ooh, this makes me so mad!
I am 23, recently married, and personally my biological clock is going haywire every time I see a kid. I want them bad, but we're also in school right now, so realistically I probably won't have one for another 4-6 years. Also, I've always, ever since I was a little girl, felt led to adopt, and my DH's sister is adopted, so I very sincerely doubt I will ever actually give birth-- we intend to adopt any children we do have.
But the decison to have children is not one that anyone has a right to make FOR you, and frankly it's none of their business. I get riled about this because women do not exist solely to procreate... you'd think in this day and age people would "get it", but they still act like something is wrong with you if you chose not to have children.
This even applies when you say you want to adopt... I've heard more than once, "Don't you want your OWN kids?" or, "You'll change your mind and want to have your own kids someday..." Sorry, but my adopted kids WILL be my own kids!
No offense to those who have birth children, but I really don't think we need to keep creating more children in order to "propogate the species." There's plenty of propogation as it is... now there are just a bunch of unwanted kids screaming to be loved. If we can save one kid from the foster care treatment I'll consider my duty on this earth complete (Again, no offense to the wonderful people who open their hearts as foster parents... but the standards are significantly less stringent and abuse is rampant in foster care.)
Uh, but my point is, it's nobody's business but you're own what you chose to do with your life. Frankly I'd much rather you not have children -- if it's truly not what you want, what could be more tragic than a child born into a home of parents who regret their decision?
And I think you should be able to go out and get a hysterectomy tomorrow if you so choose. I've got two friends who are my age and suffering tremendously because of uteral problems--one is a lesbian, one is transgender, and neither of them want kids. They have each been told countless times the only solution to their suffering is to get a hysterectomy. NO DOCTOR will permit either of them to get a hysterectomy because, "you're still of childbearing age and might change your mind."
That is such BULL. Women do not exist solely as babymaking machines. I was under the impression that 18 was the legal age of adulthood and the age at which you are able to make your own medical decisions. For something as crucial as childbearing to be placed in the hands of someone other than the individual in question flat-out disgusts me. We are grown adults with the ability to think and perceive and decide what we want out of life, we are NOT children to be "protected" from making poor choices.
I say if someone decides they want a hysterectomy, gets it and later regrets it, then they made a poor decision and life goes on--that's part of being an adult. You can always adopt -- I guess for some people that's not the same, but it's a part of being an adult that you do things you sometimes regret and suffer the consequences. But just because someone could make a poor choice doesn't mean the choice should not be made available, at all times, to all adults, everywhere.
Sorry, but this just Ts me off. Next time someone says you'll change your mind about having kids, tell them you're sure someday they'll change theirs!