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I'm posting in this forum because I'm sure some of you have dogs as well as cats. However, it's as pet owners, in general, that you'll be able to offer insight, at least that is my hope.
Prior to getting my first cat in 2013, I'd owned dogs all my life. My current dog will be 15 at the end of November. I got him when I got my first job and he was my best friend, not to sound cliche. He stayed by my side throughout a very long illness and we were very close. However, he's always had behavioral problems. From the time he was a puppy, he was anxious and high strung. I got him when my other two dogs, who were littermates, were 2 or 3 years old.
When those dogs became ill, I was coerced into making decisions that I did not feel were right. In both instances, I was living with my parents and my mother, whose only reaction to stress, is complete hysteria, convinced me that I should euthanize them. This wasn't out of the blue, there were medical issues but I did not feel that it was time and I would have explored more options. This is, in part my fault for not being more assertive.
For about 2 years now, my current dog has been showing a lot of the signs of canine cognitive dysfunction. The medication for this did not work for him. I can tolerate the constant pacing around the house and I don't mind having to pick him up or help him up and down the stairs. However, for about the last 6 months, he's been refusing to go to the bathroom outside. I can go outside and stand there with him for an hour and he will just pace around in circles. Then, within 5 minutes of coming back inside, he'll go to the bathroom in the house. I don't know if it's an extreme separation anxiety or a symptom, in and of itself, of the dementia but he's literally ruining my house. I spend most of my day cleaning up after him. On top of that, and I don't mean to be gross, but he drinks his urine. On top of the fact that it's, obviously, very unsanitary, my floors have to be replaced.
I no longer know, when he actually has to go, so I bring him outside every hour but there is another issue with that.
When he's in bed, he gets up and walks around, then settles himself again. He does this very often. In addition, if I leave the room, he stands up in the bed until I come back. So, sometimes, he'll stand up, outside the occasions when I'd normally take him outside, and I think it's because he's looking for me but in actuality, he has to go out. The other night, he soiled the bed because I made that error.
So, of course, my mother is urging me to put him down. At this point, I'm starting to resent the dog and it's very difficult for me to keep this up. On the other hand, I can't bring myself to do it because I still don't feel justified. He's still got a good appetite and I don't believe, he's sitting around wishing he had a better quality of life. I would feel selfish for putting him down because I don't want to deal with this anymore but, at the same time, there don't seem to be any solutions. On top of that, I still feel guilty about what happened with my other dogs and I don't want make the same mistakes.
I would appreciate your thoughts.
Prior to getting my first cat in 2013, I'd owned dogs all my life. My current dog will be 15 at the end of November. I got him when I got my first job and he was my best friend, not to sound cliche. He stayed by my side throughout a very long illness and we were very close. However, he's always had behavioral problems. From the time he was a puppy, he was anxious and high strung. I got him when my other two dogs, who were littermates, were 2 or 3 years old.
When those dogs became ill, I was coerced into making decisions that I did not feel were right. In both instances, I was living with my parents and my mother, whose only reaction to stress, is complete hysteria, convinced me that I should euthanize them. This wasn't out of the blue, there were medical issues but I did not feel that it was time and I would have explored more options. This is, in part my fault for not being more assertive.
For about 2 years now, my current dog has been showing a lot of the signs of canine cognitive dysfunction. The medication for this did not work for him. I can tolerate the constant pacing around the house and I don't mind having to pick him up or help him up and down the stairs. However, for about the last 6 months, he's been refusing to go to the bathroom outside. I can go outside and stand there with him for an hour and he will just pace around in circles. Then, within 5 minutes of coming back inside, he'll go to the bathroom in the house. I don't know if it's an extreme separation anxiety or a symptom, in and of itself, of the dementia but he's literally ruining my house. I spend most of my day cleaning up after him. On top of that, and I don't mean to be gross, but he drinks his urine. On top of the fact that it's, obviously, very unsanitary, my floors have to be replaced.
I no longer know, when he actually has to go, so I bring him outside every hour but there is another issue with that.
When he's in bed, he gets up and walks around, then settles himself again. He does this very often. In addition, if I leave the room, he stands up in the bed until I come back. So, sometimes, he'll stand up, outside the occasions when I'd normally take him outside, and I think it's because he's looking for me but in actuality, he has to go out. The other night, he soiled the bed because I made that error.
So, of course, my mother is urging me to put him down. At this point, I'm starting to resent the dog and it's very difficult for me to keep this up. On the other hand, I can't bring myself to do it because I still don't feel justified. He's still got a good appetite and I don't believe, he's sitting around wishing he had a better quality of life. I would feel selfish for putting him down because I don't want to deal with this anymore but, at the same time, there don't seem to be any solutions. On top of that, I still feel guilty about what happened with my other dogs and I don't want make the same mistakes.
I would appreciate your thoughts.