Just need to talk

Well my cat smokey is 16 years old & has CRF. I realize that she is an old cat, but I get so sad when I go to the pet store & I see all the toys. My cat just doesn't play at all any more. I realize she is sick & so I do my best to take care of her & let her be. I love her so much I can't imagine my life with out her. I know I'm going to be devistated when she dies, but at the same time I look forward to having a young cat who plays & interacts with me more. I feel like a terrible Mom, how could I even think of having another kitty simply because my cat doesn't want to play. Truth be told I don't really want another cat, what I really want is for my cat to be young & healthy again. I guess I'm just sad today knowing that not only will I lose her, but that it's not going to be much longer. Well I just wanted to say those things so thanks for listening.

Rang_27,
Sorry to hear about Smokey Just by your messages, I can see how much you care for & love her! Take your time after she has gone to the bridge, and you'll decided when you want another feline in the house. I'm sure you'll know when the time is right. How is Smokey today?

I'm so sorry to hear about Smokey, too. But at least she had 16 wonderful years with you, and I am sure those years were filled with much happiness for her. It will be hard to lose her, but you have the comfort of knowing she had a good, long life, and was well cared for, and much loved!

Life really is tough sometimes.

All I can say is that you are a great mum and Smokey has been blessed to have you in her life. The time will come for Smokey to make her way towards the bridge - until that time keep on sharing that special love. When the time is right (you'll know when that is) you'll find another feline friend to share your life with and life will simply enter a new phase.

I lost my dear, sweet Tatiana this past May and to say the least we were totally and utterly devastated. If it wasn't for this site I don't know how I would have coped. Please be sure to keep posting there's always tonnes of support here. I'll be thinking of you and Smokey and hoping for lots of special times to be had by the two of you!

Lisa

Rang_27 - It is hard to watch our babes grow older and more placid with the life around them. Our oldest cat Baby ~ who is 17 does little more than sit around and stare at things and eat and sleep a lot.

Try to rmember that Smokey has more than earned the right to lay around. When I look at Baby - who has been a diligent 'watch cat' all these many years, I think - rest up my old friend, as you have worked hard all your life keeping us safe and glad to have owned you!

I like to think that in his heart he is still playing and getting into mischief. Your old girl is doing the same!

Rang~

As I sit here with Squirt on my lap, I read your post, and it made me feel sad. I thought about the time he was lost for 2 weeks. I thought I was never going to see him again. For whatever time Smokey has left, you have given him a good life. So many cats aren't that lucky. Here's to you and Smokey.

It is hard to see a loved friend grow old. During the last few months of her life, Tara did very little. I had her for 11 years, and it was very hard to put her to sleep, but it was for the best. Having my other cat around, then just a kitten, made it so much more bearable.

All I can say is, you probably will want another cat. I now have 2. I still miss Tara, but I know she was happy with me and had a great life. Your Smokey is also lucky to know love and happiness.

I'm sorry about your kitty. Don't be sad, please.
There is nothing wrong with wanting another cat, you both know that no kitten could ever replace the one you have now. I'm sure your kitty wouldn't want you to be lonely after she pass's on.
You will know when the time is right to get another one.

I know what you are going through, last August I had to help my 14-year-old cat start on her way to Rainbow Bridge. It has helped me to know I gave my cat a wonderful life and that she was very happy in my home. Enjoy the time you still have left with Smokey for as long as you can.

My baby, Whiskey, is 9 now. He's a big cat so he doesn't play much unless I help him by moving his favorite toy (straightned-out metal clothes hanger) around. I know I'm not looking forward to when his time comes. I've known him all of his life and I've had him since he was 18 months old.

Just know that you have given your cat all the love in the world. It's hard to lose a pet when that time comes.

Keith

Please don't feel guilty about getting another kitty. Smokey and you have a deep friendship and that will endure even after Smokey has gone to the Bridge. The memories will be forever dear.

Another cat will never replace Smokey, but will - when you are ready - be able to fill that hole of loneliness.

Love the time you have left with Smokey, make her time with you extra special and make sure she knows she is loved.

Best thoughts.