As I mentioned in a couple of other posts, I just had a date, the first I may say for several years! I have been in touch with this guy for a few months by email, through a personals site, and I broke all the rules by inviting him here to stay without meeting him anywhere else first. Several friends were briefed to call me at intervals with code words to check I was OK!
Well, he is a sweet guy, very bright and well educated, and pretty good around the house. He was here for three days and helped me sand and paint a wall, and he was very good with the cats, who liked him too. We had quite a lot in common, but disagreed on some fundamental issues, none of which bother me much except for some comments he made which seemed rather racist. Also, I paid for everything, even a lemonade when we were out one day! He never took me out for a meal or offered to pay for groceries in a supermarket. He did cook one evening though.
But although he made it clear he was up for more, I just couldn't bring myself to act as anything other than a new friend. And right now I just don't think I could ever feel that chemistry that I need in a relationship. I don't know what to do - he wants to meet again, either here or in England and I am not sure it is fair. I have told him this and he thinks things could grow. But in my life I have always felt something, some spark, at first meeting, even though it wasn't always acted upon at once! What do others think? Should I bow out gracefully now, or give it another chance?
Well, he is a sweet guy, very bright and well educated, and pretty good around the house. He was here for three days and helped me sand and paint a wall, and he was very good with the cats, who liked him too. We had quite a lot in common, but disagreed on some fundamental issues, none of which bother me much except for some comments he made which seemed rather racist. Also, I paid for everything, even a lemonade when we were out one day! He never took me out for a meal or offered to pay for groceries in a supermarket. He did cook one evening though.
But although he made it clear he was up for more, I just couldn't bring myself to act as anything other than a new friend. And right now I just don't think I could ever feel that chemistry that I need in a relationship. I don't know what to do - he wants to meet again, either here or in England and I am not sure it is fair. I have told him this and he thinks things could grow. But in my life I have always felt something, some spark, at first meeting, even though it wasn't always acted upon at once! What do others think? Should I bow out gracefully now, or give it another chance?