My husband!!!! :(

I'm really hoping the little guy is still at home with you...

In addition to the links that Heather provided, call any and all no-kill shelters and ask them about low cost spay/neuter/vaccination programs they have. A friend of mine had her kitten spayed & vaccinated for $70 at a shelter through a program that they do not advertise. But they have it, if you ask.

Originally Posted by LuckyGirl

Or, maybe you could put him in a carrier with food/water, small disposable litter box and leave him at the shelter, like an hour before they open....then watch to make sure someone takes him into the bldg???

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If you do that then you better high-tail it outta there because if you get caught you get major fines and in big trouble. Some shelters have security cameras you know. I wouldn't do this. Just going by the huge amounts of idiots who did that when I worked at the shelter here. You have better luck going in and saying you rescued this kitten, you have 3 others, your husband is threatening to dump him on the street, tell them you will pay a surrender fee if they can just take him in.

Or you could put the kitten into a large carrier with a small litter pan and take him with you to class, leave him in the car with a blanket over the carrier to keep some warmth in. That will solve the problem immediately but not in the long run, but at least the kitten won't go tonite and you will be home the other times to stop your husband if he tries tomorrow.

Well I solved the problem for tonight!!!!!!

I worked it so we both rode in today.. He works second shift, and since it raining he can't ride his motorcycle. So he picked me up at lunch and and brought me back to work.. So tonight I'll go to class, and he won't get off work till 9:30, and I'll get out of class at 10:00pm and he'll have to pick me up.. So he won't have enough time to go and pickup Alex and dump him..

So maybe he'll forget it... I might have to do some persuasion tonight to talk him into lettting me either keep him or more time find a new home...

Originally Posted by Jen

If you do that then you better high-tail it outta there because if you get caught you get major fines and in big trouble. Some shelters have security cameras you know. I wouldn't do this. Just going by the huge amounts of idiots who did that when I worked at the shelter here. You have better luck going in and saying you rescued this kitten, you have 3 others, your husband is threatening to dump him on the street, tell them you will pay a surrender fee if they can just take him in.

Or you could put the kitten into a large carrier with a small litter pan and take him with you to class, leave him in the car with a blanket over the carrier to keep some warmth in. That will solve the problem immediately but not in the long run, but at least the kitten won't go tonite and you will be home the other times to stop your husband if he tries tomorrow.

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whoops, didn't know all of that! Thanks for the info Jen! What about a pet shop? I know that's not the greatest solution either, but at least he'd be fed daily, and inside unharmed??? My girlfriend found a litter of kittens with no Mommy and hand raised them till 12 wks then took the ones she couldn't find homes for to the pet shop in our neighborhood. They sell them, but the don't kill them!!!

Originally Posted by angelkitty

Well I solved the problem for tonight!!!!!!

I worked it so we both rode in today.. He works second shift, and since it raining he can't ride his motorcycle. So he picked me up at lunch and and brought me back to work.. So tonight I'll go to class, and he won't get off work till 9:30, and I'll get out of class at 10:00pm and he'll have to pick me up.. So he won't have enough time to go and pickup Alex and dump him..

So maybe he'll forget it... I might have to do some persuasion tonight to talk him into lettting me either keep him or more time find a new home...

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Be completely shameless! If you have to use your womanly wiles on him to get him to knock it off and let you re-home the kitten then so be it. But at least the little guy is safe for 1 more night. I'd still be checking out the info below and making other possible arrangements, just in case.... this way you are prepared when he asks you what your doing to home him.

Good grief. This guy doesn't even sound like he is worth all of this trouble. I don't even think I would waste the energy on fighting with him to keep the cat. I don't believe I could live with someone heartless enough to take my cat and dump it on the side of the road. How could you ever feel comfortable being away from the house and leavign him there alone?

It sounds to me like this guy has more issues than the one this kitty has brought on over the last 4 weeks.

In another forum, we had a woman with a husband like this. She finally left him. (Thank God). a

A person who would just dump a kitty on the street has a big, empty, black, evil hole where their heart should be. I'd be with that man for about as long as it took me to pack HIS stuff and kick HIM out. (No I wouldn't leave--why should I be inconvenienced?) And if he complained, I'd call the police and get a protection warrant.

If he'll do this, he'll lie steal cheat and lot of other nasty things because he is morally bankrupt.

Kick him to the curb, just for "threatening" to do it.

I don't think Angelkitty should necessarily leave her husband. That is a huge decision. None of us know her and her husband's personal situation, so I think we should be focusing on helping Alex.

If no one you know is willing to adopt him, is there a no-kill shelter you can take Alex to??

Originally Posted by Jenny82

I don't think Angelkitty should necessarily leave her husband. That is a huge decision. None of us know her and her husband's personal situation, so I think we should be focusing on helping Alex.

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I agree 100%!! We do not know what goes on in her home.And after all, he has let her keep him this long and also let her keep the other cats/kittens..........that shows some compassion.
I hope you can find a home for him SOON!!

You'd probably find that from his perspective he's just sick of strays coming in and out, and having to keep them, and spending all of this money on them, and so has hoped that threatening to dump one will stop Angelkitty from rescuing any more.

Have you considered going to counselling and finding out if there's an underlying problem as to why he doesn't want another cat? It may be due to something unrelated and he's taking it out on poor little Alex.

I imagine counselling would be a very hard thing to bring up, but if you threaten to leave him because he won't let you keep Alex, then there seems to be problems that maybe need helping anyway.

Good luck, I hope it all works out.

Any updates?

Good luck and glad you have a solution for tonight! Keep us updated!

How are things going, any updates?

Originally Posted by sarahp

You'd probably find that from his perspective he's just sick of strays coming in and out, and having to keep them, and spending all of this money on them, and so has hoped that threatening to dump one will stop Angelkitty from rescuing any more.

Have you considered going to counselling and finding out if there's an underlying problem as to why he doesn't want another cat? It may be due to something unrelated and he's taking it out on poor little Alex.

I imagine counselling would be a very hard thing to bring up, but if you threaten to leave him because he won't let you keep Alex, then there seems to be problems that maybe need helping anyway.

Good luck, I hope it all works out.

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You are all so caring.. Thanks for caring... My husband is a good man,, he's just tired of strays that keep getting dropped off in the country. Our family's are pretty cynical of us, because I'm an animal lover. and so he gets heat from both sides. Not to mention that we spend lots of money taking care of these babies. And with humane society and shelters being full, he's kind of at his wits end. Around here, they kill these babies before they even get a chance to find them a home (too many). Bunch of country folk who won't spend the money for cats spay and neutur,, they'd rather snap their necks or let their mangy butch half breed starved to death dogs eat the cats. It's very sick. So his idea was to drop him off in a upperclass neighborhood with lots of kids so he could find a good home that way. (You can't give cats away around here++ it's just the backwoods thinking around this town). So he's not trying to be cruel or mean. It's just that I am overly sensitive to these little babies, and I want to keep him. A this point, I foudn a low cost spay through an organization and low cost vetting.. So with my persuasive wiles, and work up hidden money (that's gonna be the hard part).. I'll get all this done to Alex and he'll let me keep him... If he doesn't have to spend another dime on kittens vetting...

At this point,, he's not said a word about Alex,, but I used my womenly wiles to push him back on this.. Now I'm gonna be sneaky and figure out how to get some money to get this spay and vac done.. So any ideas.. I'm up for them...

Did you look at any of the links I posted? There are a ton of low cost spay/neuter/vaccine clinics in Indiana, you have to make some calls and see what dates they have open, or what's closer to you.... I'm glad your hubby's not a bad person, mine was no cat fan before LuckyGirl. He would've thought the same thing was perfectly acceptable cause he's never known otherwise (being raised by wolves, and in an area where it's common to have outdoor strays). I have since educated him accordingly, and thanks to LuckyGirl, being the wonderful magnificent little girl that she is, she has softened and melted her big tough daddy's heart....he is now a cat-fanatic, and even asks other people about their cats.... And he'll say "I don't know why I never liked cats, they're so great!" And when we had to watch my parents dog, he's like "dogs are a pain, cats are the best!"

Men! You can't live with em' and you can't shoot em', but you can put a little ex-lax in their coffee!!!!

Your DH sounds alot like my DH. He gets so irritated with my cats at times, but hes never threatened to dump them, because if he did I would tell him to not come home too,lol. Im glad you got it worked out for the time being though...........any updates?? Best of luck to ya.

I hope you sort something out don"t let you husband get his own way surely you have a family member who would love to take him on, I have 5 kitties 2 dogs and one bird, and for your husband to say they don"t like him is bull my two youngest are 8 to 12 weeks old and they where really wild biting hitting out they hated humans false stop, now they are the purrrrrfect kitties, your husband sould bite the bullet and stop squeeking like a mouse

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Your DH sounds alot like my DH.

He gets so irritated with my cats at times, but hes never threatened to dump them, because if he did I would tell him to not come home too,lol. Im glad you got it worked out for the time being though...........any updates?? Best of luck to ya.

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Still have the cats.. WE had a huge blow up over the strays one night, and I said I was tired of him giving me grief over these strays.. and blah blah blah blah.. He said I had to many cats, I said he had to many toys, and too many games, and too many complaints.. It was not pretty..

But we still have the kittens,,, under the stipulation I find them a home.. GOD I hope I find them a home.. I know the lady who manages the humane society,, so she's gonna put them on petfinder as a foster situation.. So hopefully we get a bite!! I HOPE HOPE HOPE..

Heather

Have you found the kitties a home yet?

Could you pass around pictures of the little guy in your class? Show your teacher, too? Maybe take a picture around to the administrative offices at the school? Probably you've already tried that.

Did you find him a home?

Cheers, from
SwampWitch