Jenny82 View Post
I hid my ex's favorite Xbox game until he was about to buy a new one. In my defense though, he chose to play that game with his friends over spending our first Valentine's day with me.
Jenny, that's the exact same reason why I chucked the playstation out the window!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well done!!!!!
post #38 of 55
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Originally Posted by Jenny82 View Post
I hid my ex's favorite Xbox game until he was about to buy a new one. In my defense though, he chose to play that game with his friends over spending our first Valentine's day with me.
To make matters worse... my ex chose to play the playstation with his "girl friend" (girl who was a friend..... at the time) who years later, much to my dismay, admitted that she'd talked him into staying with her instead of with me because she loved the satisfaction it gave her seeing me angry with him and she could therefore be there for him and to reassure him that he was in the right for wanting to carry on playing when I went nuts on him!

I found out many years later that they had an extramarital "thing" just after he and I split (she'd only been married 3 months)and it was all down to her manipulating him into believing I'd been bad for him!

And it gave me even greater pleasure to "bump" into her husband a few years ago and accidentally-on-purpose spill the beans!
post #39 of 55
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Originally Posted by Pippy-pops View Post
I threw the entire playstation out the window... Controllers and all!!!!!!!

Now that is pushing it a little.... but it worked!
You sound like my used to be neighbor!!!

I applaud you for being that brave.. .

HOW I WANT to do that.. But at $400 dollars a pop and $50 a controller and $60 a game.. It would probably cause more issues..

BRAVEEE women!!!!!!!! U ROCK!!!
post #40 of 55
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Originally Posted by lilleah View Post
Oh and on the side of selfish-ness...Ladies, You'd be reading all night.
How about the latest one..
He quit his job yesterday because he doesnt LIKE IT! WHAT?!! You DONT LIKE YOUR JOB!?? To sum up most of his self-ishness, he just really, and I mean REALLY HONESTLY doesnt do anything he doesnt like.
Which includes but not limited to:
-doing the dishes
-Working
-cleaning ANYTHING
-laundry (at all, wont even touch a dirty anything, even to put it in the hamper)
-the litterbox, I dont even think he knows where it is
-doing anything with me lately, because apparently I've been a (bad word), and why would he ever want to go anywhere with a (bad word).
-And he just told me some girl told him he's cute. Great. Awesome!
Oh how I'd love to have a magic wand.
OK, I'm not usually one to get on a relationship without knowing what's really going on, but that's not just being selfish. That's using you to be his mother. You're not his mother, and you deserve to be treated better than that! If he isn't willing to be an equal partner, I'd show him the door...
post #41 of 55
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Originally Posted by Jenny82 View Post
I hid my ex's favorite Xbox game until he was about to buy a new one. In my defense though, he chose to play that game with his friends over spending our first Valentine's day with me.
Oh don't get me started!!!!!!!

Well our 1st year wedding anniversary we were late to dinner, and the comedy show, because I gave him a Xbox game as a gift and he had to check it out before we left.. MY MISTAKE... I was soooo mad at him.. I should had known.. Well the good thing was the dinner and comedy show were up in Indianapolis, which is like 60 minutes from us.. So the whole trip he got his ear chewed off by me.. . Serves him right!! OH HOW I hate XBOX....

I even told him to marry the Xbox.. He said he would..
post #42 of 55
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Originally Posted by angelkitty View Post
BRAVEEE women!!!!!!!! U ROCK!!!
Ahh thanks man.... God gave us tempers for a reason.... I wasn't going to let mine go to waste....! What a waste of a brilliant excuse to throw a hissy fit?!
post #43 of 55
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Originally Posted by valanhb View Post
OK, I'm not usually one to get on a relationship without knowing what's really going on, but that's not just being selfish. That's using you to be his mother. You're not his mother, and you deserve to be treated better than that! If he isn't willing to be an equal partner, I'd show him the door...
AMEN to this one!!! If my husband wouldn't keep his job because "he doesn't like it" well big whoop!! Get to work or let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya!! Joblessness = No home or shelterness... That's the only one thing I wouldn't put up with.. Xbox issues and lazyiness that's different,, it gives me something to grip about..

Good luck with that one, hun, you got your hands full.. (get em tamed now)
post #44 of 55
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Originally Posted by Pippy-pops View Post
Ahh thanks man.... God gave us tempers for a reason.... I wasn't going to let mine go to waste....! What a waste of a brilliant excuse to throw a hissy fit?!
Your my hero!!!!

I need to learn my temper managment from you!!!

post #45 of 55
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Originally Posted by lilleah View Post
Oh and on the side of selfish-ness...Ladies, You'd be reading all night.
How about the latest one..
He quit his job yesterday because he doesnt LIKE IT! WHAT?!! You DONT LIKE YOUR JOB!?? To sum up most of his self-ishness, he just really, and I mean REALLY HONESTLY doesnt do anything he doesnt like.
Which includes but not limited to:
-doing the dishes
-Working
-cleaning ANYTHING
-laundry (at all, wont even touch a dirty anything, even to put it in the hamper)
-the litterbox, I dont even think he knows where it is
-doing anything with me lately, because apparently I've been a (bad word), and why would he ever want to go anywhere with a (bad word).
-And he just told me some girl told him he's cute. Great. Awesome!
Oh how I'd love to have a magic wand.
Hmmmm, my ex was only about half as bad as this.... but that was bad enough for me. I'd tell him to go get that other girl to do his laundry for him
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Originally Posted by theimp98 View Post
lol yea, i know i would never date a guy.
they're such jerks, right?
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Originally Posted by Pippy-pops View Post
I threw the entire playstation out the window... Controllers and all!!!!!!!

Now that is pushing it a little.... but it worked!
only problem was that I payed for the darn thing, and I liked watching him play it, I just didn't want him playing it all day instead of doing something around the house

You think they put subliminal messages in those things? It's like a freaking addiction!
post #46 of 55
I've got a moan to get off my chest actually! Not about the ex but about my current partner whom I love dearly but has 2 fatal flaws! He's done both on very rare occasions before but recently he's been doing it more often and it has really begun to irritate and annoy me to no end... maybe because I've never actually brought it up as a matter that causes me stress, he was unaware he's been doing it! He certainly looked overwelmed and shocked when I did bring up the matter! so hopefully he will be more aware and stop himself before he's done it!

He constantly has to grope my butt (or maybe give it a smack), tickle me, tweek my nipples or generally just annoy me with negative attention. He went overboard over the weekend and while playfighting in his mothers kitchen with his son, mother and father present, he bit me! It didn't hurt the first time, but the second time he broke the skin! I went nuts and burst into tears beecause it was sore and he'd done it in front of his son ( who at an impressionable age will copy his father and think it is ok!). Well we cleared up that little scuffle pretty quicky with him promising to try not hurt me on purpose, even during playtime!

He also has the tendancy to call me "lazy" or tell me to "shut up, you're boring" on more and more occasions! Last night I hit the roof again and asked him to stop as it is confusing me and getting me down!

So he's been warned, on no uncertain terms, that I am not willing to put up with or ignore it any longer!

Rant over!
post #47 of 55
Girls please realize you are Queens and should be respected and treated as such! No man should walk all over you EVER!!! To quote Dr. Phil...We teach people how to treat us!!! Take a stand you are women let them hear you roar!!!
post #48 of 55
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Originally Posted by katiemae1277 View Post
You think they put subliminal messages in those things? It's like a freaking addiction!
I think they do... It like second screen flashes that say "Don't listen to your wife"... "You are too good to do house work".. "You know you have to play 10 more minutes.." ((30 minutes later)) "No don't go, 10 more minutes"

I swear it's a conspiracy against the person who doesn't play.
post #49 of 55
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Originally Posted by angelkitty View Post
Your my hero!!!!

I need to learn my temper managment from you!!!

I learned all I know from my mother!!!!!! I watched, I learned and I graduated SUPER B*TCH!
post #50 of 55
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Originally Posted by Bella713 View Post
Girls please realize you are Queens and should be respected and treated as such! No man should walk all over you EVER!!! To quote Dr. Phil...We teach people how to treat us!!! Take a stand you are women let them hear you roar!!!

Well said Bella! That is why I will NOT stand for his behaviour!!!!!!!!!!!!
post #51 of 55
Amen!!!!! Well Said Bella And Pippy-pops
post #52 of 55
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Originally Posted by angelkitty View Post
I think they do... It like second screen flashes that say "Don't listen to your wife"... "You are too good to do house work".. "You know you have to play 10 more minutes.." ((30 minutes later)) "No don't go, 10 more minutes"

I swear it's a conspiracy against the person who doesn't play.
that's exactly what they must say
post #53 of 55
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Originally Posted by Bella713 View Post
Girls please realize you are Queens and should be respected and treated as such! No man should walk all over you EVER!!! To quote Dr. Phil...We teach people how to treat us!!! Take a stand you are women let them hear you roar!!!
I don't really like being treated like I'm a Queen (well....most of the time ) but you do bring up a great point. If we respect OURSELVES first and foremost, our partners are more likely to treat us with respect (and that includes sharing chores and putting down the remote to spend times doing things with us that are important to us).

I can't come up with any good examples for Bradley because he is THE most selfless person I've ever known. All I can think of is him putting his beers directly on the glass coffee table when there's a trivet right next to the beer, knowing how much I hate cleaning drink rings off of the glass top. But that is an extremely minor thing and if that's all I have to complain about, I'm pretty dang lucky!

Now, I did have a horribly abusive ex that definitely loved his car more than me. Once, we were going to Wal Mart on a VERY VERY rainy and windy night. He dropped me off near the front of the store, but when I closed the door, it sort of slammed shut harder than I meant for it to (remember, it was VERY windy). Well, he could have cared less that I ran into the store (while he waited dry and warm in the car) and came out looking like a drowned rat (all to buy something that HE needed)- all he cared about was that I slammed his precious car door .
post #54 of 55
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Originally Posted by StarryEyedTiGeR View Post
6? wow, I would have gone insane!! Colin and I had a serious talk about this last month. I told him that I loved him and wanted to spend the rest of my life with him...but that I would not wait for years and years to make up his mind on how he truly felt about me....I will wait for him- I love him...but I will not wait forever for him to "choose me as the 1" you know...I've already chosen him....he's it for me. So hopefully he'll make that decision in a resonable amount of time about me too. I think he will. I know he loves me and he hints at it....so I don't pressure him about it...we only talked about it that once last month. I want it to be his decision...so i'm giving him the time and space to make that choice. I think it's only fair. I would never want to pressure him into a marriage- that is a serious commitment that should not be taken lightly...so i undestand him wanting to take some time to figure it out....but i definitely won't wait 10+years though...I'm ready to start my life and my family (but i did decide that if he hasn't said anything by our anniversery, I will kindly bring it up again and let him know that I need to know where he sees our future) Who knows! We'll see. I love him, and I really hope he pops the question soon, but my life doesn't depend on it...i'm getting my degree and planning to be self sufficent....but I also want to share my life and future family with him..He is the love of my life...and he definitely adds to the quality and happiness of my life...so hopefully he will want to get married soon We'll see! In the mean time i'm still waiting for that ring lol...
Yeah...well, we started dating at 18 so I guess it wasn't that bad...at around 4 years I started to get a bit itchy about it...but he wanted to find the "right" ring and propose the "right" way. He had credit card debt he took care of, then he purchased it for me...and I must say, it was worth the wait.

Good luck on your ring!
post #55 of 55
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Originally Posted by valanhb View Post
OK, I'm not usually one to get on a relationship without knowing what's really going on, but that's not just being selfish. That's using you to be his mother. You're not his mother, and you deserve to be treated better than that! If he isn't willing to be an equal partner, I'd show him the door...
i wanted to say that last night.
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