just had a phone call of mil that they are taking dh's grandad into hospital, for those of you who don't know he was diagnosed with lung cancer last february and its now in the final stages, he refused treatment as he lost his wife 3 months previous to the diagnosis and didn't feel like he wanted any.
He's been pretty ill these past couple of weeks and the doctor gave him just a couple of weeks maybe last week but was still determined to remain at home with family support and carers but last night he had a fall and the carer found him on the floor this morning, he had been there all night and he forgot to keep his panic button near him and couldn't reach the phone. The carer called mil who called the dr and then went up there, the dr wasnt much help at all just said she was going to take him off his sleeping pills?? Mil said he kept drifting in and out of consciousness ad his breathing is horrendous and very rattly (infact she put the phone near to him and he sounded awful-I have worked as a carer and sort of know that by that kind of breathing he is near the end- how a dr could of left him is beyond me) and so she called Macmillan cancer care who also support him, his support worker has said it looks as though he really hasn't ot long left at all and she has arranged for him to go onto the macmillan unit at the hospital. I know vibes won't help him now but maybe vibes for a peaceful passing, its been a long 13 months and after losing dh's nana its been a bit of a strain. I just hope in some way that when he passes it may bring a little comfort to the family and knowing that hopefully they will be together again.
Mil is going to keep me updated, dh can't go as he has got a work meeting and also to be honest he doesn't really want to face all that again after his nana(he was there with her) and I respect him for that bt his mum sees it differently and thinks he should be there.Anyway thankyou all.xx
