Becoming a Mod on here!!

Originally Posted by krazy kat2

I think your post to crittermom, casting aspersions on her kids, was very rude... You owe crittermom an apology.

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I agree, your reply to crittermom showed the exact behaviour she had talked about. While *some* forums may do very well with younger mods, this forum is extremely active and has many adult members and I do not think someone under 18 could handle that. Of course some may be able to handle it but it is never in the best interests of a site to just do it and hope it works out while there are adults who are more likely to be better mods.

Plus, with the restrictions on minors on the site (no PMs or access to IMO etc), it would be extremely difficult for you to moderate when no one can PM you about a problem and you can not access a forum to moderate it.

Thank you krazy kat2 & icklemiss21!!!

I will simply reply to Sunshine'sKid's post by saying the following

My children helped me raise 5 3 1/2 week old orphan kitties.They helped with bottle feeding every 3 hours.With thier help, I was able to raise those beautiful kittens to be able to go to their forever homes.

My children have seen more in their short lifes than ANY adult should ever have to.They sat back and watched thier Grandfather go from a vibrant 53 year old man to a man who couldn't even walk without help.They watched him have to have help cleaning up after going to the bathroom.They watched as he was injected countless times with Morphine,Insulin.......Chemo and Radiation.My 16 year old was with me when her Pa had to undergo 21 hours of surgury removing as much of the Cancer as they could.To ONLY watch him slowly and VERY painfully die.So, PLEASE do NOT ever say that

Just because your kids don't know anything, I can't either.

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Because you have NO idea what they have or don't have knowledge about.
I can ONLY hope that YOU are NEVER faced with what my children have had to learn.

I didn't respond to this thread because really, everything that has been needed to say has been. I just felt the need to add that as this thread has continued on Sunshine has proven, on her own, why there is a need for an age restriction, as well as why the Mod team takes an invitation only approach when they feel a need to expand.

Sunshine, I will apologize ahead of time for being blunt, but I find your responses in this thread to be immature, especially in the response to Crittermom. My fiance's 9 year old is standing in the corner as I type this for for being disrespectful in the same way. You can be as book smart as a college professor or biologist, but that means nothing if you are unable to handle situations appropriately. That comes with time... as you grow up you will learn how to handle situations effectively and maturely.

Originally Posted by sashacat421

I think most importantly, is that we're all here for the kitties. Cats rule. They rule here 24/7, they are our passion, our lives, our everything. Not that you are not passionate too...but with you being so new it almost might appear that you're more focused on "moderating for moderating's sake" and that's simply what we're not about. Why not enjoy this site and be an active member for awhile? that would speak louder than anything, really.

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well said! my thoughts exactly!

and I, too think you owe crittermom an apology. that was totally uncalled for.

I don't owe her an appology. I'm not going to. My mom even said there is no need. It's offensive to me. The impression I'm getting, is that some people on here, don't WANT kids on this forum. Well fine, as of now, I'll only participate with CAT questions and answer questions other people have.

Sweetie, we don't mind having kids here, rather, often they want to know more about cats and end up helping their whole family, including the cats. However, for the duration of this thread you have been asking to be treated as an adult, to be given the rights of an adult, and asserted that the only difference between you and someone who is legally an adult is your age. So, we are responding to you like an adult.

You can't have it both ways, that is, claim that you are independent, responsible, and mature enough to be a moderator of this forum, while at the same time defend that you do not need to apologize to someone you were rather rude to (honestly, I think that some people have been a little more harsh to you than the situation really warrants, but you escalated that rather than making it better) because your mom said so.

I don't think anyone's saying that they don't want children on here, infact, I've talked with many younger members who actually HAVE manners, are kind, and NOT disrespectful to any other members. They're here for the same reasons as the rest of us: To learn all we can about our feline friends. I can say that the mods on here are wonderful, will go out of their way to help any way they can, and are truly dedicated to this site, the members, and their kitties. They don't "roll their eyes" at older forum members comments. I hate to be rude, but I think there's a lot of things in life you need to learn, and temper tantrums don't help that.
I find it very sad that you can't apologise to crittermom, and if your "mother" says there's no need, then what kind of values is she raising you with?

Thanks. Just had to get all that off my chest!

Originally Posted by GirlSetsFiyah

I don't think anyone's saying that they don't want children on here, infact, I've talked with many younger members who actually HAVE manners, are kind, and NOT disrespectful to any other members. They're here for the same reasons as the rest of us: To learn all we can about our feline friends.

I can say that the mods on here are wonderful, will go out of their way to help any way they can, and are truly dedicated to this site, the members, and their kitties. They don't "roll their eyes" at older forum members comments. I hate to be rude, but I think there's a lot of things in life you need to learn, and temper tantrums don't help that.

I find it very sad that you can't apologise to crittermom, and if your "mother" says there's no need, then what kind of values is she raising you with?

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You took the words right out of my mouth.. er.. fingers?

Originally Posted by Sunshine'sKid

It's offensive to me.

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How is apologizing offensive to you? If anyone should be offended, it should be Crittermom.

well said girlsetsfiyah. I have no problem with kids that are on here, including yourself. nobody is trying to be mean here, honestly and I hope I didn't come across as mean to you.

If anyone should be offended, it should be Crittermom.

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I am offended,but I am an adult and will continue to act as one.
I know in my heart, that my kids are special.

The purpose of TCS is to share and learn how to better care for our cats.
In that process, we learn to enjoy & respect each other's differences.
There are ways to feel useful here on TCS other than being a MOD.

On TCS, we share much joy & sometimes tragic, heartbreaking loss.
But it's all good.
I hope that you remain an active member & join us in improving the lives of our kitties.

Originally Posted by Sunshine'sKid

Well fine, as of now, I'll only participate with CAT questions and answer questions other people have.

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I think that's a good idea

I hope you grow up to learn that when you hurt another person's feelings, whether intentionally or not, whether or not you think they should have been hurt by what you said, whether they hurt you first or not, your best recourse is always to aplogize and say you're sorry. If they say they are hurt, then you say you're sorry. If you think you were misundertood, then say you're sorry and then explain why you think they should not have been hurt. It really is that simple. And in many ways, it's one of those things that show the difference between a kid and an adult

I am closing this thread now. Should you decide to apologize to critter mom after all, please send it to me [email protected] and I'll forward it her way. I see no point in continuing this thread anymore now.