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I feel as if I'm being a botherer and a bore. My beloved Binx passed on the 25th August. I have nowhere to share my grief but here. I live alone in Thailand. I'm sure I'm not alone in this situation. I feel so sad. Despite several very comforting signs (spotted a video on pet loss where the speaker said the cat may appear as an outline or a shadow. The shadow is exactly what I saw passing in front of my monitor the day he passed, along with several other signs that day. I'm positive it wasn't a 'grief hallucination'. I'm one of those who is stoic at first and then the dam breaks. And despite a vision of my long deceased mother appearing as if in a 1950's (she would have been around as a young woman then) fashion catalogue sketch, her presence was very real, being with me for the first three days, and I'm pretty sure it was she who placed Binx under my arm in the early hours of the morning when it's still dark here with a quick transition of a scene of Bink tucking into a bowl of wet food (he had CKD and like most it was hard to get him to eat at all) in a vignette. Many years ago she told me a cousin suffering a brain tumour appeared to her in the same way and asked if she should tell her brother he was going to be alright, and whether they might find her bonkers if she told them as the image in the vignette was of a young man and my cousin then a child. The grief for Binx abated a bit, but has now exploded. I don't have anyone to talk with about it. I'm sure I'm not alone in this 'oh not the bloody cat again ..' So, thank you for letting me post here. I've spent my whole life with cats, but he was very special to me and I can't bear the thought of getting another. Thanks for your time. I feel so hopeless and can see no light at the end of it. Since I built this house, my husband passed just two years later, then all three rescue dogs of CKD, and now Binx. Someone told me the house was 'jinxed'. I'm inclined to agree. I've always called it the Albaschloss. Thank you for allowing me to share my misery.