Originally Posted by Rockcat
I think that divorce is sad. I've been divorced twice. The 1st time I wanted out of the marriage so bad that I was relieved when my then-husband cheated on me. I celebrated too, but it wasn't really fun. The second time, I was devestated that my husband of 9 years wanted a divorce. I got over it and amvery very very happily remarried
, but still...
To me, even when I wanted it, divorce felt like a death.
I think its sad, too. Although my first marriage was exactly like yours - I was so stoked when my husband cheated (after the initial shock of it) because I finally had the one definitive excuse I'd been looking for for years, to leave him. But I should have left him long before it got to that, I really should.
Now that I am engaged again we are taking our time and enjoying each other. I want THIS one to last. I felt horrid being a `divorcee', but my ex has married his affair woman (poor her - the only thing I am even remotely sympathetic towards her about). He wasn't such a bad guy, I suppose, but he was a really bad husband! But we are kind of friends now - I mean, we don't bang each others' doors down to catch up, but we weren't so far gone that we can't remember the good times and have a nice relationship now.
A friend of mine (who was run over and killed a few years ago, actually - RIP darling Sharon
) had a divorce party with her ex-husband, or more like, a divorce dinner. They were a couple who loved each other very much but couldn't be married. They remained very, very close and he was devastated when she died.