I'm not sure if this a rant or what, but this concerns me and it's on my mind and someone here might have a different perspective.
So, as I've mentioned in other threads, I'm going back to school and moving into a school apartment (I'm going to miss my kitty!!). I've been chatting with my soon to be roommate, who was assigned by the school. I'm 25, she's 20 (how do they think THAT is going to work?!
) and so far we have some stuff in common.
But practically the first thing she asked me was do I like to party, to which I answered, sometimes. She later mentioned that she was at a party and drunk. After that she mentioned her age. During the previous parts of the conversation, I had no idea she was under-age!
Anyway, I talked to my parents and one of my friends about it and they all said that under-age drinking is NOT something I want to get mixed up in. They advised me to save a copy of the conversation where she said that, and send her and email and say, "Hey, I didn't know you were under-age, and until you aren't, I'm not comfortable with you drinking at the apartment, cause I could get arrested if you do!" I also told her that if she wants to go to a party somewhere else and drink, that's up to her, I'm not her mom. I said that I want us both to be able to live in a comfortable environment, so I felt the need to say something. I also advised her that if she can't deal with that that she needs to say something and one of us needs to go to housing and ask for a reassignment. I've had enough bad roommates to not want to deal with it again.
Anyway, I sent that last night and she's been online but she hasn't responded yet. She hasn't given me a, "Yeah I'm ok with that," but she also hasn't given me a, "Who the hell do you think you are?!"
Mind you, I have a glass of wine or a coke and whiskey once in a while and I cook with alcohol, but because of the fact that I take a medicine everyday for migrains and it can't be mixed with alcohol, I don't generally drink. I also have more fun when I'm sober, but that's just me. I mean, if she was stuck at a party and everyone was too bombed out to drink, all she'd have to do is call and I would give her a ride home. But I'm not going to break the law for her and risk ruining my future. I mean, in WA state, just being upstairs while she's downstairs drinking can be enough for an arrest or a serious fine.
My other concern, which I didn't mention in the email is that our apartment is in with others that are split into groups, and our group is right next door to where the family groups are. Central has made it clear that they do not tolerate swearing, drinking, loud noises, loud music, loud parties, or drugs in and around those areas. They reserve the right to kick you out at the first offense. And our front yard looks right across to the family units' back yards so we are considered a family friendly area.
Anyway... (sigh) I can say that she's a MAJOR cat person, so it's not a total loss.
(sigh)
So, as I've mentioned in other threads, I'm going back to school and moving into a school apartment (I'm going to miss my kitty!!). I've been chatting with my soon to be roommate, who was assigned by the school. I'm 25, she's 20 (how do they think THAT is going to work?!
But practically the first thing she asked me was do I like to party, to which I answered, sometimes. She later mentioned that she was at a party and drunk. After that she mentioned her age. During the previous parts of the conversation, I had no idea she was under-age!
Anyway, I talked to my parents and one of my friends about it and they all said that under-age drinking is NOT something I want to get mixed up in. They advised me to save a copy of the conversation where she said that, and send her and email and say, "Hey, I didn't know you were under-age, and until you aren't, I'm not comfortable with you drinking at the apartment, cause I could get arrested if you do!" I also told her that if she wants to go to a party somewhere else and drink, that's up to her, I'm not her mom. I said that I want us both to be able to live in a comfortable environment, so I felt the need to say something. I also advised her that if she can't deal with that that she needs to say something and one of us needs to go to housing and ask for a reassignment. I've had enough bad roommates to not want to deal with it again.
Anyway, I sent that last night and she's been online but she hasn't responded yet. She hasn't given me a, "Yeah I'm ok with that," but she also hasn't given me a, "Who the hell do you think you are?!"
Mind you, I have a glass of wine or a coke and whiskey once in a while and I cook with alcohol, but because of the fact that I take a medicine everyday for migrains and it can't be mixed with alcohol, I don't generally drink. I also have more fun when I'm sober, but that's just me. I mean, if she was stuck at a party and everyone was too bombed out to drink, all she'd have to do is call and I would give her a ride home. But I'm not going to break the law for her and risk ruining my future. I mean, in WA state, just being upstairs while she's downstairs drinking can be enough for an arrest or a serious fine.
My other concern, which I didn't mention in the email is that our apartment is in with others that are split into groups, and our group is right next door to where the family groups are. Central has made it clear that they do not tolerate swearing, drinking, loud noises, loud music, loud parties, or drugs in and around those areas. They reserve the right to kick you out at the first offense. And our front yard looks right across to the family units' back yards so we are considered a family friendly area.
Anyway... (sigh) I can say that she's a MAJOR cat person, so it's not a total loss.