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Hi. I am reaching out because I am really struggling with two new cats and if anyone can relate to the emotions I'm having, at least I won't feel alone.
In January I lost my 17 yr old cat Teddy. I was very attatched to him. He was a cuddling lap cat who just craved attention from anyone. I thought I wouldn't get a cat again soon, but a few weeks later I decided to visit a cat cafe with my husband for fun. One orange and white cat stood out because he jumped right up to my husband and sat on his chest. Aspen seemed so friendly and was purring like crazy, and very docile. I though he was great, but the manager showed us another new cat that was an adorable fluffy gray one, Kelvin. He was scared, but on a follow up visit, he was purring like crazy when we picked him up. They said Aspen got along with anyone, and since I couldn't decide on just one, I took both. They are both about 9 months old.
Aspen was chill from the start, and would come to my lap. I was so happy at the start. Kelvin took more time to come out from hiding.
It's been over a month. Kelvin shows some dominance (both are males), but they mostly play, chase, wrestle. They don't really snuggle up together, but there's been no hissing or meowing when they wrestle.
They sometimes sleep in the bed, but not close to us.
Lately Aspen hasn't come to my lap, and I realized that he doesn't head bump or rub up again our legs. He does seem happy to see me, follows me, purrs, but doesn't seem to crave attention. Kelvin does when he wants wet food. He seems to want to aways know what Aspen is doing. I dont really know Aspen's history, but I do this he was raised by humans.
So anyway, I know I might never have another Teddy, but now I'm devastated that even Aspen isn't a lap cat, or really want pets. I read him totally wrong. I knew Kelvin was an unknown, but was just so cute.
I know I can't expect too much from them, it's not fair to compare, and every cat is different, but I just miss the snuggles soooo much. I mean, other people's cats have come to my lap. I do play with them, and give treats to try to bond. I'm just heartbroken that they aren't what I hoped for and I think I wasn't ready for new cats. I should have done more research and found one that I knew would be a lap cat. I feel like I picked the wrong cats.
Please only respond if you have any encouragement or can at least relate to these feelings. Thanks.
In January I lost my 17 yr old cat Teddy. I was very attatched to him. He was a cuddling lap cat who just craved attention from anyone. I thought I wouldn't get a cat again soon, but a few weeks later I decided to visit a cat cafe with my husband for fun. One orange and white cat stood out because he jumped right up to my husband and sat on his chest. Aspen seemed so friendly and was purring like crazy, and very docile. I though he was great, but the manager showed us another new cat that was an adorable fluffy gray one, Kelvin. He was scared, but on a follow up visit, he was purring like crazy when we picked him up. They said Aspen got along with anyone, and since I couldn't decide on just one, I took both. They are both about 9 months old.
Aspen was chill from the start, and would come to my lap. I was so happy at the start. Kelvin took more time to come out from hiding.
It's been over a month. Kelvin shows some dominance (both are males), but they mostly play, chase, wrestle. They don't really snuggle up together, but there's been no hissing or meowing when they wrestle.
They sometimes sleep in the bed, but not close to us.
Lately Aspen hasn't come to my lap, and I realized that he doesn't head bump or rub up again our legs. He does seem happy to see me, follows me, purrs, but doesn't seem to crave attention. Kelvin does when he wants wet food. He seems to want to aways know what Aspen is doing. I dont really know Aspen's history, but I do this he was raised by humans.
So anyway, I know I might never have another Teddy, but now I'm devastated that even Aspen isn't a lap cat, or really want pets. I read him totally wrong. I knew Kelvin was an unknown, but was just so cute.
I know I can't expect too much from them, it's not fair to compare, and every cat is different, but I just miss the snuggles soooo much. I mean, other people's cats have come to my lap. I do play with them, and give treats to try to bond. I'm just heartbroken that they aren't what I hoped for and I think I wasn't ready for new cats. I should have done more research and found one that I knew would be a lap cat. I feel like I picked the wrong cats.
Please only respond if you have any encouragement or can at least relate to these feelings. Thanks.