I Need some help..... quick?!

Okay.. I am cutting a really long story as short as I can.

I met this guy on myspace awhile ago.. and we hit it off. Could talk for hours online.
Then on the 9th, he asked me if I wanted to go hang out and maybe grab a bite to eat.. so after careful consideration, I said yes.
So we met at a video store and walked to the park. We were there from about 11:30am till 6pm.. then he took me out for dinner.
Best time I have had in a looong time.

Well.. by the time I got home at 8:30pm.. there was a cop car in the driveway.. my mum got so worried because I haven't gone out for a long time.. that she thought I was kidnapped or raped or somehting. So I decided not to tell her the entire truth about what I was doing.

So today was alright.. tlaked to him most of the day.. and we decided we are going to go back out tomorrow afternoon..

But I gotta tell mum where I am going this time.. but I don't know what to say or how to say it.. I really like this guy.. and I don't want her to ruin it for me. I am extremely happy for once in a long time.

I don't want to tell her the truth about yesterday right away.. I will eventually.. but not right now.

But she is going to think he is a rapist or a kidnapper or something stupid like that. Okay.. natural reaction.. it came to my mind at one point before I met him too.. but he is a good guy..

So I just need some help... I am going to tlak to her aobut it tomorrow morning.

By the way, I am 18, 19 in december.. so I would think I am old enough to make these decisions on my own. This is also my first boyfriend.
He is 19.

So any ideas or tips as how to tell her and convice her it's alright?

Maybe leave out the info that you met him online Just tell her, you met a really nice guy that you have alot in common with, and want to see if you are a match.

My only problem is she will ask where I met him... I don't go out often. The most I do is go to the cat rescue, take care of the kittens.. pat the cats for a bit and come home.
Sorta live an anti-social kind of life.

I know it would be a bummer on a date, but maybe you could take along a friend your mom knows and trusts, just so she isn't so worried? Turn it into a fun double date night or something. Besides, having a friend's opinion is always good - for your mom and for you about this guy.

Or you could agree to stay in a public place like the mall/restaurants/etc. and maybe check in with her every few hours just to let her know that everything's okay? Think of it as respect for overprotective motherly instincts.

Know what? I think you say, "Mum, I met this really neat guy. We talked and talked for hours and had a great time, and then we went out for dinner, and that was cool, too. We want to see more of each other, so that's what we're doing."

Yes, it's a given that she'll ask where you met him. Mums do that. Be straight with her. Tell her you met him on line. Tell her you've weighed every move carefully, and it feels OK so far, and you're being careful. If she looks like freaking out, tell her that there are creeps on the Internet, and there are creeps in the library, and there are creeps pretty much everywhere, and you just have to tread carefully until you get a sense of the person -- no matter how you met him. And promise her that you'll be careful -- not defensively, but with obvious concern for her feelings. She just wants her little girl to be safe. And no, you aren't a little girl anymore -- but you will ALWAYS be HER little girl. If you play it right, that will be a lovely thing, not a burden. But you have to be straight with her.

Good luck -- with Mum and with your guy.

Originally Posted by rapunzel47

Know what? I think you say, "Mum, I met this really neat guy. We talked and talked for hours and had a great time, and then we went out for dinner, and that was cool, too. We want to see more of each other, so that's what we're doing."

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agree with that....

I would also say, i meet him for the first time at the video store,. and maybe you could have him come to your house to let your mom meet him before going out the next time?

PS jsut tell him not to bring up that you started talking on the net first.

Have him over to your house. You don't need to tell your mom where you met him...but she needs to know who he is for him to like and trust him. The more visible he is to her, the more likely she won't mind you being with him.

I met my boyfriend online too, although it was a little bit different because one of my friends introduced me to him. We talked for a couple years before finally meeting. I was afraid to tell my mom too but I told her and she agreed that it was ok as long as she met him. The first time we met I was with a bunch of friends, the second time was at the mall where my mom met him and she understood why I liked him. Maybe you could try something like that. I was only 15 at the time so my mom had to drive me to the mall and instead of just going home she came in and met him, but since you are almost 19 I don't know if your mom would drive you places still.

Well.. I didn't tell her I met him online... but I managed to tell her about him anyway. I'll tell her eventually..

Feeling sorta crappy and sick right now though.. so I don't want to explain at the moment.