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Hi,
Ok this might seem like a silly post but I was wondering if they was a way I could encourage the affection of my cat. She is an 11month old female kitten (that I have since 10 weeks old and neutered). I love her dearly and we are quite bonded. I try to provide for all her needs: she has many window perches, cat tree, toys (tons), food puzzles, cat videos, quality food, cat fountains, tunnels, cat cave ect... We play a LOT (like at least 2 hours a day). And she bonded to me: she always welcomes me when I come home, when she is stressed she comes to seek me, she always ask for my attention, she wants to play a lot with me, wants to explore with me ect...However she is not very cuddly, and I made my peace with that and love her just the way she is. But the other night my bf noted that I always interacted with her through play and that maybe I never taught her how to interact differently with me. And I realized there might be a bit in truth with that, I was always afraid of losing her affection and was always afraid that she might feel like I did not respect when she wanted me to stop petting and so would stop as soon as her tail would be starting to move. She wanted to play so I played with her but she was not seeking as much petting so I did it way less. Do you think that maybe that can be partially the reason why she shows me her affection differently? Can I teach her that this is another way I show her how much I love her? Or do you think it's just who she is? Or her age? Or a bit of all above?
Sorry to bother you
Ok this might seem like a silly post but I was wondering if they was a way I could encourage the affection of my cat. She is an 11month old female kitten (that I have since 10 weeks old and neutered). I love her dearly and we are quite bonded. I try to provide for all her needs: she has many window perches, cat tree, toys (tons), food puzzles, cat videos, quality food, cat fountains, tunnels, cat cave ect... We play a LOT (like at least 2 hours a day). And she bonded to me: she always welcomes me when I come home, when she is stressed she comes to seek me, she always ask for my attention, she wants to play a lot with me, wants to explore with me ect...However she is not very cuddly, and I made my peace with that and love her just the way she is. But the other night my bf noted that I always interacted with her through play and that maybe I never taught her how to interact differently with me. And I realized there might be a bit in truth with that, I was always afraid of losing her affection and was always afraid that she might feel like I did not respect when she wanted me to stop petting and so would stop as soon as her tail would be starting to move. She wanted to play so I played with her but she was not seeking as much petting so I did it way less. Do you think that maybe that can be partially the reason why she shows me her affection differently? Can I teach her that this is another way I show her how much I love her? Or do you think it's just who she is? Or her age? Or a bit of all above?
Sorry to bother you