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This is a matter of life or death for my MUNCHY! Please help!!!

post #1 of 17
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Okay. If you have read my last post about munchkin having surgery last tuuesday and that whole situation, you kinda have the jist of the new problem arrising. For those who do not, here is the quick rundown...

* yesterdayy night my bf dropped by his house before we went to the mall to get something from the mall. My cats live at his house because my parents hate them, and i have tried convincing them plenty of times.
* I work for the vet that operated on my munchy. I actually aided in it for a while (Vet assistant/ Tech in training).
*The vet put her on a special diet because her intestinal lymph nodes were larger than normal, and messing around with her intestinal tract making her vomit up her food, and her tummy very tense. It was not cancer that the biopsy revieled (Phew!) but it could be - a food allergy, IBD, or just a bacterial infection that she is being treated for now.
*The vet told me that she should limit her actvities since she has three sets of sutures in her, and that she should be on low residue euk. vet diet wet for a while until the problem becomes clear, but she should only have 1 table spoon a day (since i have heard that she has kept her food down after a few days, i told my bf to up the amount by 1/4 the can per day, and if she vomits at all to give her 1/2 or 1/4 the can- but she hasn't vomited for a while now).

SITUATION AT HAND:

I walked into the house and his father told me that he had fed her (My bf feeds her every morning, before giving her the medication , and thats it! If given any more food information could be jumbled and the cat is on observation!!!)
He told me that he had taken her out for excersize (the cat has three sets of stitches that if pulled on the interior can lead to complications... i don't want that). She is supposed to stay in my bf's room no matter what, how messy it is or whats going on!
I told them what was said last night... that the doctor and i agreed about these trems, but they think im making it up. They have no idea! I own them!
They told me that when they pick her up- like a kid under the armpits which pulls on her healing stitches- she hisses and growls at them- i would too!.
She is very sore in this area, and they should not be touching her at all!!!

So i need help on how to formulate a professional lettered document stating these facts... please at least give me an outline of what will convince them...! this is a matter of life and death for my cat!!!
post #2 of 17
I've read your other posts regarding your cat at your bf's parents' house. From what I understand there is NO possibility that you can take these cats into your parent's home, you cannot move right now and neither can your bf, i.e., neither of you are in a position to move out on your own or in together, your bf's parents will not follow your directives regarding your cat at their house. If all of the above is a correct interpretation of your position, the ONLY option you really have is to find this cat a loving home with new owners. I know you love this cat, but if you are not in a position to care for it one-on-one (I know you buy it's food, etc.), then the only humane thing to do is find a new home for it. Perhaps when you have completed your schooling and live on your own would be the best time for you to consider adopting another kitty.
post #3 of 17
You and your boyfriend cannot provide the kind of home this cat needs. Please think of the cat and do the right thing.
post #4 of 17
I have to agree. You should know as a vet tech that you should not adopt a cat unless you can provide adequate care for it. Why did you adopt it if you knew you could not keep it at home?

Your boyfriends parents are being nice enough to let you keep it there, but if you keep getting upset at them, they might just stop letting you keep it there. What happens when your bf moves to college? What happens if the parents decide that keeping their sons girlfriends cat is too much effort?

Please think about this from an outsiders perspective. If this was someone else's story, what would you recommend to them?

I cannot think of a way to force them to look after the cat the way you want to. It sounds as though they'll keep doing what they're doing even if you do type up a professional letter for them.

If the cat only stays in one room, why can't it stay in your bedroom all day??? Ask your parents if you can keep her while she's healing, then maybe you should think hat's best for her long term future.

I'm sorry if we all seem horrible, but please see it from our perspective before you get upset at us.
post #5 of 17
Have to talked to the vet you work for?? I know the vet I go to has a few "clinic" kitties ... They have a good life and pretty much run the clinic
post #6 of 17
Thread Starter 
Yes... i totally understand and even if i am upset, as i do love the cats dearly, you are right as to point me and look to the perspective of them...
my vet aready has 2 clinic cats - jerry garcia and frodo (i named him bono as a kitten, but the doctor changed it... we usually name the cats after bands or musicians...i.e.- Phish, Simon(like simon and garfunkel) etc... although they have offered to put my one cat "Tai" as a clinic cat before frodo, everyone was so excited to get a new hospital kitten that i didn't want to spoil the excitement.... I understand that if i can not keep them myself then there is no point in having them, but i just can't do that... i love them and raised them... they are in humain areas btu my concern is his parents... my bf is going to get an apartment the summer before i turn 18 and then they wll be okay... he listens to me... i guess all i can do is try to convince them to leave them alone...
post #7 of 17
I hope you are taking everyones advice into consideration. It is sound advice. However don't feel too bad. I've taken on more than I can chew in the past, including with getting pets that I wasn't quit ready for. It is obvious that you love your cat, so getting beyond missing her, and finding her a home with folks who can give her the care she needs, would be the most loving thing that you could do. I wish you and your cat well.
post #8 of 17
Yes- love is not demonstrated by possession of an animal when it would be better off elsewhere. Love is loving it enough to see that it gets what it needs in the way of care and attention.

It's a bit like giving a child up for adoption- the Mother's heart is seriously and permanently broken, but selfless love shows her how to set that aside and give the child a better life, even if it means putting it in someone elses care.

It is about what is best for the cat, not about your pain in losing her. Sometimes the most loving and responsible thing you can do is give up possession.
post #9 of 17
Get your boyfriend to stand up for you, technically he is the primary care giver if I understand correctly. He must know what is going on. Can they not see that there was an incision? This area can be very swollen and evident even with internal stitches. Show them the vet bill if they don't believe you. Also, vets often have a sheet for post-surgery where they check off all the boxes that pertain to you (minimal movement, food restrictions, etc - commonly given after a spay, but any surgery). Since you work there maybe they did not give you one. Get one and give it to them.
post #10 of 17
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Originally Posted by SolarityBengals View Post
Get your boyfriend to stand up for you, technically he is the primary care giver if I understand correctly. He must know what is going on. Can they not see that there was an incision? This area can be very swollen and evident even with internal stitches. Show them the vet bill if they don't believe you. Also, vets often have a sheet for post-surgery where they check off all the boxes that pertain to you (minimal movement, food restrictions, etc - commonly given after a spay, but any surgery). Since you work there maybe they did not give you one. Get one and give it to them.
From what I've read from her posts, they aren't likely to pay any more attention to a letter from the vet than they are willing to listen to her or their son. If this kittie's life really is in danger, the best thing is to get her out of there and find a good home for her as quickly as possible.
post #11 of 17
I don't understand people sometimes . Thats pretty sad if they can't do what is needed..
post #12 of 17
I agree. It is bewildering why they wouldn't take proper care of the cat. I guess it boils down to you can't expect others to take care of your animals as they should when it isn't their animal and/or responsibility (whether it is right or not). It doesn't sound as though there was a verbal agreement to take care of your animal in a particular manner after the procedure she had. That is why it is so important as the owner to take charge of the animals well being to assure its safety because no one else may do it.
post #13 of 17
I know it sounds harsh,but as long as the kittie is in his parents house,I don't think you or your boyfriend have much say in the matter.
post #14 of 17
Thread Starter 
I wish it was as easy as moving a way, and i really have boiled down to that point. problem is, his parents are hard to read. I have told my boyfriend that i would take the cats away and they would stay at my job, but they just say that if they leave they can't come back, but when it comes to that point where somthing needs to be done i havn't a clue what to do... which comes to my nextt question...

HOW DO I TAKE CHARGE IN THIS SITUATION...ANY IDEAS?
post #15 of 17
I'm sorry to hear about your current problem. I've been reading along. I tend to agree with the other posters, I know that it is painful to give up pets, but they need a quiet home with someone who will care for them properly until you can hopefully get your boyfriend's parents to undestand your feelings/thoughts on the care of your cats. But sounds like they wouldn't listen.

Could you possible keep the cats at another friend's house, not your boyfriend's?
post #16 of 17
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Originally Posted by xXPunkKittenXx View Post

HOW DO I TAKE CHARGE IN THIS SITUATION...ANY IDEAS?
You could begin taking charge by looking for someone who'd be able to take care of your cat properly. If you are willing to consider it, I'm sure people could suggest some options on finding responsible people for her. I think 'PetFinder' could be a start. I don't know if you are considering giving her up or not, but if you are, actively looking for someone would definately move you in the direction of taking charge of this situation.
post #17 of 17
In all honesty, the best way to "take charge" would be to find a new home for these kitties. They don't deserve this, and you shouldn't be doing this to yourself! your going to make yourself sick worrying! The best thing in my opinion would be to find them a happy, stable and CARING home where you won't have to worry about their welfare. If you look at you cats as your children, they should come first...Just my two cents.
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