How do you deal with stress?

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I wasnt noticing it, but now i realised that i am really stressed out!

My face is gloomy, i have a constant headache, so many things run through my mind at once that i cant focus on one thing, and if i do i get immedietely distracted.

Today I broke down, i lost my temper to my bf because he slept in untill 4 pm and his phones were off. Then he told me that he was going to go out with his friends untill I have calmed down.
Instead about an hour later he rang my door bell, to take me out to the fair that is on around here.
I was really happy but then towards the end of the fireworks i started to get really low again, because he told me that we shouldnt see each other EVERY DAY!

I dont know why, but all i do is want to cry, ive put on 4 kgs in the last 3 weeks, in the last 3 days it feels like i am scoffing food into a bottomless pit and i just dont understand why!

I just feel alone, and that noone understands me. But i know this is all related to stress and this is why i need to calm down before i get more into it than needed!

I'm not going to do Yoga, but i need some other remides!
 

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Aww hon, I know just how you feel- I've been there myself! Why don't you run a nice, hot bubble bath and lay in there with some candles going and read a trashy novel until you get pruney. If that doesn't work, try some power shopping! I don't know why, but that always cheers me up! We are here for you whenever you need to vent. Sending lots of hugs!
 
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Originally Posted by Bijou's Mom

Aww hon, I know just how you feel- I've been there myself! Why don't you run a nice, hot bubble bath and lay in there with some candles going and read a trashy novel until you get pruney. If that doesn't work, try some power shopping! I don't know why, but that always cheers me up! We are here for you whenever you need to vent. Sending lots of hugs!
Thanks!
I did that this morning i had a bath for 2 hours.

I cant go power shopping, i have no $$$
 

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I have 4 skin kids,so YES I know stress!!!
Plus, my DH works between 64-66 hours a week with an hour there and an hour back drive.
I will turn down the lights and put on some soothing music and just kick abck and relax.
Light some candles and take a bubble bath.
I will get a book and get a soft fleece blanket and relax on the bed or my lazy boy chair.
Go for a drive,provided my head is NOT killing me.
Take a walk
And if all else fails, get some coke and ever clear
ONLY when the kids are in bed!!!
They also say being intimate is a stress reducer.
 

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I feel the exact same way - i either want to bite people's heads off over nothing or just want to be left alone - but then he leaves me alone and I get annoyed with him.

A walk helps me... a peaceful bath with candles... a mountain of margaritas


it really depends what it is that is bothering you. If it is a list of 'things to be done' I find it helps to make a list and start with the easy stuff that won't take too long (laundry etc) and as I do each thing cross it off the list so I can 'see' the list getting shorter and feel like I have accomplished something.

If it is life in general - take the time to sit alone and listen to some music and make a list of what is bothering you - then how you can rectify those things - things do not seem as bad when you can see how to fix them rather than just worrying about them
 

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When I was 28 (waay back when) I was diagnosed with an ulcer!!! I took a stress relief class at the local YMCA to get a handle on it. My biggest tip is to SLOW DOWN!!! I had so many things going on in my life at that time-got enganged, quit job and moved across state w/fiancee with not having another job, mom gets cancer-all in a very short time.
Take time to enjoy the day. Don't be in a hurry -ask yourself is this really important to me. There still are days that I stress but have dealing with this for quite some time I've been much better. Take deep breaths.
 

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Fwan, it took me forever to learn how to deal with stress caused by others...not by things I did. My reactions needed a lot of "correction" shall iI say! I learned to focus on me and things I needed for my esteem. Not food or weepy movies, but exercise and fresh air, intellectual stimulation. It was REALLY HARD to do, but I have done well. Take baby steps, be good to yourself, and focus on those things that make you feel good about yourself. Only you can do that. Others cannot. And reward yourself with a small chocoalte, a new candle - something that spells relaxation and calm.

 
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