Hi Everyone..
So I wanted to lay out the scenario
I recently lost about 45 pounds and my clothes were getting too big... and I recently got Grant money in from college... Here is how we (finally) decided to divvy it up.
Paying off bank fees/overdrafts & debts
New Clothes for me & Hubby
Booking the Hotel for our PRE PLANNED (Four months ago) trip to Houston with Nick... to take care of immigration stuff and see a friend of ours........... and money into trust fund for a car.....
Enter my brother's wedding........... that my parents invited us to, but we would have to pay $1000 for expenses........ (Hotel, Food, Etc)
The more reasonable goal is to get a car and we now have money in the trust to go toward the purchase of a vehicle of sorts. That being said, enter my mom today......... She yells at me for choosing to go to Houston and buy clothes instead of "Caring enough about my brother's wedding to go see it" (Which he decided to have said wedding out of state).............
I feel like we made the fiscally responsible decision, we did not waste the money- and at the end of the day- We got some new clothes in good condition- as well as put money into a grant fund toward the car, and am able to pay our own way to Houston........ so it's a win-win situation for us. Nick is handling the trust fund, and hopefully after the first of the year we will be able to get a car . More freedom, and less reliance on my family and friends for rides.......... ( You would think my mom would be thrilled)...........
So I am frustrated, and I know that nobody can "make" you feel guilty, but my mom sure tries. I wonder if this is false guilt (you know, guilt from sources which has no basis in truth AKA "Lies".......... Thoughts??
So I wanted to lay out the scenario
I recently lost about 45 pounds and my clothes were getting too big... and I recently got Grant money in from college... Here is how we (finally) decided to divvy it up.
Paying off bank fees/overdrafts & debts
New Clothes for me & Hubby
Booking the Hotel for our PRE PLANNED (Four months ago) trip to Houston with Nick... to take care of immigration stuff and see a friend of ours........... and money into trust fund for a car.....
Enter my brother's wedding........... that my parents invited us to, but we would have to pay $1000 for expenses........ (Hotel, Food, Etc)
The more reasonable goal is to get a car and we now have money in the trust to go toward the purchase of a vehicle of sorts. That being said, enter my mom today......... She yells at me for choosing to go to Houston and buy clothes instead of "Caring enough about my brother's wedding to go see it" (Which he decided to have said wedding out of state).............
I feel like we made the fiscally responsible decision, we did not waste the money- and at the end of the day- We got some new clothes in good condition- as well as put money into a grant fund toward the car, and am able to pay our own way to Houston........ so it's a win-win situation for us. Nick is handling the trust fund, and hopefully after the first of the year we will be able to get a car . More freedom, and less reliance on my family and friends for rides.......... ( You would think my mom would be thrilled)...........
So I am frustrated, and I know that nobody can "make" you feel guilty, but my mom sure tries. I wonder if this is false guilt (you know, guilt from sources which has no basis in truth AKA "Lies".......... Thoughts??
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