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Someone I know lost her husband a couple of days ago. They are not close to me in any way, however I know the lady somewhat and have talked to her on several occations. She is a very close friend of my SIL. The dh was only 39-40 yrs old or so, and we prayed for him a lot during a one year battle of leukemia. They have two very young kids, so it's very sad. They have been through so much, and we have followed along on their blog, so see how he was doing. They live right here in town.
I really feel I want to attend the funeral in one way or another, to show my support and also because I've been so involved with reading up on his situation. But since I am not close to them at all, I don't know what it appropriate and not. I have very little experience with funerals (thank God!). They will have two visitations tomorrow, the first one I will be able to go to if I go right in the beginning of it. Otherwise there is a "Celebration" of his life the day after, that I might also be able to attend. The problem I'm having is that I don't want to do anything offensive, like go to one that might be more for the very close family / friends. Also, I don't want to go to the beginning of the visitation if it should be reserved for the closest ones. But they did announce it to everybody, not giving an indication that one time is set aside for some and not others. So, would I be rude to come right at the beginning of the first visitation (I can't later)? Is that supposed to be mostly close family and friends? And what about the Memorial? Should I attend both, or just one?
I really feel I want to attend the funeral in one way or another, to show my support and also because I've been so involved with reading up on his situation. But since I am not close to them at all, I don't know what it appropriate and not. I have very little experience with funerals (thank God!). They will have two visitations tomorrow, the first one I will be able to go to if I go right in the beginning of it. Otherwise there is a "Celebration" of his life the day after, that I might also be able to attend. The problem I'm having is that I don't want to do anything offensive, like go to one that might be more for the very close family / friends. Also, I don't want to go to the beginning of the visitation if it should be reserved for the closest ones. But they did announce it to everybody, not giving an indication that one time is set aside for some and not others. So, would I be rude to come right at the beginning of the first visitation (I can't later)? Is that supposed to be mostly close family and friends? And what about the Memorial? Should I attend both, or just one?