A little background.
I've been married twice. The first ex, was someone who I have no desire to ever see again. Luckily once he and I were history, other than him once trying to friend me on Facebook (last year, after like 20 years, I have no idea what possessed him since he treated me like crap. I blocked him). I did find out he lives somewhat close to me, but far enough away that I've never been worried about running into him anywhere.
The second, I've been divorced from for 6 years now, away from him for 7 years. He's essentially a nice person, but had some issues which he refused to acknowledge or work on, and I eventually felt leaving was the healthiest thing for me. I have heard info about him periodically because we use the same hairdresser, I never solicited the info, in fact, I'd ask her not to tell me anything unless we had appointments near each other LOL.
Anyway, this past Saturday, I went to have my hair done and come to find #2 has, after several years now of renting, purchased another new home. That's great, happy to hear he's moving on but get this. He bought, in MY town.
Why? There are a ton of other places he could have bought a house. Where I live is a relative small city - you can drive from one end to the other in about 5 minutes, in any direction. This makes me feel uncomfortable. It's too close,
I could understand if kids were involved, but we had none. He has never found anyone else, while I moved on fairly quickly and am in a serious, long term relationship. In fact, my understanding of things was he didn't even work for several years (financially, probably wasn't too much of a problem due to selling our home, savings and other money he had access to). I stayed friendly with one person who has known him for many years and she had told me that she doesn't have much to do with him; that he'd gotten strange and even more reclusive and unreachable emotionally after we divorced.
Anyway, I'm curious if anyone else would find this unusual if it happened to them, or am I concerning myself needlessly. Overall, the odds are still low we'd run into each other since he doesn't commute on the train like I do, and the town itself has very few amenities to make shopping in it appealing. But, there are other places we might - town events my BF and I frequent, etc. Plus, the thought of him driving by my house, knowing what it looks like, etc. bothers me. I've enjoyed many years of total privacy from both of these people, and really am not thrilled that it's partially ending.
Comments? Advice?
I've been married twice. The first ex, was someone who I have no desire to ever see again. Luckily once he and I were history, other than him once trying to friend me on Facebook (last year, after like 20 years, I have no idea what possessed him since he treated me like crap. I blocked him). I did find out he lives somewhat close to me, but far enough away that I've never been worried about running into him anywhere.
The second, I've been divorced from for 6 years now, away from him for 7 years. He's essentially a nice person, but had some issues which he refused to acknowledge or work on, and I eventually felt leaving was the healthiest thing for me. I have heard info about him periodically because we use the same hairdresser, I never solicited the info, in fact, I'd ask her not to tell me anything unless we had appointments near each other LOL.
Anyway, this past Saturday, I went to have my hair done and come to find #2 has, after several years now of renting, purchased another new home. That's great, happy to hear he's moving on but get this. He bought, in MY town.
Why? There are a ton of other places he could have bought a house. Where I live is a relative small city - you can drive from one end to the other in about 5 minutes, in any direction. This makes me feel uncomfortable. It's too close,
I could understand if kids were involved, but we had none. He has never found anyone else, while I moved on fairly quickly and am in a serious, long term relationship. In fact, my understanding of things was he didn't even work for several years (financially, probably wasn't too much of a problem due to selling our home, savings and other money he had access to). I stayed friendly with one person who has known him for many years and she had told me that she doesn't have much to do with him; that he'd gotten strange and even more reclusive and unreachable emotionally after we divorced.
Anyway, I'm curious if anyone else would find this unusual if it happened to them, or am I concerning myself needlessly. Overall, the odds are still low we'd run into each other since he doesn't commute on the train like I do, and the town itself has very few amenities to make shopping in it appealing. But, there are other places we might - town events my BF and I frequent, etc. Plus, the thought of him driving by my house, knowing what it looks like, etc. bothers me. I've enjoyed many years of total privacy from both of these people, and really am not thrilled that it's partially ending.
Comments? Advice?
