The "What's on your mind?" Thread -2017

[Margret]

Well, sometimes I just get so frustrated.

I really needed some new pants that were a bit larger, so when I got a good offer for some blue jean style yoga pants, complete with pockets, I grabbed two pairs.  They arrived, they fit, they're nice and stretchy and they have a drawstring waist so they won't stop fitting if I lose some weight.  But they bleed horribly in the wash, which I had the sense to find out by washing them separately and using one of those Shout color catchers.  The strange thing is, the color they bleed isn't blue; it's purple.  And every time I was them, they seem a little more purple.

Now, I've tried to color set indigo dye (which is what they normally use for blue jeans) before, and I've never found a way to do it.  The only products I've ever seen that are supposed to be able to set it require hot water, which makes the blue jeans shrink.  But these pants obviously weren't dyed with indigo; they wouldn't be going all purple if they were.  So I thought I'd try the recipe that generally works on T-shirts:

     1 - 2 q. water
     1/2 c. white vinegar
     ~ 1 T. Epsom salts

As you can see, this doesn't actually involve very exact measurements.

So, yesterday I put 2 gallons of water in a bucket, added a quart of vinegar and 4 tablespoons of Epsom salts, stirred thoroughly, and put the pants in.  Made sure they were totally submerged, no bubbles (Jasmine was superintending with great interest until she saw me violently "drowning" the pants; then she decided it was time for a nap), and let them sit for half an hour.  Then I put them in the washer and ran them through, to get rid of any loose dye that was remaining.  And then I laundered them again, with another color catcher sheet.  They're still bleeding purple.  It's fading, slowly, with every wash, but they're still bleeding which means I can't wash them in the same load with anything else!

I wonder what would happen if I kept the water at 2 gallons and doubled the vinegar and Epsom salts.  I really hate having to waste so much water doing separate loads.  Has anyone else come up with a decent solution to this problem?  {Oh,

!  I was re-reading what I just wrote and suddenly realized that while I multiplied the water and vinegar by 8 I only multiplied the Epsom salts by 4.  Bleep, bleep, BLEEP!  I'm going to have to do this all over again, and this time I will make the solution stronger as well as getting the math right.  I'll post whether it works or not.)

Margret

 

[Alicia88]

Aren't the color catcher things supposed to catch the dye so nothing gets screwed up?

 

[segelkatt]

I have jeans that are years old and I only wash them with other jeans or things that are dark. The lint that comes off them is always a greyish-blue color no matter how old the jeans are. Of course since all the water is chlorinated that also makes jeans fade, so I make sure they are always inside out and that keeps them from fading too much too fast, nevertheless, obviously they will not stop fading since the lint is still bluish. Many "blu" jeans will bleed purple and so do black ones, I wouldn't worry about that, it happens mainly with the cheaper garments as long as your skin is not blue/purple when you take them off.

And yes, @Alicia88, the Shout color catchers do pick up the color in the water and keeps it from settling on other clothes but nothing is 100% so I still would not wash my undies or white socks with blue jeans, or something bright red, green or other vivid color either as I don't like colored socks or undies.

 

[segelkatt]

There are real "problem scratchers" among cats! Declawing is illegal in Germany, and my husband and I have never had a cat that we couldn't offer good alternatives to. The shelter cats don't do much damage in their cat rooms. Right now I'm pet sitting two cats and a bunny, and you should see the apartment walls. There's not a single surface that isn't all scratched up, although the owner has only been in there a year and has so many vertical, horizontal and slanted scratchers in every conceivable material. Even her rugs are giant scratching mats. She got him from a shelter; he was surrendered due to inappropriate scratching. He won't let her clip his nails or apply Soft Paws.

She just figures she's going to have to spend a fortune renovating when she moves out.

Declawing is now illegal in the state of California just as recreational pot is now legal since the last election. There had been cities like Santa Monica where it was already prohibited but people would just go to another town, so now they would have to leave the state to get it done and apart from Blythe in Arizona there are not really any towns close to the borders on the other side.  I think California kitties are now safe from this barbaric deed.

 

[Margret]

 
Aren't the color catcher things supposed to catch the dye so nothing gets screwed up?

Key words are "supposed to."  No, they don't really work that way, sorry to say.  However, they are excellent for telling you whether your clothes are bleeding dye in the laundry, so I'm careful to keep some in stock.

 
I have jeans that are years old and I only wash them with other jeans or things that are dark. The lint that comes off them is always a greyish-blue color no matter how old the jeans are. Of course since all the water is chlorinated that also makes jeans fade, so I make sure they are always inside out and that keeps them from fading too much too fast, nevertheless, obviously they will not stop fading since the lint is still bluish. Many "blu" jeans will bleed purple and so do black ones, I wouldn't worry about that, it happens mainly with the cheaper garments as long as your skin is not blue/purple when you take them off.

And yes, @Alicia88, the Shout color catchers do pick up the color in the water and keeps it from settling on other clothes but nothing is 100% so I still would not wash my undies or white socks with blue jeans, or something bright red, green or other vivid color either as I don't like colored socks or undies.

These jeans don't just bleed purple, every time I wash them the pants themselves look more and more purple, less and less blue.  There's a definite magenta component going on there.  If I can color set them, great.  If I can't I'm going to end up adding a cup of chlorine bleach every time I wash them to see whether I can't bleach the color out (being very careful to add the bleach to the water first and add the pants only when all the water is in the machine -- I don't need holes burned in the jeans).  Faded doesn't bother me, not with blue jeans.

The thing is, I don't have enough similar colors to make a full load.  Even a small full load.  We're talking about a separate load for just one or two garments, every time I need to wash clothes, which is practically criminal in a drought.

I need to buy more Epsom salts.  It's still worth attempting. 

Good night, all.  Margret

 

[louche]

How many ml of chamomile would you recommend?

 

[tallyollyopia]

 
Spent the weekend working on getting some things packed. It looks like we'll be moving on the 21st or so. If anyone has any advice for how to help my cats during the moving process, I'd love if you looked at my thread in the behavior section. 

The cats have been having a blast using piles of boxes as a jungle gym. 

Congratulations! I know you're looking forward to your new home! 

 
Well, sometimes I just get so frustrated.

I really needed some new pants that were a bit larger, so when I got a good offer for some blue jean style yoga pants, complete with pockets, I grabbed two pairs.  They arrived, they fit, they're nice and stretchy and they have a drawstring waist so they won't stop fitting if I lose some weight.  But they bleed horribly in the wash, which I had the sense to find out by washing them separately and using one of those Shout color catchers.  The strange thing is, the color they bleed isn't blue; it's purple.  And every time I was them, they seem a little more purple.

Now, I've tried to color set indigo dye (which is what they normally use for blue jeans) before, and I've never found a way to do it.  The only products I've ever seen that are supposed to be able to set it require hot water, which makes the blue jeans shrink.  But these pants obviously weren't dyed with indigo; they wouldn't be going all purple if they were.  So I thought I'd try the recipe that generally works on T-shirts:

     1 - 2 q. water
     1/2 c. white vinegar
     ~ 1 T. Epsom salts

As you can see, this doesn't actually involve very exact measurements.

So, yesterday I put 2 gallons of water in a bucket, added a quart of vinegar and 4 tablespoons of Epsom salts, stirred thoroughly, and put the pants in.  Made sure they were totally submerged, no bubbles (Jasmine was superintending with great interest until she saw me violently "drowning" the pants; then she decided it was time for a nap), and let them sit for half an hour.  Then I put them in the washer and ran them through, to get rid of any loose dye that was remaining.  And then I laundered them again, with another color catcher sheet.  They're still bleeding purple.  It's fading, slowly, with every wash, but they're still bleeding which means I can't wash them in the same load with anything else!

I wonder what would happen if I kept the water at 2 gallons and doubled the vinegar and Epsom salts.  I really hate having to waste so much water doing separate loads.  Has anyone else come up with a decent solution to this problem?  {Oh,

!  I was re-reading what I just wrote and suddenly realized that while I multiplied the water and vinegar by 8 I only multiplied the Epsom salts by 4.  Bleep, bleep, BLEEP!  I'm going to have to do this all over again, and this time I will make the solution stronger as well as getting the math right.  I'll post whether it works or not.)

Margret

You should have been there the Thanksgiving I accidentally made enough stuffing for a sixty pound bird when ours was only forty-five pounds. It's an easy mistake to make.

 
Aren't the color catcher things supposed to catch the dye so nothing gets screwed up?

I don't know about other people, but I don't really trust the color catchers.

 
Key words are "supposed to."  No, they don't really work that way, sorry to say.  However, they are excellent for telling you whether your clothes are bleeding dye in the laundry, so I'm careful to keep some in stock.

These jeans don't just bleed purple, every time I wash them the pants themselves look more and more purple, less and less blue.  There's a definite magenta component going on there.  If I can color set them, great.  If I can't I'm going to end up adding a cup of chlorine bleach every time I wash them to see whether I can't bleach the color out (being very careful to add the bleach to the water first and add the pants only when all the water is in the machine -- I don't need holes burned in the jeans).  Faded doesn't bother me, not with blue jeans.

The thing is, I don't have enough similar colors to make a full load.  Even a small full load.  We're talking about a separate load for just one or two garments, every time I need to wash clothes, which is practically criminal in a drought.

I need to buy more Epsom salts.  It's still worth attempting. 

Good night, all.  Margret

Instead of putting them in with like colored garments, why don't you find some (or some fabric you're using for something else) that you wish  had more purple in it, and wash them with that? Makes for some fun and unique patterns, and helps with the water problem. Maybe if you get something fun out of it, you won't be quite as frustrated anymore. (Just a thought--feel free to ignore it if you want.)

Well, sometime in the middle of the night I started composing a letter to my customers to put on the door. (I won't do it, of course, because it would get me fired, but it was the only way to make it through the night.) It went something like this:

Dear Customer,

The floor of the restroom is not a garbage can. The room does, however, contain a garbage can for your convenience.

The toilet/urinal is not a living thing. It does not needed to be wrapped from base to handle in toilet paper to keep it warm. Also, the toilet/urinal is unarmed. It will not shoot you if you try to flush--I promise.

Speaking of the urinal, the wall is not one.

The counters do not have drains, please do not pour your drink out onto them.

The clerk who will not give you his/her phone number also will not give you his/her address.

"No beer on Sunday" means "no beer on Sunday." It does not mean we will give you free beer since we cannot sell it.

Yes, it is cold outside. Yes, it is below freezing. No, you do not get a discount on your gas because the pump handle is cold.

The roller grill is not a microwave. It takes more than five seconds to cook food. No, you do not get a discount because it is cold in the middle.

When the cappuccino machine is in a gazillion pieces that are soaking in a bucket, no it will not work. No, you do not get a free coffee because the cappuccino machine is being cleaned.

No, the items by the register are not free. Yes, they are available for purchase. No, buying the items by the register will not lower  your overall price.

No, we cannot give you a refund for your lottery ticket because it didn't win. 

When the door is locked and you don't see the sign saying "Please Use Other Door" it does not mean that you get a percentage discount on your order. We're sorry, size seventy-two is as large as our computer will let us make the letters.

Thank you for your consideration,

A severely less frustrated employee.

Have a good day everyone, I'm off to get some well deserved rest! 

 

[margd]

 
Dear Customer,

The floor of the restroom is not a garbage can. The room does, however, contain a garbage can for your convenience.

The toilet/urinal is not a living thing. It does not needed to be wrapped from base to handle in toilet paper to keep it warm. Also, the toilet/urinal is unarmed. It will not shoot you if you try to flush--I promise.

Speaking of the urinal, the wall is not one.

The counters do not have drains, please do not pour your drink out onto them.

The clerk who will not give you his/her phone number also will not give you his/her address.

"No beer on Sunday" means "no beer on Sunday." It does not mean we will give you free beer since we cannot sell it.

Yes, it is cold outside. Yes, it is below freezing. No, you do not get a discount on your gas because the pump handle is cold.

The roller grill is not a microwave. It takes more than five seconds to cook food. No, you do not get a discount because it is cold in the middle.

When the cappuccino machine is in a gazillion pieces that are soaking in a bucket, no it will not work. No, you do not get a free coffee because the cappuccino machine is being cleaned.

No, the items by the register are not free. Yes, they are available for purchase. No, buying the items by the register will not lower  your overall price.

No, we cannot give you a refund for your lottery ticket because it didn't win. 

When the door is locked and you don't see the sign saying "Please Use Other Door" it does not mean that you get a percentage discount on your order. We're sorry, size seventy-two is as large as our computer will let us make the letters.

Thank you for your consideration,

A severely less frustrated employee.

Have a good day everyone, I'm off to get some well deserved rest! 

This is inspired!  I'm sure everyone who has ever worked with the general public can appreciate this on a deep level.  I especially like the people who want refunds on non-winning lottery tickets. 

 

[segelkatt]

@Tallyollyopia- sometimes just  getting it out of your system helps. I used to write nasty letters to whoever had pissed me off including my boss and then burnt them. It was cathartic. That is probably why I could stay on the job long enough to retire.

 

[margd]

 
@Tallyollyopia- sometimes just getting it out of your system helps. I used to write nasty letters to whoever had pissed me off including my boss and then burnt them. It was cathartic. That is probably why I could stay on the job long enough to retire.

Oh, Lordy, does this ever bring back memories. I wrote a letter ranting about my boss once and he found it before I could destroy it. 

    He was vitally important to my career and I was about to break down and cry from my humiliation and fear at messing all of my plans up to such a degree.  To my astonishment, he sat down with me and calmly discussed all of my complaints. He even allowed me to make some changes.  Long story short - it's been years and neither one of us work there any longer but we somehow have managed a lasting friendship.  

 

[segelkatt]

Today I would probably write it on the computer and then delete it. Of course I would not write it on email but on Notepad or something like that to make sure I would not accidently hit the send button.

 

[Kat0121]

 
You should have been there the Thanksgiving I accidentally made enough stuffing for a sixty pound bird when ours was only forty-five pounds. It's an easy mistake to make.

What were you cooking? A young emu? 

 

 

[LTS3]

 
What were you cooking? A young emu? 

 

 

[raina21]

This is my rant for the day.

As some of you may know, I recently got engaged. Those of you familiar with facebook probably know how you can update your relationship status. So when I got engaged I set mine to say I was engaged. Many people liked and commented wishing us well. All of my family on my mom's side (at least the ones who use Facebook) did.

As far as my dad's side of the family goes, I think they couldn't care less about my immediate family. We are sort of the "black sheep" to them. They are extremely religious (hateful bigot level religious). My grandfather (my dad's father) was a pastor.

Anyway, they kinda shun us because my immediate family doesn't go to church. And we generally disagree on a lit of political and social issues. They think that my mother was the reason that we don't go to church, when in reality, my father is a full blown Atheist (which we could never tell them because they would probably literally never speak to us again). Anyway, they invite us to family events and things like that (pretty much just to be polite) and then pertty much act like my sister and I aren't even there. They might ask us how college is going or make some other small talk just to be polite but then literally ignore us for the rest of the time. I can't talk to them because none of them actually listen to what I say.

So anyway, back to the engagement thing. I know this is petty but NOT ONE PERSON from my dad's side of the family even liked the post or said congratulations or anything like that. I know they saw it because all of them are on Facebook ALL THE TIME. And I know if one of my cousins were to get engaged they would all go nuts and like and comment and congratulate them!

I am so fed up with their pettiness that I am seriously debating not even inviting them to the wedding. I don't know if I would be able to take all their negativity on my wedding day.

But then again, my dad's parents are my only living grandparents and I'd feel bad if I didn't invite them. Ugh. I don't know what to do. [emoji]128547[/emoji]

Being that I am an Atheist as well (of my own decision, my family made it very clear to me when I was a child that I could believe what I chose to believe and they would not judge me for it), I also don't want to have a "Christian" wedding. I want our wedding to be about my fiancé and I, not about god or being "joined together before god in holy matrimony".

So I don't know about inviting my dad's family, as I am sure they will just go home and whisper about us behind our backs [emoji]128530[/emoji]

 

[Mamanyt1953]

 
How many ml of chamomile would you recommend?

I'd start, for an average sized cat, with 1-1.5 mils, and go up from there.  Every batch of tea is just a little different in strength, so dosages are approximate.  That's the real problem with it.  My VERY large cat would take 5 mls to get really good results.

 

HOLY MOLEY!  There is a SNURK emoji!  I never noticed that before!  All it lacks is the soaked computer keyboard!

 

[Alicia88]

Extra stuffing?  I fail to see the problem.  That just means more leftovers, right?  Just put the extra in a casserole dish to cook!  By the way, in my opinion, Thanksgiving leftovers are the greatest thing since WAY before sliced bread.

As for your wedding, don't invite them.  I got married once.  My mother in law was not invited.  In fact, we showed her picture to my best friend's brother and uncle (VERY large men) with strict orders to toss her headfirst in a snowdrift if she had the gall to show her face.  She's a horrible, nasty person and it was MY day.  Why worry about offending people who don't like you anyway?  Save yourself some stress and just decide that they'll never like or accept you so you don't give a fig.  If you really want them to be involved, have a second reception (so you can fully enjoy the first one) and invite them to that.  If they confront you about it, just tell them they didn't seem happy about the news so you didn't want to put them in the awkward position of having to decline the invitation.

 

[Margret]

This is my rant for the day.

As some of you may know, I recently got engaged. Those of you familiar with facebook probably know how you can update your relationship status. So when I got engaged I set mine to say I was engaged. Many people liked and commented wishing us well. All of my family on my mom's side (at least the ones who use Facebook) did.

As far as my dad's side of the family goes, I think they couldn't care less about my immediate family. We are sort of the "black sheep" to them. They are extremely religious (hateful bigot level religious). My grandfather (my dad's father) was a pastor.

Anyway, they kinda shun us because my immediate family doesn't go to church. And we generally disagree on a lit of political and social issues. They think that my mother was the reason that we don't go to church, when in reality, my father is a full blown Atheist (which we could never tell them because they would probably literally never speak to us again). Anyway, they invite us to family events and things like that (pretty much just to be polite) and then pertty much act like my sister and I aren't even there. They might ask us how college is going or make some other small talk just to be polite but then literally ignore us for the rest of the time. I can't talk to them because none of them actually listen to what I say.

So anyway, back to the engagement thing. I know this is petty but NOT ONE PERSON from my dad's side of the family even liked the post or said congratulations or anything like that. I know they saw it because all of them are on Facebook ALL THE TIME. And I know if one of my cousins were to get engaged they would all go nuts and like and comment and congratulate them!

I am so fed up with their pettiness that I am seriously debating not even inviting them to the wedding. I don't know if I would be able to take all their negativity on my wedding day.

But then again, my dad's parents are my only living grandparents and I'd feel bad if I didn't invite them. Ugh. I don't know what to do. [emoji]128547[/emoji]

Being that I am an Atheist as well (of my own decision, my family made it very clear to me when I was a child that I could believe what I chose to believe and they would not judge me for it), I also don't want to have a "Christian" wedding. I want our wedding to be about my fiancé and I, not about god or being "joined together before god in holy matrimony".

So I don't know about inviting my dad's family, as I am sure they will just go home and whisper about us behind our backs [emoji]128530[/emoji]

Well, FaceBook hadn't been invented yet when we got married (not that I would have been on it if it had), but we solved the problem by holding our wedding out of doors in the mountains, at dawn.  Then we invited everyone, including the people we didn't want.  They had a good excuse to stay away, and the people we really wanted came and thought it was a lovely wedding (although my grandmother did comment afterwards "It was a nice wedding after all!"

).

@Tallyollyopia, I really don't have anything I want dyed purple, though it's a fine idea.  I have some things I want to tie dye, but that's not exactly the same thing.

I love your notice; too bad you can't post it.  However, even if you did post it it would do no good.  The kind of people it's aimed at are the kind of people who don't give a rat's ass anyway.  (And Jasmine's ears prick up.  "What?  You have a rat's ass and didn't tell me?!)

@Mamanyt1953, well, what can I say?  There, that's what I can say.  I've told you before, and I'm sure I'll tell you again, more than once.  I don't care if you're Einstein, occasionally you add two plus two and get five.

  As for the SNURK emoji, try this:

Margret

 

[margd]

This is my rant for the day.

As some of you may know, I recently got engaged. Those of you familiar with facebook probably know how you can update your relationship status. So when I got engaged I set mine to say I was engaged. Many people liked and commented wishing us well. All of my family on my mom's side (at least the ones who use Facebook) did.

As far as my dad's side of the family goes, I think they couldn't care less about my immediate family. We are sort of the "black sheep" to them. They are extremely religious (hateful bigot level religious). My grandfather (my dad's father) was a pastor.

Anyway, they kinda shun us because my immediate family doesn't go to church. And we generally disagree on a lit of political and social issues. They think that my mother was the reason that we don't go to church, when in reality, my father is a full blown Atheist (which we could never tell them because they would probably literally never speak to us again). Anyway, they invite us to family events and things like that (pretty much just to be polite) and then pertty much act like my sister and I aren't even there. They might ask us how college is going or make some other small talk just to be polite but then literally ignore us for the rest of the time. I can't talk to them because none of them actually listen to what I say.

So anyway, back to the engagement thing. I know this is petty but NOT ONE PERSON from my dad's side of the family even liked the post or said congratulations or anything like that. I know they saw it because all of them are on Facebook ALL THE TIME. And I know if one of my cousins were to get engaged they would all go nuts and like and comment and congratulate them!

I am so fed up with their pettiness that I am seriously debating not even inviting them to the wedding. I don't know if I would be able to take all their negativity on my wedding day.

But then again, my dad's parents are my only living grandparents and I'd feel bad if I didn't invite them. Ugh. I don't know what to do. [emoji]128547[/emoji]

Being that I am an Atheist as well (of my own decision, my family made it very clear to me when I was a child that I could believe what I chose to believe and they would not judge me for it), I also don't want to have a "Christian" wedding. I want our wedding to be about my fiancé and I, not about god or being "joined together before god in holy matrimony".

So I don't know about inviting my dad's family, as I am sure they will just go home and whisper about us behind our backs [emoji]128530[/emoji]

Here comes some unsolicited advice, but I say, don't invite them. A wedding is an extremely stressful event anyway and you do not need this kind of sanctimonious unpleasantness adding to your stress level. What does your fiance say?  It's his wedding, too.  How does he feel about having his bride upset because her cousins are making snide remarks at her?  Isn't that going to have an impact on him, as well?

It would be one thing if you could just shrug them off as "that side of the family."   Then, I'd say invite them. But you can't.  They've subjected you to a lifetime of insults and putdowns and their behavior understandably affects you. Their presence will have a negative impact on your happiness.  On your wedding day!

Is there any chance of just inviting your grandparents and leaving the others out?  If something is said about it, tell them exactly why they are not invited.  You can be polite about it but straightforward.  This is the time to start a new life.  Why not make it even more of one and rid yourself of this unpleasant obligation?   Leave room open for reconciliation but on equal terms.  No more of you being treated like you're inferior.

An alternative is to just tell them you had a small ceremony for immediate family only.  While you are planning your wedding, you might want to adjust the privacy controls on your FB page.  

It's very easy for me to say this but I really do hate to see people pass themselves off as Christian who then behave anything but Christ-like.  And you deserve your wedding day to be the day of your dreams, not your nightmares!

 

[raina21]

Well, FaceBook hadn't been invented yet when we got married (not that I would have been on it if it had), but we solved the problem by holding our wedding out of doors in the mountains, at dawn.  Then we invited everyone, including the people we didn't want.  They had a good excuse to stay away, and the people we really wanted came and thought it was a lovely wedding (although my grandmother did comment afterwards "It was a nice wedding after all!" :lol3: ).


Margret

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I know the facebook thing is kinda petty. But I'm more upset because of the way my sister and I are treated compared to my cousins. It really is as if we don't exist.

But I really want to have my wedding outdoors. I was thinking my parents' backyard (they have a 2 acre backyard) because it is big enough for lots of chairs and we could possibly even have the reception there as well (depending on costs for catering and renting the tables of course). I have already asked my parents and they are on board with that. We even have neighbors who have a huge parking lot on their property (the previous owners were farmers & auto mechanics who ran their business out of their own home so they had lots of parking for their customers). They have let us use that lot for events and parties in the past so I'm sure they'd let us use it again for the wedding.

 

[Alicia88]

 
Here comes some unsolicited advice, but I say, don't invite them. A wedding is an extremely stressful event anyway and you do not need this kind of sanctimonious unpleasantness adding to your stress level. What does your fiance say?  It's his wedding, too.  How does he feel about having his bride upset because her cousins are making snide remarks at her?  Isn't that going to have an impact on him, as well?

It would be one thing if you could just shrug them off as "that side of the family."   Then, I'd say invite them. But you can't.  They've subjected you to a lifetime of insults and putdowns and their behavior understandably affects you. Their presence will have a negative impact on your happiness.  On your wedding day!

Is there any chance of just inviting your grandparents and leaving the others out?  If something is said about it, tell them exactly why they are not invited.  You can be polite about it but straightforward.  This is the time to start a new life.  Why not make it even more of one and rid yourself of this unpleasant obligation?   Leave room open for reconciliation but on equal terms.  No more of you being treated like you're inferior.

An alternative is to just tell them you had a small ceremony for immediate family only.  While you are planning your wedding, you might want to adjust the privacy controls on your FB page.  

It's very easy for me to say this but I really do hate to see people pass themselves off as Christian who then behave anything but Christ-like.  And you deserve your wedding day to be the day of your dreams, not your nightmares!

It really ticks me off when I hear, "Christians this" and "Christians that."  Most of the time, the people being talked about are NOT Christians.  I can't really blame the people doing the talking.  They just see the actions of people who CLAIM to be Christian.  The problem is - most of the people who claim to be Christian are anything but.  Christian means to have accepted Christ into your heart.  If you have done that, your behavior will change for the better.  You can say you're a Christian but if you don't walk the walk, you're full of crap.