Question of the Day: Thurs. Feb. 25

[larussa]

It is not easy at all to ask for help, I feel foolish doing it. But at my age there are times I have to ask for help . Example is today when I will need a lot of help shoveling snow. The maintenance guy will probably do most or all of it. If teens come around and want to do it, I pay them. It is well worth it for me.

 

[rapunzel47]

Originally Posted by Kailie

I'm pretty stubborn truthfully. I don't ask for help nearly as ofter as I should.

Originally Posted by Pookie-poo

I find it is much easier for me to offer to help someone else than it is to ask for help. I also have a more difficult time saying no to someone who needs help (even if it winds up sucking the life out of me.

Ditto to both!

 

[libby74]

If I can't physically get up out of bed, I expect my DH to know he's going to have to take care of some stuff - I shouldn't have to ask. But I also have a bad habit of pushing myself, moving and lifting things, without asking for help which ends up putting me in that state.

Example - I was lifting more than I should have yesterday and today I'm having difficulties walking and fell this morning. It's a wonder I haven't herniated my disc worse than it is.

We sound like kindred spirits!

 

[snake_lady]

Originally Posted by libby74

I hate to ask for help; I have this thing in my brain that says, "That's admitting you're weak." I know that's stupid, but that's how I am. For some reason, I also expect people to know when I actually do need help. When my back issues are acting up, I expect DH and DD to know that I can't do some things. Even then, I have a hard time asking them to help me.

*waves* and joins the crowd.

Yeah to all of it.

Part of it comes from having no choice but to be self sufficient as a child - growing up before my time - being a single mom with 2 kids and no help has lead me to having a very difficult time asking for help. Its a pride/stubborness thing...

which of course, I've been adjusting to since my first workplace injury, to my current issues.

Thankfully my children are very awesome. All i have to do is look, and put the jar/can/whatever on the counter, and they will open it for me. No asking involved

Which helps.

Then u get other times where I prod through whatever it is if I can, and end up in recovery for 2-3days after

(stubborness but also reaffirming that I CAN do it on my own if I have to....even if I pay for it).

Lets just say, I have some issues with this one.

Now, emotional issues, sure thing.... I can ask friends no probs....
Its the physical issues that I speak of the difficulties.

 

[cococat]

Originally Posted by Snake_Lady

Good morning folks.

Todays question comes compliments of The Book of Questions (as I'm so tired I have no idea of one myself)

Is it easy for you to ask for help when you need it? Will you ask for help?

I typically don't like to, but have learned over the years to be better about it.

 

[starryeyedtiger]

It honestly just depends on what I need help with and who I'm asking. If I'm around someone that I'm comfortable with and trust and it's something simple, then I don't mind asking for help. I also want my family, friends, coworkers to feel comfortable asking me for help when they need it.

If It's something serious however and I don't feel comfortable around someone...then I tend to not want to ask. It really just depends on the situation for me.