Originally Posted by shengmei
Those tests don't necessarily have to be used by parents testing kids. Spouses can test each other.
I think spouses should be able to test each other if the other suspects anything.
Wow. I actually find this even more offensive than the idea of someone testing their kids. At least parents have authority over their children; my partner most certainly does not
! He's my partner, my equal; he has no authority over me, and he does not own me, nor do I own him. I would consider this a form of abuse, and it would be something I would be willing to end a relationship over. Once again, it comes down to this: why don't you just ask
? If your relationship with your partner is so lacking in communication that you can't even ask the person you supposedly love if they're using drugs or not, I think drugs aren't the only problem.
Yes, I understand that drug-users can lie and that many of them are very, very good at concealing their addiction. Been there, done that -- I've participated in enough interventions, I've seen enough close friends fall by the wayside because of drugs and alcohol, I'm not naive or blind to the perils of drug use. I just think there are other avenues of support available to the general public besides purchasing OTC drug tests and demanding that our loved ones use them.
IMO, I think the only people who have any business testing for drugs are the police and their associates (including parole officers). I don't believe my employers have any right to test me for drugs, I don't believe my parents have any right to test me for drugs, and I most certainly do not
believe my boyfriend has any right to test me for drugs. Period.
And no, I'm not hiding anything from anyone. All this is from a drug-free teetotaler. I do feel very passionately about this, but I'm coming from a liberal, "all about civil liberties" kind of viewpoint. For anyone interested in hearing about the war on drugs from viewpoints similar to my own (right down to the drug-free teetotaler bit), check out Penn and Teller's Showtime television series "Bull****!" (I believe the episode "War on Drugs" comes from Season Two, but the entire series is worth a look.)