Apologies in advance for a long post, but I don't know where else to get advice for my dilemna.
I have a friend that seems to be jealous of my cat! She was supportive about the "idea" of me getting a cat but when it became a reality, she seems to resent it.
So far, she has said my cat is weird and will never be "normal" because she is still being domesticated from being an abandoned feral. As such, her tolerance for handling and petting is limited, she doesn't yet sit on my lap (but does sit next to me and sleep with me). My cat has made amazing progress in the six weeks I have had her, from hiding and hissing to being calm and playful and loving to me. She did hide when my friend came over last month, but my home was still new to her and it was her "terrritory" so she was a little freaked out by the stranger.
My kitty is a grey/brown striped tabby with green eyes. Her fur seems to be short or regular on the top, but full and light brown underneath and it is very thick and pretty around her face, her belly, and tail. She has a small face and sweet expression and beautiful dainty black paws with toe fur. I think she is precious. My friend called her "ugly" and told me I got a reject cat and shouldn't have chosen her. I said there was something about her that I responded to and I didn't choose to adopt her because of what kind of markings she had. She said again I made a bad choice and was stupid. I was really hurt by her calling my cat ugly and mean.
When we were discussing my friends upcoming visit, I reminded her not to pick up the cat and she was hurt - she had told me she was going to "train" her to be held and I said no - that she is fine and lots of cats don't like being picked up and held. She told me I was wrong and didn't know anything about cats. I said I know about MY cat and don't mess with her. She even asked who was more important to me - her or the cat. I told her that was a stupid question, but I was thinking "the cat.."
She will be at my place alone for awhile while I am at work. I don't think she will do anything to hurt my cat, but still, I don't want her to make my cat hide and be scared all weekend.
Has anyone had a similiar experience with having someone close to you not like your cat? How do you deal with people who don't like animals or your pet?
I wish I could tell her not to come, but I told her she was welcome before all this really started.
I have a friend that seems to be jealous of my cat! She was supportive about the "idea" of me getting a cat but when it became a reality, she seems to resent it.
So far, she has said my cat is weird and will never be "normal" because she is still being domesticated from being an abandoned feral. As such, her tolerance for handling and petting is limited, she doesn't yet sit on my lap (but does sit next to me and sleep with me). My cat has made amazing progress in the six weeks I have had her, from hiding and hissing to being calm and playful and loving to me. She did hide when my friend came over last month, but my home was still new to her and it was her "terrritory" so she was a little freaked out by the stranger.
My kitty is a grey/brown striped tabby with green eyes. Her fur seems to be short or regular on the top, but full and light brown underneath and it is very thick and pretty around her face, her belly, and tail. She has a small face and sweet expression and beautiful dainty black paws with toe fur. I think she is precious. My friend called her "ugly" and told me I got a reject cat and shouldn't have chosen her. I said there was something about her that I responded to and I didn't choose to adopt her because of what kind of markings she had. She said again I made a bad choice and was stupid. I was really hurt by her calling my cat ugly and mean.
When we were discussing my friends upcoming visit, I reminded her not to pick up the cat and she was hurt - she had told me she was going to "train" her to be held and I said no - that she is fine and lots of cats don't like being picked up and held. She told me I was wrong and didn't know anything about cats. I said I know about MY cat and don't mess with her. She even asked who was more important to me - her or the cat. I told her that was a stupid question, but I was thinking "the cat.."
She will be at my place alone for awhile while I am at work. I don't think she will do anything to hurt my cat, but still, I don't want her to make my cat hide and be scared all weekend.
Has anyone had a similiar experience with having someone close to you not like your cat? How do you deal with people who don't like animals or your pet?
I wish I could tell her not to come, but I told her she was welcome before all this really started.