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Hi all, new here.
Had a black stray tomcat hanging around the last couple of months, long story short, trapped him last night and took him to be desexed this morning.
He was 18 months old, and not completely feral, as in once trapped he didnt hiss at me, just meowed quietly. I got the impression he was pretty laid back in nature over the past month, as although I couldn't touch him, he rubbed trees etc and curled his tail when I talked to him. Our one cat, also a rescued polydactyl stray, was less than impressed with the newcomer, and made it his mission in life to bug the hell out of this new cat.
Anyway. This morning whilst waiting at the vet to discuss the procedure and risks, this stray was rubbing my fingers through the cage..so I felt proud and happy! I thought he can live with us if he is a nice cat fixed up. Really shiny coat, gentle cat.
But..vet rang an hour later. Really bad gums and teeth. I told them to test for feline aids which was negative, but they said he teeth and mouth would need ongoing care throughout his life, and would be painful for him. Hinted at a cost of $2000 approx to remove all teeth. (New Zealand very expensive)
So I painfully decided to get him put to sleep.
I couldn't have dealt with the ongoing worry of this, plus he is a stray, and may wander off to to another home/area and be in pain all his life. I'm wondering if he was quiet and not interested in fighting, as he felt sore/ill.
I was genuinely thinking of this cats well being and comfort, and selfishly didn't want to have the worry and expense of it.
Now I can't stop crying, and feel REALLY guilty, like I have taken this cats life, which I have.
I'm an ambulance medic, and to be harsh and blunt, I couldn't care less when people are dying or majorly ill..a lot of it is lifestyle choices, drug abuse, and ignorance. But this poor cat just had a rough deal, let down by humans in the first place by not being loved and desexed.
Was a hard and heartbreaking decision..have i done the right thing? Should I feel this heartbroken over a stray cat? This has hit me hard, and a 50y.o man shouldn't get this upset?
Would love to hear what you think, but please no flaming, I genuinely was thinking of the poor cats future life, didnt want him to be in pain, and with the inability to nourish himself properly or wash himself due to this I felt he would be better off put to sleep.
Thanks guys.
Had a black stray tomcat hanging around the last couple of months, long story short, trapped him last night and took him to be desexed this morning.
He was 18 months old, and not completely feral, as in once trapped he didnt hiss at me, just meowed quietly. I got the impression he was pretty laid back in nature over the past month, as although I couldn't touch him, he rubbed trees etc and curled his tail when I talked to him. Our one cat, also a rescued polydactyl stray, was less than impressed with the newcomer, and made it his mission in life to bug the hell out of this new cat.
Anyway. This morning whilst waiting at the vet to discuss the procedure and risks, this stray was rubbing my fingers through the cage..so I felt proud and happy! I thought he can live with us if he is a nice cat fixed up. Really shiny coat, gentle cat.
But..vet rang an hour later. Really bad gums and teeth. I told them to test for feline aids which was negative, but they said he teeth and mouth would need ongoing care throughout his life, and would be painful for him. Hinted at a cost of $2000 approx to remove all teeth. (New Zealand very expensive)
So I painfully decided to get him put to sleep.
I couldn't have dealt with the ongoing worry of this, plus he is a stray, and may wander off to to another home/area and be in pain all his life. I'm wondering if he was quiet and not interested in fighting, as he felt sore/ill.
I was genuinely thinking of this cats well being and comfort, and selfishly didn't want to have the worry and expense of it.
Now I can't stop crying, and feel REALLY guilty, like I have taken this cats life, which I have.
I'm an ambulance medic, and to be harsh and blunt, I couldn't care less when people are dying or majorly ill..a lot of it is lifestyle choices, drug abuse, and ignorance. But this poor cat just had a rough deal, let down by humans in the first place by not being loved and desexed.
Was a hard and heartbreaking decision..have i done the right thing? Should I feel this heartbroken over a stray cat? This has hit me hard, and a 50y.o man shouldn't get this upset?
Would love to hear what you think, but please no flaming, I genuinely was thinking of the poor cats future life, didnt want him to be in pain, and with the inability to nourish himself properly or wash himself due to this I felt he would be better off put to sleep.
Thanks guys.