Oh, thank you so much for your very kind words. It means a lot that someone understands.
A behaviorist, hmm. I am going to see if I can find one. That's a really good idea.
I also just ordered Feliway...may as well try it...it wasn't too expensive...but maybe the vet can help too. Kitty was...
Hey, all.
This might be a bit long, so the TL,DR is: New cat from shelter scratches and bites, leaving blood and marks, and watching for "signs" that he's had enough doesn't help as he does it randomly, nor does trying to allow him to get his aggressions out on toys help.
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Okay, so...I am...