Hi, ya'll! I am back from the most awful trip that can only be classified as hell on Earth! I was and still am a little sick for the past 5 days. I couldnt even move off of the couch. Not even when my kittens used me as a human trampoline, and a speed bump in their daily ritual of "you-cant-catch-me-ha-ha". I literally wanted to die. So, I am partly wondering if my irritation is coming from the fact that I am sick or if I really do have a reason to be ticked off.
Heres the story.....two weeks ago, my sister dumped and threw out her abusive boyfriend. All well and good, she needed to do it, and shes a happier person for doing it. I offered to let her stay at my house for a few days, until she could handle going home and dealing with everything. (sidenote: she still lives with our parents, and the abusive boyfriend did too.) So, after he left, I went in the room they shared, and helped her take all of the things down that were his, removed all of the pictures, packed his things up, and did all for her, pretty much. Ever since then, shes been at my house. And so has my husbands best friend. They both have a little thing for eachother, and since her break up they have been getting to know eachother, whatever. I am fine with it. But my husbands best friend has been at our house for over a month. And before my sister ended her previous relationship, he was only sleeping at our house. Now, they are both taking showers at our house, and hes doing laundry at our house, eating dinner at our house. And theres no consideration for the toll this is taking on my husband and I. My husband works from 7am to 5:30pm, then attends night classes at college from 6:30pm to 10:00pm, which puts him home at 11:00pm. By then, all he wants to do is take a shower and go to bed. We talked to them last week and said, hey look, you know, we are letting you stay here, and we aren't asking for money to help pay the mortgage, but you have got to either 1) Take your showers BEFORE 11 at night when we are trying to sleep, or 2) take them in the second bathroom in the room you 2 are sharing, so that it doesnt disturb us. Secondly, they are taking extremely long showers, together. Ok, fine, so you are conserving water, whatever, they are both adults, and its not my deal, but 45 minutes in the shower, with the water running straight??? No, I dont pay for water, but my pump in my well is working non stop, not to mention the fact that my hot water heater is working as well. So, we asked them to cut their showers back to no longer 20 minutes. If you cant wash your hair and shave and soap up in twenty minutes, then you need to go home where the bill is yours. This worked for oh, about, 2.3 seconds. Last night, they go to the shower at 11 pm, and at midnight, my husband was pounding on the door.
I am through. I have been sick all weekend, and my husband had to take care of everything in addition to his already heavy load, and all they did was cut the grass and wash the dishes. Not enough. Theres 2 times the amount of mess! I tried to talk to my husband about it, but he just makes excuses for his friend. Personally, I would like to give ALL 3 OF THEM THE BOOT! And then I can live in a quiet, peaceful existence with my kitties. But, back to reality. To shake the pot up a little more, I may be *pregnant*. And there was a snide remark that "You can barely afford to feed your cats, let alone a kid." Not true, and none of your business. We dont discuss our finances with anyone but eachother, and we WERE comfortable in our bills until 2 moochers came along and took advantage of our good nature. And our personal decisions, are none of their business.
Now, I have NO problem packing their things and saying "Dont let the door hit you where the good Lord split you." But my husband thinks we should rationally talk to them. Yeah. Ok. Good plan.
Am I being unreasonable? I dont think so, but then I am sick and irritable anyways. I am trying to think, would it be different to me if they said ok, we are willing to pay half of the electric bill between the 2 of us, meaning they split half of the half. Would I feel differently if they gave a crap about and willlingly pitched in? Nope. I want my house back. But I need a better way to deal with it instead of going carrie the rage II on them.
Any suggestions??
Heres the story.....two weeks ago, my sister dumped and threw out her abusive boyfriend. All well and good, she needed to do it, and shes a happier person for doing it. I offered to let her stay at my house for a few days, until she could handle going home and dealing with everything. (sidenote: she still lives with our parents, and the abusive boyfriend did too.) So, after he left, I went in the room they shared, and helped her take all of the things down that were his, removed all of the pictures, packed his things up, and did all for her, pretty much. Ever since then, shes been at my house. And so has my husbands best friend. They both have a little thing for eachother, and since her break up they have been getting to know eachother, whatever. I am fine with it. But my husbands best friend has been at our house for over a month. And before my sister ended her previous relationship, he was only sleeping at our house. Now, they are both taking showers at our house, and hes doing laundry at our house, eating dinner at our house. And theres no consideration for the toll this is taking on my husband and I. My husband works from 7am to 5:30pm, then attends night classes at college from 6:30pm to 10:00pm, which puts him home at 11:00pm. By then, all he wants to do is take a shower and go to bed. We talked to them last week and said, hey look, you know, we are letting you stay here, and we aren't asking for money to help pay the mortgage, but you have got to either 1) Take your showers BEFORE 11 at night when we are trying to sleep, or 2) take them in the second bathroom in the room you 2 are sharing, so that it doesnt disturb us. Secondly, they are taking extremely long showers, together. Ok, fine, so you are conserving water, whatever, they are both adults, and its not my deal, but 45 minutes in the shower, with the water running straight??? No, I dont pay for water, but my pump in my well is working non stop, not to mention the fact that my hot water heater is working as well. So, we asked them to cut their showers back to no longer 20 minutes. If you cant wash your hair and shave and soap up in twenty minutes, then you need to go home where the bill is yours. This worked for oh, about, 2.3 seconds. Last night, they go to the shower at 11 pm, and at midnight, my husband was pounding on the door.
I am through. I have been sick all weekend, and my husband had to take care of everything in addition to his already heavy load, and all they did was cut the grass and wash the dishes. Not enough. Theres 2 times the amount of mess! I tried to talk to my husband about it, but he just makes excuses for his friend. Personally, I would like to give ALL 3 OF THEM THE BOOT! And then I can live in a quiet, peaceful existence with my kitties. But, back to reality. To shake the pot up a little more, I may be *pregnant*. And there was a snide remark that "You can barely afford to feed your cats, let alone a kid." Not true, and none of your business. We dont discuss our finances with anyone but eachother, and we WERE comfortable in our bills until 2 moochers came along and took advantage of our good nature. And our personal decisions, are none of their business.
Now, I have NO problem packing their things and saying "Dont let the door hit you where the good Lord split you." But my husband thinks we should rationally talk to them. Yeah. Ok. Good plan.
Am I being unreasonable? I dont think so, but then I am sick and irritable anyways. I am trying to think, would it be different to me if they said ok, we are willing to pay half of the electric bill between the 2 of us, meaning they split half of the half. Would I feel differently if they gave a crap about and willlingly pitched in? Nope. I want my house back. But I need a better way to deal with it instead of going carrie the rage II on them.
Any suggestions??