I know exactly how you guys feel. I hate to be treated like I'm nothing more than a piece of meat with no feelings or thoughts of my own. I really do think that most men think they are paying us a compliment, and don't understand how it makes us feel.
Once though, I was in wal-mart paying out and this man walks up beside me at the register. He got close enough that he was nearly face to face with me, so I turned to look at him intending to ask what his problem was, and before I could open my mouth he says "I just wanted to tell you that you are really beautiful" and then he turned around and walked away!!
The girl checking me out, the lady behinid me in line, and myself just stood there with our jaws hanging for a minute. It was unbelieveable, and I won't ever forget it. If I hadn't have been married, I would have chased him down for sure!!!
He expected no reply, just paid his compliment and walked away. If more men would realize the response they could get from that instead of cat-calling, it would be great.
I hang out with mostly all guys (I don't get along with girls as well) so I often listen to them oogling and talking about women in this way. I really don't think they see anything wrong with it. I think they all should take lessons from the stranger I met in wally world though!