Hello, I'm new here. A bit about the fur-parents...
I live in a single-story home (under 1000 sq ft) with my husband and two adult roommates. We moved here just under a year ago. I'm gone 40 hours a week and hubby is a homemaker so he spends a lot more time with the cats. Our roommates don't interact with the cats much (except for one which decided one of our cats is his dog) When we moved in we had three cats.
A bit about the fur-babies...
Noodle is a giant weirdo and doesn't know how to "cat" and is scared of literally everything. He tends to hind in the litter box which unfortunately means eye infections we need to deal with often. He forgets to clean himself most of the time.
Finkerdink is an energetic, young-at-heart trouble-maker. He enjoys being brushed (he's a longhair) but tends to get mats. He doesn't tolerate it well when I deal with those mats.
Lil Guy is calm and collected and desperately in love with hubby.
The issue...
All three cats were 11 years old and have been together most of their lives. Lil Guy passed away a month ago. It was an unexpected medical issue. We opted for cremation and made the mistake of not bringing him home first for the other cats to deal with. Finkerdink took this very hard (Noodle doesn't seem to even notice a change in the household). We've looked up information on the feline grieving process and noticed a lot of how he was acting was very much in line with general grieving steps. He still hasn't started playing again but has started eating well and even being excited about food enough to beg while we eat our meals again.
He started peeing wherever he slept. He would just get up, pee, and move to another spot. Again, this falls in line with what we read about. What I don't get is he will get on myself or hubby as he normally would (he's a shoulder cat) but then he'll suddenly get up enough to squat and start peeing...right on us. This has happened once to each of us and nearly happend several other times and we're at a point where we don't trust him NOT to do it and don't want to let him on our laps but realize he needs his attention.
Also, he doesn't have trouble peeing. It's in large quantities and it's not tinged with blood as it would be with bladder stones or a UTI.
So...
TDLR: Has anyone ever had a grieving (or otherwise) cat start peeing on their owner. Why would he start doing this? And how did you get it to stop without denying your cat their snuggles?
Thanks for any insight!
I live in a single-story home (under 1000 sq ft) with my husband and two adult roommates. We moved here just under a year ago. I'm gone 40 hours a week and hubby is a homemaker so he spends a lot more time with the cats. Our roommates don't interact with the cats much (except for one which decided one of our cats is his dog) When we moved in we had three cats.
A bit about the fur-babies...
Noodle is a giant weirdo and doesn't know how to "cat" and is scared of literally everything. He tends to hind in the litter box which unfortunately means eye infections we need to deal with often. He forgets to clean himself most of the time.
Finkerdink is an energetic, young-at-heart trouble-maker. He enjoys being brushed (he's a longhair) but tends to get mats. He doesn't tolerate it well when I deal with those mats.
Lil Guy is calm and collected and desperately in love with hubby.
The issue...
All three cats were 11 years old and have been together most of their lives. Lil Guy passed away a month ago. It was an unexpected medical issue. We opted for cremation and made the mistake of not bringing him home first for the other cats to deal with. Finkerdink took this very hard (Noodle doesn't seem to even notice a change in the household). We've looked up information on the feline grieving process and noticed a lot of how he was acting was very much in line with general grieving steps. He still hasn't started playing again but has started eating well and even being excited about food enough to beg while we eat our meals again.
He started peeing wherever he slept. He would just get up, pee, and move to another spot. Again, this falls in line with what we read about. What I don't get is he will get on myself or hubby as he normally would (he's a shoulder cat) but then he'll suddenly get up enough to squat and start peeing...right on us. This has happened once to each of us and nearly happend several other times and we're at a point where we don't trust him NOT to do it and don't want to let him on our laps but realize he needs his attention.
Also, he doesn't have trouble peeing. It's in large quantities and it's not tinged with blood as it would be with bladder stones or a UTI.
So...
TDLR: Has anyone ever had a grieving (or otherwise) cat start peeing on their owner. Why would he start doing this? And how did you get it to stop without denying your cat their snuggles?
Thanks for any insight!
RIP sweetie. 
The one afraid of everything (Noodle) is not having litter issues. The one grieving (Finkerdink) is.
